If you are a mother, surely on many occasions (not to say every day), you have complained about not having time for yourself. When the children arrive, personal time does not take a back seat, it literally disappears from the plane. What mother has time to lie down for a while to rest, read a book before going to sleep, go out to play sports?
The absence of personal time emotionally affects many mothers, who suffer the loss of personal identity, at least during the first years of the children's lives. Time flies every day between diapers, lullabies and all the care that children require. If personal time is in short supply, leisure time is definitely non-existent.
This same feeling is shared by mothers around the world, even a term has been created that defines it perfectly. MONPET, stands for MOther with NO Personal Time, which translated into Spanish means "mother without personal time."
Mother without personal time
Currently, few women dedicate themselves exclusively to the care of children and the home. Today, women have work goals, personal ambitions, to go out and see the world, in short, women want to live beyond the four walls of the home. For this reason, many women return to work after sick leave for maternity.
But having time to work outside the home, also running the home and the responsibility of caring for and raising children, means in most cases giving up personal time. Because if you want to have a minute to yourself, you have to leave something else aside, and that is practically impossible.
Although men are increasingly involved in childcare and household chores, the truth is that in most cases do not take primary responsibility for these tasks. And it is not a simple question of machismo, it is a much deeper issue based on education.
To conquer personal time
It is very common among women to have the ingrained feeling that they are responsible for the home. The feeling that if you don't take care of yourself, things won't get done right. And this only causes the woman is burdened with work and responsibilities. But looking for that time and conquering your own space is a personal task that every mother must work on.
Delegation is the key, delegate in childcare, household chores, cooking, work, and all non-personal areas. It is necessary to delegate to be able to release your bag of responsibilities, this is the only way to scratch each day for a few minutes and turn it into your personal time.
Many women feel a certain envy when they see their partner lying down watching television, they even go so far as feel angry when he sees that he has free time, when they don't even have time to take a bath. This is a simple matter of looking for the moment, men have the ability to find free moments easily. For them, the house is always perfect, the food can wait and the children can play a while longer.
They have the ability to get rid of stress and not suffer from not having everything up to date, all perfect. Given this, women punish such behavior, but that is not the way.
Search and find your free time
This is an individual task, every woman has to find her personal time. Organization, planning, delegating and forget about perfection. Find the time for yourself every day, scratch the clock for a few minutes to take a bath, a time to do nothing. But yes, when you find it, do not feel guilty thinking about everything you could be doing.
You deserve to have some time to yourself to do what you want or to do nothing. Your body, your physical and mental health depend on it and in addition, you will be able to live a happy motherhood.