Sometimes dealing with children's tantrums is difficult. And it is that nobody tells us how to educate our children, we do the best we can. But on many occasions we do not know what to do in a situation and how to face a conflict with our children. Let's start from the easiest, what basic mistakes we should not make.
Desde nuestra perspectiva de madres, queremos proteger a nuestros hijos. Y muchas veces pensamos que una forma de protegerlos es avisarles de que van a cometer un error y querer evitarlo. En Madres Hoy te explicamos porqué los hijos deben de comer errores.
As mothers we want all the best for our children. In the last decades the family model has changed, despite the crisis we invested more money in the education of our children than before. The vast majority of mothers and fathers think that the higher their children's education range, the higher their social status.
And it is that we play an important role in the aptitudes, values and competences that our children have, that is why we worry so much and it generates so many insecurities and anguish. But, Don't you think they should learn by themselves to make mistakes and rectify?
The positive side of children making mistakes
Specialists in psychology and pedagogy explain that if we mothers and fathers modify the expectations we have of our children, this will help us avoid circumstances of pressure and anguish, both for parents and children. Let me explain, if instead of considering doing everything right, we can consider not doing it wrong, and avoid those mistakes that may be more destructive and harmful to educate our children. It is good that they make mistakes because:
- They have to learn to recognize your mistakes. Because you can warn him but there is nothing like your own experience to know how to identify when you have made a mistake.
- They will know the frustration. You may think it's crazy but through frustration it's like we learn to manage our emotions.
- They will learn to find solutions. The fact of seeing that how they have done it has not worked will motivate them to look for other alternatives. They will be more decisive people. Whereas if you "save" him from making mistakes, they will accommodate someone who will always come to solve the problems. Right now they are small and it may seem appropriate to you, the problem is that your little ones will one day be adults and will have to find their own solutions and will not know how to do it because they have never seen the need to do it.
- They will feel more loved. Yes, as strange as it may seem to you, letting them find their own path and not being the one who continually marks it will make them see you as a support and they will feel more loved.
This last point is important. You have to be their guide, their support, not the one who makes decisions for them. And even if you see or think that they are going to make the mistake, do not blame them, just keep giving them support, earn their trust ... Because the day something bad really happens to them, they will fully trust you. I hope you liked this post.