Boy stealing money from his parents
We should not exaggerate or dramatize if our child steals, but we must correct it so that it does not become abnormal and difficult to overcome behavior. Let's see what they are the reasons why a child steals and what measures should parents take in this situation.
The concept of property in children
From the 5 years acquires the concept of property. The child in early childhood is generally egocentric unaware of the property rights over things that belong to others. However, he has a highly developed sense of possession.
Likes to play with other children's toys, and sometimes tries to appropriate them. He still does not understand that they do not belong to him and that taking them is wrong. At this age it is not possible to speak of theft because they are not aware of it.
It is around five years when he begins to understand the concept of property and what it means to steal. From this age on, he must fully understand that he cannot take things that do not belong to him and, if the parents do so, they must be very clear and rigorous, let him know that he is stealing and that they disapprove of his behavior.
Causes why a child steals
The causes are very varied and each child does it for different reasons, let's see some of the most frequent causes:
- Act on impulseWhen he wants an object that does not belong to him, he is not able to control the impulse and ends up taking what he wants. This usually happens with other children's toys or when you go to a store.
- To be accepted by your friends. This is the case of children who steal because their friends do, they imitate this behavior so as not to be rejected.
- To get the attention of their parentsThey are usually children with emotional deficiencies.
- Sometimes it occurs because it is poorly controlled, you have an excess of misunderstood freedom that leads you to think that you can have everything you want.
- By aggressiveness, the objective of the theft is not the stolen object but to intimidate the owner or cause him some damage.
- As a sign of trouble emotional or behavioral.
What to do when a child steals?
The moment parents observe that their child steals, they must take measures to solve this behavior.
- It is important that parents explain that stealing cause harm to other people, depriving them of something that belongs to them and therefore is a reprehensible attitude.
- Children should be clear about the concept of ownership. Parents should make their child confront the fact immediately by having him return the stolen item to its owner, be it a friend or a business.
- Show him that they disapprove of his conduct, getting angry with him and making him understand that this behavior is not correct, and that he must correct it.
- Not be offensive with the child, avoiding accusing him of a "thief."
- If the thefts occur in the context of a group or gang, we must persuade the child to leave the group and in any case talk to the parents of the other children to tackle the problem together.
- If the tendency to steal persists and becomes common, parents should consult a child psychologist.
Praise honest behavior
If we observe that controls the urge to pick up objects that do not belong to you, it is very important to praise that behavior, because in this way we will be helping to modify the behavior of stealing. Similarly, to reinforce this behavior, we must let him know how proud we are of his behavior.
To encourage honest behavior in him, we must not avoid the situations in which he is used to stealing. Thus, for example, if a child has previously taken money or anything else from his family, we should not hide it but act naturally and make him face temptation, as long as we are observing a positive change in his tendency towards theft. . As the child demonstrates his honesty, we must recognize and praise your change in attitude.
Hello, I am very grateful for the information you offer to parents who, like me, are desperate in search of solutions to our children's problems, my daughter is 11 years old and constantly steals from me despite talks and punishments, others do not like it study, I'm going to put your advice into practice and then I'll tell you about it. Do not stop helping us we need you Thank you!
I think this is all very good because parents can learn from it how to care for, protect and save from a danger such as theft
Hello, I have an 8-year-old boy who has taken money more than once. I have spoken punished by removing his collation and I have even hit him but he does it again, I don't know what to do.
I have a 7-year-old son, who has stolen money more than 2 times, the first time that I realized it, I punished him without giving him money for a week, I talked to him that it was very wrong, and I thought he had I learned the lesson, but today I found him again money that was not his, he lied to me again and it bothered me so much that I gave him two manasos, I know I did not do well, but I am very concerned with punishing him and talking to He didn't work at all, what should I do?
