Feeling fear is a natural reaction of the human body, a way to be alert to some danger. Something that starts from childhood, when everything is unknown and can potentially become a threat. Many of those fears that begin in childhood, turn into bad company that does not allow you to enjoy certain situations.
Even those fears, sometimes unfounded, are transmitted to children, which can become a problem. Because fear is nothing but insecurity, lack of self-confidence That results in a lack of self-esteem. It is okay for children to have that warning sign of danger, but they also need to be able to face those fears, because it is also part of the process of getting older.
Know your fears
Parents, adults and older people who make up the social circle of children, are the greatest source of learning for children. We often see how children repeat the same patterns as their parents, even in maturity they become a new version of what was learned from their parents. This does not mean that it is a bad thing, as long as the learning is positive and that new version is an improved one.
Knowing your own fears will help you when not transmitting them to your children. Because one thing is your job as a mother or father, to protect your children and ensure that their life is as beautiful and free from suffering as possible. But it is essential that children know the dangers of the world That surrounds them. They must know and face threats, without the help of their parents, because at some point there will be situations that they will have to face alone.
Helping children grow means offer them tools so that they are able to manage any situation themselves, also in the face of fear. Knowing what frustration is is a basic tool to know how to solve situations that you will have to face at some point in your life. Maybe you had a bad experience with dogs in your childhood and now you are afraid of them, but this does not have to be the same with your children, as long as you don't turn them into scary kids.
Your children will have their own fears
Life experiences are what help you grow as a person, your children will live their own experiences and learn from them valuable lessons. This does not mean that they have to live the same as you, although it is possible that something is transmitted. For example, for a person who is afraid of water, it is normal that they do not allow their children to explore their limits in the water, that fear is transmitted.
However, instead of passing that fear on to your children, you can turn it into a learning tool. They may develop a fear of water themselves, but instead of fostering that fear, find a way to confront him. Take them swimming, starting somewhere less threatening than the sea, like a small pool or lake. Take swimming lessons, so that they can face that fear from a privileged position.
Always from respect, from understanding and without forcing children to do something they don't want to. Talk to them first, find out what exactly they are afraid of, and together you can find a way to deal with that problem. You may have to face that fear yourself first in order to be the example your children need.
Clearly throughout their life situations will arise that scare them. But the more options you have to fight your fears, the more battles you can win and the more experiences you can accumulate throughout your life. And this can only be achieved if from a young age they learn to face their fears, with the support, understanding and help of their parents.