Many women who became mothers will agree to accept that when a woman becomes a mother there is a before and after in their lives. Pregnancy is not a bed of roses and they can actually even generate anxiety in some pregnant women due to the continuous discomfort that they can suffer. Babies have years but mothers also celebrate anniversaries of being mothers together with their children.
Time flies by and the being that was in your womb becomes a baby and without even realizing it will be a small child, a child, a teenager ... And time passes without stopping. Before the year of your children you will probably feel tired, exhausted, disoriented and even at times, you will feel that your whole life is in chaos. But is normal. Your child needs to be by your side and you will feel proud of knowing how to move forward, every day.
A woman who has not yet been a mother may not understand all the emotions that are experienced as a mother, even if she tries to imagine it. Life changes suddenly when the baby arrives, be it the first, the second or the third. Life takes a 180º turn. A baby changes everything and it is necessary that both a father and a mother know how a baby can change his priorities, the vision of life and the world in general. Motherhood also changes you, it makes you be a different person.
But if you have not been a mother yet, if you are pregnant or if you plan to be, the time has come when you know the truth of what motherhood means. While it is true that it is the most wonderful thing that can happen to you in life, there are also other less attractive parts that you should know so that later, you will not be caught by surprise.
Things you should know before becoming a mother
Your body will be different
For almost 10 months, a human being will grow inside you. So when time passes you either bring it into the world in natural birth or through a cesarean section. When you return home from having brought your child into the world, your body will not be the same as it was before you became pregnant. Do not pay attention to the magazines that show celebrities who have just given birth like nothing. Those women have 24 hour personal trainers and dietitians for them. In addition to having babysitters that allow them to have free time and get a good night's sleep. This reality does not exist in the rest of the women and mothers of the world.
Don't be ashamed of your body. Thanks to him, you have been able to bring into the world a wonderful being: your son. There will be time to take care of yourself, now you need to enjoy your baby and above all, respect the time to recover from pregnancy, delivery or cesarean section.
Ask for help whenever you need it
Women and mothers think that if they are exhausted or exhausted, it is normal and they have to put up with it. But it's not like that. If you feel tired or exhausted ask for help whenever you need it and I feel guilty for doing it. Talk to your partner, your friends, your parents, siblings, caregivers, or your doctor. Ask for help from who you need to do it. You are not alone in motherhood, you do not have to do everything yourself and less when you lack the strength to achieve it. Taking care of yourself and being well should also be a priority.
Your relationship will be different
This is unavoidable. Having a baby will bring a small imbalance in the couple's relationship. The way your partner does things may not be what you expect, or you may feel like you do everything and your partner does nothing. You may feel jealous because your partner sleeps more than you and is more rested the next day. Also sexual relations will be harmed, especially in quarantine when there will be no sex until you recover.
You will get angry because your partner can not breastfeed, you will want him to understand your emotional imbalance even if he does not, nobody understands your anxiety and that bothers you. It is normal. But you will have to accept that you are different and that what matters is to go the same way. If you need more help or support from your partner you will have to ask for it, do not worry, it is a path that you must do together.
Don't obsess over the dream
If you become obsessed with not getting enough sleep at night, there will come a time when you feel even more tired than you might actually be. It is true that you will be tired, that you will lack energy but if you obsess that you hardly sleep, it will be even worse. But there will come a time when you will realize that sleeping 4 hours in a row will be totally replenishing for you and you will wake up without noticing every movement of your baby ... You may not have woken up to loud noises before, but your baby's movements will wake you up quickly.
When your baby begins to sleep more hours in a row after four months, it will make you feel renewed, and when he sleeps through the night it will be like the best thing in the world for you. But in the meantime, don't worry. Take naps when you can and take turns with your partner whenever you can. It is temporary, you will be able to sleep through the night from time to time again… Although when you are a mother, you will never sleep the same as before. It is unavoidable.
Don't be hard on yourself
Do not criticize yourself, or compare yourself, or compare your baby, do not feel bad if you want to feed your baby with formula milk because you do not want or can give breastfeeding, do not search for everything online, better ask your doctor your doubts of health, avoid reading tragic news because although they exist they do not have to happen to you and if you read them they will make you feel very sad, have time for yourself and do not want to burden yourself too much when you must rest. Look for alternatives and find what works best for you and your family.