I need someone to help me, I have 3 children the youngest of 10 years old stays in the morning with a neighbor who takes care of him until 13:00 p.m. that he goes to school, she stole 3.000 pesos and I don't know what to do how to punish him I don't know, please, I need urgent help
Hello, I have a 10-year-old son and I try to educate him as well as possible, however today I take money that was for a payment for his mobility and I spend it without caring that that money was intended for something else, and he told me about it with a tranquility that I do not understand if you do not realize how serious it is to take money that does not belong to you or you really do not know that it is wrong It is the first time that you do it and I react badly, what should I do so that you do not repeat
Hello, I have a 7-year-old girl who always steals money from me, tells many lies, does not want to eat food, only sweets and does not want to study what I do please help me please
Hello, my husband has a 7-year-old daughter and he came to spend vacations with us and had a great acceptance from there but I realized that he has taken money and some jewelry but it has been in a matter of minutes, when I ask him about that he did it, he denies me everything and gets angry and blames people who are not there
What can we do so that this does not happen again with the girl, we do not know how to punish her
Hello everybody! I am quite distressed because my 10 year old girl likes to steal objects, from time to time she steals money, but most of the time they are insignificant things like insignificant toys, notebooks, small notebooks and when she has stolen money the most she has stolen are 10 pesos. She immediately regrets it and it does not take two days when she tells me bathed in tears and promises me that she will not do it again, she looks like a cupcake and I know she is sincere but as soon as the opportunity presents itself, she does it again and again. It's the same thing, she confesses it to me crying and has even told me to hit her to see if that way she gets out of the habit and learns the lesson but I don't dare to hit her, so I don't know what to do because she knows what is wrong without However, he continues to do it but I know that he regrets and suffers for his behavior, someone please help me, what do I do?
It seems a terribly tragic horror for us parents and I am quite surprised to find that the case is quite common, I have a child who, turning 11 years old, took money from a neighbor, out of shame and fear of harming him I dropped it, but my dad and I talked to him (I have been divorced for many years) it was a total drama, because he has never lacked anything, much less has the example. In November he turns 12 years old and this time he was taking the money out of his savings pig, there were + than S / 150 in S / 20 bills, very apart from the coins (which cannot be taken out) great was the pain of knowing it repeat offender, I am turning my head and I don't know what punishment to give him and how to solve the matter, if you can give me an answer, I will thank you infinitely. Thanks!
I have a 15-year-old son and he constantly grabs money that is not his ,,, he has already done it with my mother's money and with my money ,,, I am very scared .. I would like some advice or you definitely have to take him to the psychologist.
Hello, I am 10 years old and I have a friend named Karla and she is a year older than me and I realized that Karla Rova because when we invited her to my house things disappeared and one day when I went to her house there were my things that I do If I take my things from him and when I put them in my bag, he takes them off again and if I tell his mother it could damage our friendship and I don't know what to do, please help me.
Now I am going through this situation with my 8-year-old daughter, the first times I spoke with her and that she did not do it anymore because they were only small amounts to buy things at school because she no longer wants to carry lunch she wants to buy in the store, but of course He handles well the concept of money and much less to wait for change, I did not give him money but I know that I am partly to blame because even if they were small amounts I should have paid the same attention as now, since I recently took 10 dollars from my bag and after so much ask her, we realized from the teacher that she had brought the money to school and spent part of it, the truth is I made her an energetic letter which she pasted on her how and that she has to read every day, it indicates a series of prohibitions that he will maintain for 30 days and that depending on his behavior and evolution in those days at the end it will be evaluated and it will be seen if the punishments are maintained or if he recovers his privileges and of course I gave him withthe rule in hand so that he does not do it again, then I will tell you how it went at the end of the punishment period.
Hi, I'm really desperate. My 2 children once stole money from me. Now the oldest is 17 years old and he keeps taking me out. Now I found out that he has 3000 pesos and is wanting to buy a car. I asked him a thousand times and he lies to me saying that I save it when I know it is impossible. I also have a business and I found out that it also produces products from there. What should I do? Now I am pregnant almost about to have and I do not want to make problems but this distresses me a lot since I know that I raised them for this. I have a lot of pain and a lot of anger.
I appreciate your help …… ..My 14-year-old son took a video game from a neighbor, he was confronted by several friends of the neighbor saying to return it and he refused saying that he did not have it, they looked for witnesses to whom he was selling it, and he kept refusing until it occurred to us to register the game console and verify all the games that had been registered, finding ourselves with the terrible reality !!! that he had actually played it recently .. (he claimed that the neighbor was denigrating him a lot on the street and in the group, so he wanted to take revenge on the neighbor, making him feel bad) …… WHAT SHOULD I DO… so much that I defended him that I am HIGHLY SHAMED ... I told him that he would face the consequences and hand over what was stolen ... but at the same time I am afraid of the reprisals of the neighbor's group of friends since they are also misbehaving. please guide me… should I sell you the game console?
