Emotions can make us feel good and bad depending on the circumstances or how we find ourselves. Emotions are all necessary, to understand them better they are classified into positive or negative emotions. The main thing is that children understand that emotions are necessary and they are the ones that tell us if we are right or if we are wrong in certain situations.
When you learn to recognize and manage your emotions, you can find solutions to find your emotional balance again.
The importance of emotional control in people
To have good emotional control it is also necessary to learn other skills such as understanding and empathy, qualities that children with high emotional intelligence will master perfectly. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to effectively recognize feelings in oneself and in others, to properly express and regulate these feelings, and to use them effectively to guide one's thoughts and behavior toward a desired goal.
Parents need to be experts in these areas to help their children (and ourselves) interact with others more effectively, foster healthier and stronger social relationships and help children deal with emotionally difficult situations by thinking and behaving in ways that help lower stress levels and support your own mental health.
To achieve this, it is necessary to know some steps so that your children are emotionally intelligent and that they are able to manage and handle all kinds of emotions, both the most extreme joy and the greatest anger. How to get it? Do not lose detail.
Teach children emotional control
Teach your children to regulate emotions through actions
Children must learn the 'why' and the 'how' of things. This is better than just telling them what to do. In this sense, when you tell your child what to do and what you expect of him, You should also take into account explaining why you should do it and how you have to do it, Thus, in addition to understanding it, you will have the tools to change your behavior.
This provides them with concrete examples of what it means to regulate their emotions, so they are more likely to be able to apply it in real life situations. For example, if you are working on the computer, take a break when something is wrong, so your children will learn to do the same when they feel frustrated: they will take a break to reflect on what is happening to them and find the best solution to the specific situation. .
To be more explicit and for your child to understand it better through your example, you can say something like: "I'm getting a little angry because my brain doesn't have good ideas right now." I think I'll take a quick walk to calm down, and then I can try again later. " Remember that your example and your actions are the best teaching you can give your children, more even than just words.
Teaches you to seek support when you need it
It is important that you teach your children that it is okay for them to seek help and support when things make us uncomfortable or we cannot handle them well. This will also help them to be more adept at giving support and assistance. when other people in your close environment need it.
For example, one day you can ask your child for a hug and say something like: "Today I feel a little sad, can you give me a hug to make me feel better?" You can also give your children a hug when they are sad or angry to comfort them emotionally and make them feel better.
Another great idea to seek support and help from others is to teach children to solve problems together. You can tell it something like: "I feel sad now because the device I wanted is not in the store, what could I do to feel better?" This gives your child the opportunity to think of a creative idea and find a way to be better thanks to their help.
Teach your children to identify emotions
In order to identify emotions, you have to name them and also understand the complex relationships that they can have with the specific situations that we experience day after day. Instead of teaching emotions such as happiness, sadness, fear or anger, it is better help children understand these emotions and how they vary in intensity when mixed with other emotions (as when disappointment is felt when sadness and disappointment are combined).
This will help children to better identify the emotions in themselves and in others, and consequently, it will allow them to use more specific strategies to deal with these emotions.
Actions have cause and effect
Children need to be taught to identify when where some emotional control strategies may be effective and at other times they are not appropriate. For example, Going for a walk and not attending a class that they don't particularly like can get you in trouble. But you could plan to do something to put them in a good mood before then or do something nice after that class.
Interpersonal communication must be effective
In order to be successful in interpersonal relationships, whether in family or friends, it must be taken into account that there can always be conflicts in relationships. Children must have the necessary skills to have good interpersonal communication. Most of these skills are learned through observation, and as a parent, you can teach them by modeling good interpersonal relationships with others.
There are some effective interpersonal skills that you can do in your daily life and also teach your child by example:
- Have active listening skills in conversations
- Express your point of view assertively
- Have good empathy with others
- Listen to your own needs
- Participate in appropriate conflict resolution strategies to have acceptable results in disagreements without hurting other people