We have talked on several occasions about how you can handle tantrums, giving you tips to control them. However, it is important to understand why tantrums occur when it comes to knowing how to deal with them.
This is the best way to help our children to achieve good development and facilitate learning about managing their emotions.
What is a tantrum?
A tantrum it's an explosion of emotions, which can lead to kicking, aggressiveness or crying. In them the child expresses his anger and opposition to some stimulus he has received. He is stubborn, defiant and angry and negative, the kind of behavior no parent is willing to tolerate, much less if it occurs in public. However it is vitally important that no retaliation is taken about a tantrum, as it could cause confusion and damage your self-esteem.
Sometimes it is very difficult to handle a tantrum, it can occur in the wrong place and time.
Our children are learning about the world around them. Tantrums occur from the 18 months, when the child begins to manage all the information he receives and tries to express his own reaction to the stimuli, facing the communicative limits, typical of his age. This is why you should know that if your child has tantrums, it is that he is developing his cognitive system correctly. They are normal up to 4 years of age.
Why do they occur?
As we have already said, tantrums show us a good development of our child's cognitive system. It is at this age when begins to desire their own autonomy and independence. This, in contrast to the discovery of their own limitations, generates frustration and they must learn to manage it little by little.
Tantrums occur as a result of this frustration that they are not yet able to handle on their own. It is the way they have to express themselves, and that is an essential social skill, the ability to express yourself.
Why are they necessary?
These are an indication of the good development of our son. Behind this infuriating behavior is the reality of the child's personal growth. He has to develop as an independent person and learn to express himself, overcoming his linguistic limitations and controlling his behavior, little by little.
It is important that parents understand that tantrums are an important and necessary part of the growth process of our children.. This will give us the necessary patience to handle them in a respectful way. Fundamentally, the really basic thing is that the child is treated in a calm, respectful way, so that he can learn to manage his frustration, channel it and find other ways of expression, in a gradual and constant way.