Although children have their own personalities, in many ways they end up becoming a copy of the people with the greatest influence in their lives, generally parents. Especially when reaching adolescence, when boys start to show a clearer personality, tastes and more specific interests, it is essential to positively influence children.
During childhood it is much easier, because children are sponges that absorb and imitate everything they see. However, the teenagers with their hormonal revolution they are more complicated. Because at some point, the opinion of anyone else becomes more important than that of the parents themselves. It's normal boys have to find their own way, away from the refuge of parents, even if that means making a mistake.
However, the role of parents as the main influence on children never disappears. So always, in any case, you should try to positively influence adolescents. Do you need some advice not to despair in the attempt?
Aspects in which to influence positively
Living constantly in a good mood is impossible in most cases, so it would be unrealistic to try to make children grow up without suffering bad times. Influencing in a positive way is not about preventing children from suffering with adult problems, but teach them to manage those moments and offer them the tools necessary to cope.
So that they can learn to take care of their own health, so that they understand how important it is to work for their future in their academic training. Because they should know what a healthy emotional relationship is like, how to treat other peopleBeing supportive or empathetic are essential aspects in which adolescents should be positively influenced.
Tips to be a positive influence on children
Love yourself and teach your children to love each other, because self-love should be the first love of any person. A boy or a girl entering adolescence has to face a roller coaster of feelings, doubts, complexes and hormonal imbalances. Teens are mostly insecure boys and girls and in these moments it is essential to contribute a positive influence so that they develop a good personality.
Physical changes are very shocking for adolescents and in many cases pose a great insecurity and complex problem. Teach your children to love themselves, to accept their own body and the changes that occur in it, in the same way that you assume them as time passes. Love yourself and do not be afraid to teach them to love each other, because self-love is not selfish, it is a necessity.
Get involved in their interests and hobbies
Adolescents feel far from their parents when their hobbies are completely opposite. If you are interested in their tastes, what they like to watch on the internet, the sport that catches their attention and even what their closest friends are like, you can establish a closer relationship with your adolescent child. In this way, you will be exerting a positive influence, showing them that you should strive to get to know the people around you.
The effort and the reward
It is also important for teens to understand that effort comes with a reward, which is not the same as a gift. Be the best example for them, with your effort, your work and your daily dedication, you get certain rewards, either financial or of any kind.
Kindness, good humor, treating people with respect, avoiding insults or bad-sounding words, both at home and on the street, are small gestures that positively influence adolescents. Always choose the friendliest optionespecially when your kids are around. This type of behavior not only benefits when it comes to shaping the personality of the children, but it also helps you to be happier in your day to day life.