When you are pregnant and your condition begins to be evident, you begin to receive advice and comments from many people. They often tell you to sleep a lot, in anticipation of what is to come.
Surely they have explained several births to you, because we people have the habit of comparing ourselves. Maybe this has you a little scared, the time of delivery. Although it is best not to think about it too much, because overall, the baby has to come out anyway.
Someone will have mentioned with more or less tact, that you do not worry about the extra kilos, that this is happening. So what if you are going to breastfeed, you lose them much faster. And that may have made you think of something that you weren't thinking about.
Because you believe that when you have your baby, you will spend your time taking long walks in the sun with your newborn. You imagine yourself with your cart, walking through the park and recovering your body and your life almost effortlessly.
When the last weeks come, you are preparing the baby's room, all your clothes washed and placed in their place. Lots of baby wipes and diapers of various sizes. And the bag for the hospital, that is sure if you have thought a lot.
And suddenly the day of giving birth comes and you meet the love of your life. The days in the hospital are hard, because you cannot move at ease, you do not have the privacy of your bathroom, nor the comforts of your home.
You are looking forward to returning home and starting your new family life. But surely, no one has warned you of what is to come. We women imagine that it will be a few days to get used to it, but it really is more than that.
Suddenly you meet your child who depends exclusively on you, because let's face it, the dad who is wanting to raise his baby, has to wait in the background, since during the first weeks especially, the baby only finds calm in his mother's arms.
Quarantine begins
It's called quarantine because, it's supposed to is the time it takes a woman to physically recover. And I say it is supposed because experience shows us that it is an unrealistic data. Recovery after delivery is not limited to healing from a cesarean section or an episiotomy.
After childbirth, in the body of a woman a series of hormonal disorders occur, everything that changed during pregnancy returns to normal.
You may find yourself overwhelmed for a while. Because it is very difficult to rebuild life after childbirth. You have to fight your emotions. Maybe at some point you feel that you are not capable.
You feel exhausted from lack of sleep. You have back pain, because your baby just wants to be in your arms. You feel frustrated for not being able to take care of your house and you see how every day it looks less collected and more disorderly. You don't have time to take a shower because your baby claims you all the time.
You live a constant roller coaster of feelings, most of the time you feel an inordinate love for your baby. But there are certain times when you think you can't handle everything. Maybe you cry a lot, from happiness, from anxiety, from fatigue. Crying is a way to release tension.
O you may not feel any of this, and your postpartum will be wonderful and just feel happiness. That would be the dream for all mothers, but the feelings are uncontrollable. You cannot control your happiness the same as you cannot control sadness.
And in this case it is an inexplicable sadness, which can only be understood by someone who has been through the same thing. Be very careful with these feelings, do not put them aside. They are surely passengers.
But they may not be, and all that anxiety and frustration turns into postpartum depression. Do not underestimate your feelings, Quarantine is a period of adaptation, but don't get hung up on time.
Each person, each baby and each family is a world. Don't hesitate to ask for help, you don't have to go through this alone.