Sometimes it happens that two adults take the step of living together adding more members to a single family. There appear those who will be stepbrothers and it is true that there do not always have to be problems on that side, but on other occasions getting along when everyone has an established life or customs is not always what happens.
Sure always There are a series of steps that we can follow so that this coexistence, between what were two families, is now only one and in harmony. It is also not surprising that while siblings no longer always get along quite well, stepbrothers also have their differences. Today we are going to try to make them the least possible!
Adults will have to talk and organize discipline
The first step must be taken by the couple because logically each of their children is used to a series of rules. Hence, things cannot change overnight. What one of the parts of the couple should do is support what the other says to their children and not face thoughts. The changes always have to be gradual and previously discussed by both. In front of minors, no imposing phrases should be heard either from one side or the other. Now the authority will be shared and this has to be done little by little, so that it does not pose a problem in the family nucleus.
Choose to create games between all the siblings
From the first moment yes, a rapprochement between the brothers should be tried. Hence, although depending on the ages, you always have to try to break the ice through games. As you know, we have the most varied, from tabletop to computer. But be careful, because it is not a competition, just a fun time to be able to have everyone entertained and get to know each other a little more. If that doesn't work, you can always go for a movie session, choosing similar themes or opting for sports. Similar tastes are sure to be found in all disciplines.
Your personal spaces
In the same way that changes in coexistence have to be made gradually, this is not far behind. We cannot ask them to share a room overnight when perhaps they were used to having their own room. If this would be possible, the best thing would be that at the beginning each one had a room or at least, a more personal and private place in which to take refuge. If it is not possible due to space issues, each of them should have their own things, as well as toys or their own school supplies. Little by little you will surely share it, but at the beginning it is necessary that you notice that private part.
Forget about sibling or stepbrother comparisons
Sometimes it is inevitable that some mothers or even grandmothers will compare us with brothers or cousins. But in this case, we are going to be much more tactful than all that and to change certain habits that do not help but quite the opposite. Now They may hurt more than we think because certain rivalries can be forged and it is not what we are looking for. We must value each and every one of them, highlighting their great achievements but also encouraging others to achieve them in the same way.
There will no longer be favorites
If the comparisons do not like favoritism, much less. Because this will also create tension between them where jealousy will be the order of the day as well as long faces and arguments. So, We will try to put certain norms in coexistence with its rules and its punishments but for everyone equally. That way they will know that nobody is more than nobody else and we will start from a more civilized coexistence. With a lot of love and patience, the stepbrothers will come to understand each other and love each other for a home of full harmony. Although logically, there will always be disparate thoughts.