Many children grow up in environments where respect is conspicuous by its absence, where adults talk to each other in bad ways. Children are those little eyes that see everything and learn everything, even if adults do not realize it. It is for this main reason that adults should pay attention to how their behavior is and also, know how to guide the little ones in their growth so that they become respectful people.
Respect
Unfortunately, in today's world we don't expect everyone to respect everyone. It seems that rudeness has become normal in some places, and this is intolerable no matter where you look.
The good news is that we can teach children this critical value, and in doing so, we will end up teaching crucial lessons about kindness, thoughtfulness, honesty, open-mindedness, and gratitude. The most effective way to teach children to be respectful is to model them from home. Parents will always be the best examples for children to follow.
Demand good manners
Acting in a polite manner is not simply a formality, it is a social obligation. When children say 'thank you' after something is given to them, they recognize that there is a mutual exchange, a give and take. With this, the children realize that things are not received without anything in return.
Even younger children can learn to say 'please' and 'thank you', while preschoolers must look people in the eye when they greet them and say 'hello' and 'goodbye'. Parents should be prepared to be able to give these reminders to their children each day. Children have a limited memory so, they need a lot of repetition to be able to learn this over time, so that later, it comes out naturally.
When you want your child to behave well in a certain place, such as a doctor's waiting room, you need to tell them before you go what is expected of them in these places. They don't know it and their nature is to play and have fun. If you need him to behave well, then it is important that you explain what he should do at any given time. It will also be important to explain in advance what the negative consequences will be in the event of inappropriate behavior and the positive consequences if it is correct all the time.
When children are reinforced with praise and explaining why good role models are important, they will perform better.
Do not tolerate rudeness
Unbearable behavior and flashbacks are so common these days that it can be easy to just ignore the behavior when your kids swear at each other or when your daughter throws a tantrum after announcing that TV time is up. But a child who is allowed to talk in this way with his family may come to believe that it is also okay to criticize other people. so it is vital that parents respond to the behavior immediately.
Make it clear that no matter how upset they may be, it is never acceptable to lash out at another person. Then help him express himself by making 'I feel' statements instead of pointing fingers at 'you' messages blaming his emotions on others. You can ask him questions to put his feelings into words. By giving your child a positive way to express his emotions, you let him know that while it is natural to feel angry or frustrated from time to time, that does not mean that he can hurt others. You need to understand emotion to know what it tells us and find a way to feel better.
Young children are still mastering impulse control and learning to understand their own emotionals, so don't be surprised if you need a lot of patience for your child to control his temper. Part of teaching respect is teaching children that when we make mistakes, we say what we feel, it shows that you care enough for the person you have disrespected and that you are responsible for your own mistakes. In this sense, if you ever do something that bothers your children, you should calmly apologize.
Teach listening skills for respect
By giving someone your time and attention, you let them know that you value them. Time is not paid for with money because once it passes, it never comes back. Time is the greatest treasure that people have.
Giving away time is one of the most fundamental ways to show respect. The first step to being a good listener: eliminate distractions and make eye contact. So teach your child to put down the control of the console and focus on you when you are talking to him. For the same reason, you will have to make sure to look up from your phone when your child has something to say to you.
You can further educate him on what it takes to be a polite conversationalist, without interrupting, by waiting for his turn to speak, through role play. Start with what not to do (interrupt or look away when they are talking to you). Then you can address the things they should do (wait until one person is done speaking to comment, follow up on what the other person just said with a question) and notice the difference.
Set rules and limits
Limit setting teaches children that the world does not revolve around them. only: they also have to consider others with their actions. Also, if they can't follow the rules at home, they won't be able to do it elsewhere. By allowing them to do whatever they want, without consequences, you are raising them to be failures in the future. Therefore, it is important to instill a respect for authority in the little ones, starting at home.
To respect the house rules, your children must know exactly what they are, so you should explain them and also put them written in a place where they can be seen well. You will also need to explain why rules are important in the homes of all families. Your child may not immediately understand the connection between respecting the rules and respecting the people who set them, but little by little they will understand. The consequences of not complying with them should also be very clear in the rules.