Each of us is unique and different from the rest. That is the wonder of beings, that no two are alike. We all have our own idiosyncrasies and thanks to that, we can be in a society full of good (and not so good) things. But this, it is necessary to highlight it in children so that they realize that like them, there is none. Therein lies the importance of individuality!
One way to do this is to forget the comparisons between the children. Each child is unique and special and should be celebrated for their individuality. Do not compare the children with each other because they are too different to compare, and each has wonderful qualities. Discover everything you need to know about the topic that concerns us today, because it will surprise you!
What is the importance of individuality?
We start from a definition to make it a little clearer about what we are talking about and that importance that we are going to emphasize so much today. We can say that it is a series of characteristics placed on each human being. Because they all have their own essence, something that is nothing like the person in front of us and that is what makes the difference. Each and every one of us has that individuality that must be respected as if it were a gift. Since it is something unique and as such, we must always take care of it while promoting it. This we it helps create both the skills we have and the strengths that accompany us on our journey. For this reason, individuality will also give us the necessary impulse to act in a unique way..
How to work individuality in children
If you have more than one child, it is likely that even if they are twins, they will be like night and day. Totally different personalities even though they came out of the same womb. And this is the magic of life. It's great that children are different because that way we can learn from each other. No child should be more special than the other, they are simply different and their differences and individuality is what makes them wonderful.
Hence, in order to work on individuality in children, we must allow their creativity to come to light. We will let you express yourself and as such, we will respect your way of thinking. (As long as none of it poses a danger to him or to his environment). We should not push him to think in a specific way, if he does not think like us, he will also be fine. You have to make him feel comfortable and learn to say what he feels and mention the tastes he has every day, in different fields. Nor do we forget to value them to the fullest, to celebrate their successes and to continue motivating them to achieve great things in life. In summary, you have to give him some freedom in a topic like this so that the naturalness is present in his tasks or games.
What does it mean to recognize our children
Said like this, it seems that we are talking about recognizing them among more people and it is not precisely what we want at this time. Because 'recognizing' in the subject of individualism is respecting and giving value to their tastes or the preferences that each child has. At the same time, It is also encouraging them in their goals and getting the best out of themselves, as well as betting on their potential, which will surely be numerous.. Because when they come to trust themselves and have that motivation that we mentioned before, they will successfully achieve what they set out to do. Hence we can say that parents play the role of 'guides'.
Parental mistakes on the path of individuality
As we have just said, the role of parents exercises a title of guide. We want to teach them the right path, but to do so, we must stop 'directing' some situations. Since some of the most frequent errors start from this:
- Solve all problems or homework: We want the best for them and that is why the help we can offer them is to teach them but not to do the work for them.
- demand a certain rhythm: We must let them follow their own. They need to make decisions for themselves, as far as possible.
- Scold them when they don't meet goals: On the contrary, we must support them and give them the necessary affection so that they continue working and finally achieve their goals. They must make mistakes and stumble in order to learn.
- Avoid your mistakes: They have to understand what patience is and also, sometimes, frustration. We cannot take their papers, but advise them. Because otherwise they will not come to value the positive things of effort and hard work.
- The comparisons: Do not try to change your children, do not want them to be things that they are not or they will only be faking their true essence. If you compare them with their brothers, you will only find resentment and hatred. The sooner you accept your son for who he is and can reach out to him to celebrate his uniqueness, the sooner your brother will join in celebrating and supporting his sibling in his interests, hobbies, and strengths. The goal is to facilitate support within the family and parents should be the best example.
When children learn to accept individuality within the family, they will be able to accept it outside the home. They will learn to enjoy other people even if they are different from them. Right there is the basis of individuality!