When a couple marries they do not think that in the future they may divorce, that does not enter into their plans. But life can take many turns and divorce can be another part of people's lives. A couple who loved each other in the past and had children as a result of that love, may realize that love is not the same and prefer to separate or divorce.
It can also happen that there are couple problems that cannot be solved and that the best way to be all happy and try to find harmony in life is by divorcing and making life again. But when there are children who are the fruit of that relationship, they have an even worse time in divorces, because they do not understand why their emotional stability should be affected in this way. It is important to know how to help them cope with this process so that it does not lead to emotional problems. Don't miss the following tips.
- Make it clear to children that they are loved by both parties. This will make them feel loved and calm. A divorce does not mean that either parent stops loving their children, far from it.
- Encourage children to have good communication with your ex.
- Never use them as messengers between parents.
- Have flexibility in visiting hours.
- Never argue in front of children. A divorce is not a fight.
- Don't explain the details of the divorce to them. They do not need to know, they only need to know that you will no longer live together but that you will continue to be their parents, that they are loved forever by both parties.
- Do not create tensions.
- Allow your children to express their feelings about the situation and to name their emotions.