If there is something that as mothers we wish for our children, it is for them to be happy. We don't care if they're rich, famous, or hitting six feet and having incredible social success in high school or college. We wish above all educate them in those essential values that allow them to fend for themselves, and be good people tomorrow.
Now, if there is something we must be clear about, it is that the best education is offered by always being the best exampleHence, we must rethink our own value system very well. There are fathers and mothers, e.g., who emphasize in their children the importance of respecting others, and yet, they themselves do not carry it out on a daily basis. We must be attentive to these small aspects. In "Madres hoy» we explain it to you.
Values that I want to transmit to my children: the importance of being different
This is an aspect that we should reflect on. Sometimes, we strive so that our children are the same as others, in that they have the same things, in that they acquire the same competencies as the rest and that, in some way, they fall within what is considered "normal".
This idea at an educational level many times it means giving the world equal children who think alike. Or even more, if our child has a problem or a small deficiency, it will make him or her not feel integrated by not considering himself "equal to the rest."
- We must empower our children the importance of making them feel good whatever they are. We will help them to get the most of themselves, but also teaching them the importance of being "unique", "special".
- One of the most important values that we must promote in our children is critical thinking. Allow you to have your own ideas and not the rest. That they be autonomous when looking for information, of having their own opinion about things and not those that others mark them.
- Children should not assume and accept what the rest of society tells them just like that. Teach them to understand that they have a voice, and that they have the right to be unique, to offer new things to the world and to themselves.
The value of effort
As mothers we wish all the best for our children, and without a doubt, we will strive to make their life easier, happy and as harmonious as possible.
Now to make life easy for them It is not at odds with teaching them that to achieve something, they must also invest their own effort.
Children must learn as soon as possible the value of effort to be independent, to feel useful with themselves and able to achieve what they want.
The value of independence, of being owners of their own lives
Life is not in the hands of a destiny that governs our daily lives based on luck or chance. We are not souls that others guide here and there at will. It is not worth being a submissive person either or dominated by others.
As a mother, you surely want your child to achieve the dreams that he or she sets for himself. Those that they have marked and that are consistent with their personalities and capabilities. Nobody has the right to frustrate his steps or trip up their attempts.
Our children, they must learn every day to have their own voice, to express what they want while respecting others. Little by little they will gain their own independence seeing what they are capable of.
If we give them wings, if we convince them that they have the right to fight for their dreams through effort and illusion, we will be educating people who will learn to be masters of their own lives.
The value of enjoying nature
Our children are the heirs of the Earth and this planet that needs everyone's effort to move forward. Educating children in the value of respect and love for nature is investing in the future.
- Teach your children to love animals, to understand them, to respect them, to develop an adequate empathy towards all living beings.
- It encourages weekly excursions to the countryside, the forest, the beach ... It allows you to enjoy running, climbing the trees or playing with the stones that the sea brings with the tides. Let him get in touch with nature and love it.
- A child who respects and loves animals and nature will tomorrow be a more sensitive person, while being aware of the importance of caring for our planet.
The courage to laugh at yourself, and with others
A sense of humor enriches life and it is a reflection of intelligence. Something as simple as joking, or laughing at oneself, relativizes problems and helps us release many tensions.
It is important for children to learn that laughter it is the best mode of communication between people. It helps us communicate positive emotions and strengthen bonds.
Now, we will never use laughter as a form of attack, or contempt towards others. It is important that we think about this aspect, because sometimes we ourselves can fall into contradictions when we make fun of someone almost without realizing it.
If we do, we will no longer be a good example.
The value of doing things with passion, with enthusiasm
It is recommended that let us enhance in our children their passion for some area. It may be music, drawing, cars, animals, computers ... They should be the ones to choose what identifies them, what excites them and what they are passionate about.
- Have a childhood passion or hobby, determines our adult projects.
- A child who receives stimuli, incentives and whose curiosity is opened day by day, will find what he likes and that awakens his hobby.
- Have a hobby since childhood, mark projects and objectives in the day to day of our children. It allows them to be more responsible, more mature and have their own initiative.
The simple fact of having illusions in which to identify and having one or more passions is one of the best values that we can pass on to our children.
It will help them understand, for example, that life is more than obligations, having to study, having to do homework and obey mom or dad. A hobby is personal freedom and a path of creation, where they can be themselves and feel useful, different and special.
As you can see, these series of purposes are very basic and essential, they are aspects that all of us would like to instill in our children. However How to get these values instilled in them? Don't worry, it's not about being the perfect mother or reading dozens of psychopedagogy manuals.
It's about being there at all times, instilling support and trust. It's about being the best example and acting as the best motivator in the world: a mother who knows her son and who gives him strength every day to learn to be happy.