Being a mother or father is not easy, in addition to the tasks of raising and educating children, there are many other obligations that as an adult never leave you. And on many occasions, it is easy to get carried away by stress and pour all that fatigue onto children. in the form of bad words and inappropriate answers. Many of these phrases are used on a regular basis, so they end up being normalized.

But what for an adult is something normal and without too much importance, for a child, receiving certain words from the people who love him the most, can make you insecure, anxious, or embarrassed, among many other negative feelings. Because it is not necessary to say a bad word or an insult to make a sentence painful, we are going to review the phrases that you should never say to your children.

1. «Don't cry anymore»

Crying is a natural method of expression, either to express anger, pain, frustration, or to show joy or emotion. For many people, crying is a sign of weakness and they express it this way to their children. Phrases like "crying is for babies" or "only girls cry" are still heard in many homes today. Even if it is a cliché and is not used in a pejorative way, the message is there and it has an effect on the child.

All people cry and it is normal, as well as a very effective relief method. If your child cries, take a moment to think about why. Instead of belittling his feeling, try to soothe him lovingly and then talk to your child to try to find out what is wrong.

2. "It was nothing"

Your son falls and you quickly tell him "it was nothing" and send him quickly to play again. You tend to think that it is better not to give it importanceThus the child will not give it to him and will continue with his life. But sometimes something has happened, he has been able to hurt himself, he has been scared and he has felt unprotected. Without falling into exaggeration, or giving it extreme importance, approach your child and ask him, are you okay? Have you hurt yourself?

And so, your little one will feel protected and he will notice that you care what happens to him.

3. "As you continue like this, I tell Dad."

Or to mom, as the case may be. This is a phrase that has been used for many years to try to intimidate children. But the only thing you get with this is that your child understands that a parent has no authority. Therefore, if the authoritarian father is not there, the child feels that he does not have to respect the other.

4. "That child / person is stupid"

Sometimes we forget that we talk to children and it is very easy to express our feelings in any way, without thinking about the message we are transmitting. When a child does something bad to your child, a person on the street does something you do not like, or the driver next door makes a wrong maneuver, you may be tempted to say that that child, or that person, it's silly, or any other insult.

In this way, your son learn to insult other people, when they do something that is not right for him.

5. "Why aren't you like your friend?"

It is also very common to compare children with others who do something that in our eyes is better. Look at your friend how well he eats, how well he plays football, how obedient he is, etc. Comparisons only serve to enhance complexes, your child will think that he is inferior than his friend and even stop wanting to relate to him. Instead, use positive reinforcement about your child's strengths.

In this way, he will do more to improve other aspects to receive that congratulation from you. If you make him think that everything is wrong, will never strive to improve because he will think that no matter how he does it, you will never be satisfied.