I think my son is taking money, lately he has told me that he finds it on the street and, curiously, he finds it when he is alone and wants a toy. Please I need some advice, I have already discussed this situation with him and the answer itself. For your attention thanks.
Hello, today at the door of my 10-year-old son's school, a mother called me to tell me that my son is the 2nd time he has taken $ 100 for recess. She told me that she gave her son some money and then a week I claim it from him, because he did not have to return it, my son accused him with the teacher saying that his classmate stole from him, when I talk to my son he always tells me the same thing (that the kiosk, who is a friend, or a classmate gives soda or candy) cries and swears that he does not steal and that he knows that this is very wrong and that he would never do it. I no longer know what to do and how to take the situation.
My 8-year-old son is doing the same thing, taking money from me or taking it from different parts of the house where I left some coins, but now I am very worried because I found a lot of money in his backpack, including bills, before I had not worried because it was little and I did talk to him, but now I really feel helpless since it's just him and me, and I don't know what to do, hopefully you can give me some advice
I have a 10-year-old daughter who has stolen small things since she was 7 years old, she has taken little things like toys, but lately she stole a $ 10,00 piggy bank and once she stole a cell phone and I am scared because I steal bigger things every time. Today I realized it and I scolded her hard but I did not punish her, although if I am going to discipline her, help me, what can I do so that she does not repeat it again.
When I was a child I once stole from my mother, I think there is no child who does not do it or tries, but I only did it once because my mother threatened to burn my hands on the comal, of course she did not but I get scared that I never did it again, and believe me I am not traumatized. If I came here it was for my stepdaughter but you who are her children correct them as they should !!!
Hello, I think the mothers who are going through this will give you some advice: 1. When money is taken from their purse or from somewhere, put a hidden camera or check their children's room about 2 times a week and if they find, say, $ 10, make them pay and punish them with the proper measures and hit it because they deserve it
Holy God is more common than one as a father can believe, we are a family nucleus of 4 people, father, mother, 24-year-old brother and the little 7-year-old who is the one who steals from us, we do not understand why he does it if we Dad especially likes what he asks for, we don't trust him I am so sorry to see money being lost in the house and they immediately accuse the child. The cruellest thing is that I tell him autonomously and I tell him daddy why did he take that money, that is not yours, my love, give me back the money and he keeps quiet, he touches the house and finds the money under the child's bed, it is repetitive We have already found it red-handed as they say, as parents we are very concerned about this behavior. Seeing the statement on this page, I don't know if I can get him to stop this bad habit. thanks for the advice.
In our home it is also the case that our two male children, 9 and 6 years old, steal, but the thing is that we, their parents, have also stolen forever, so we cannot reproach them for anything. On the contrary, they should be congratulated whenever they do it well and profitably.
Hello, I have a 9-year-old boy, an excellent child and a good student, but this year he has stolen from me 2 times and when I face him he tells me a lie, I don't know what to do, I don't want to hit him or punish him incorrectly, I need help.
Hello, I have a 9-year-old boy, an excellent child and a good student, affectionate and loved by everyone, but this year he has stolen from me 2 times and when I face him he tells me lies, I don't know what to do I'm afraid of punishing him incorrectly, please I need help.
Hello, I suffered a similar case with my 6-year-old daughter, I realized when I picked her up from the gym, and I saw that she had a washcloth that was not hers and she lied to me saying that she had taken it from her grandmother's house, but also A small stuffed doll and he told me that it appeared in his backpack, so I told him someone had the wrong backpack because they are all the same, I asked him to return it to the teacher, then at home I talked to her; But days later we went to eat at a place and we stopped at the table and she was late and grabbed the money that we had left for the waiter; When we got home I made him confess because I realized it, and he told me that he takes it because he wants to; I don't understand she has everything, obviously we punished her etc, and you gave her my husband spanked her, that has been a few days old, and we have put tests on her and I have not done it but we fear that it will happen again, what else can I do or will I need a psychologist ?