Kukho izinto ezithile abazali bakho abaya kuzilindela kuwe xa baluphele, kwaye zizinto onokuzilindela kubantwana bakho xa sele umdala. Kukho izifundo ezibonisa ukuba uninzi lwabazali njengoko bekhula abanelisekanga ngabantwana babo kwaye bakhalaza ngokungaziqondi kwabo.
Kwelinye icala, abantwana bakholelwa ukuba abazali balindele lukhulu kubo. Ngokwenyani, uninzi lwabantwana alwazi nokuba yintoni kanye kanye efunwa ngabazali babo kubo. Oku kubangela ubunzima kunxibelelwano oluhle losapho. Ukukunceda ukhuthaze ubudlelwane kunye nabazali bakho abadala kwaye ngomso abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kubo, Ungaphoswa zizinto ezilindelwe ngabazali bakho kuwe kwaye onokuthi uqale ukuzenzela zona namhlanje.
Hlala ecaleni kwakhe umamele
Mamela abazali bakho, bakunika ubomi, ngenxa nje yoko, bafanelwe yintlonipho ephezulu kunye nalo lonke ingqalelo yakho xa bengabantu abadala. Ixesha sesona sipho sihle onokusinika nawuphina umntu. Ngokwezinye izifundo, uninzi lwabazali lulindele ukuba abantwana babo babatyelele rhoqo kwaye babanike ixesha labo nokubanika ingqalelo.
Kuyinyani ukuba abazali bakho bayayiqonda into yokuba kufuneka uphile ubomi bakho, nangona kunjalo, balindele ukuba uyokubabona kungekuphela xa ufuna into, kodwa balindele ukuba ubatyelele kuphela kuba ufuna ukubabona kwaye uchithe ixesha nabo. Ngaba uyafuna nyani ukuba ngama-70% abemi abathetha kuphela kubazali babo kanye ngenyanga?
Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule imihla yabo yokuzalwa, iintsuku ezibalulekileyo kubo ezinje ngesikhumbuzo somtshato, njl. Batyelele ngeentsuku ezizodwa, kanye ngeveki, okanye nanini na xa unakho ukuba bahlala kude. Ukuba awuyazi ukuba ungaqala njani incoko nabo, thetha nabo malunga nobuntwana bakho ... khumbula amaxesha okonwaba.
Inkxaso yeemvakalelo
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba abantu xa bekhula abanakho ukuba namandla njengokuba babenjalo kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Abazali bakho bafuna inkxaso yakho ngokweemvakalelo nanini na ifuneka. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba unxibelelwano oluhle nabazali bakho, Ukuba awuthethi nabo, ngekhe uziqonde iingxaki abanokuba nazo okanye abajongana nazo.
Ukuba kunyanzelekile, ukuba abazali bakho bafuna uncedo ekhaya, ungathandabuzi ukufumana umntu omthembileyo oza kwenza imisebenzi yabo yasekhaya kwaye enze ubomi babo bube lula, kwimeko apho ungenakukwazi ukuyinyamekela.
Inkxaso kwezoqoqosho
Ukuba abazali bakho bafuna inkxaso yemali, kutheni uza kuyala? Abazali bakho bakuncedile kwaye bakukhulisa ukusuka ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakho. Ungulomntu uyiyo namhlanje enkosi kubo kunye nomzamo wabo. Ungahlula uxanduva phakathi kwabantakwenu abanokuthatha indawo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo (kwaye ukuba nje ayenzi njalo ukuya kubunzima kusapho lwakho, kule meko kuya kufuneka ujonge ezinye iindlela ezinje ngoncedo lwentlalo).
Mamela iingcebiso zabo
Nokuba uthatha isigqibo ngento oza kuyenza kwaye uyenze njani kamva, kuyimbeko ukumamela yonke into ethethwa ngabazali bakho, nokuba awuyithandi inyani abakuxelela yona. Ngamanye amaxesha, kubonakala ngathi kukho umsantsa wesizukulwana kwaye uninzi lwabantwana lukholelwa ekubeni abazali babo abaziqondi iingxaki zabo, kuba nabo 'bakwangoku'. Kodwa Amava obuzali ngoyena titshala ubalaseleyo.
Abazali bakho banokuba neengcebiso ezintle kuwe ezinxulumene nobomi kwaye oko bacinga okanye bakholelwa kuko kunokuba kokona kulungileyo kuwe. Vumela abazali bakho bakhathazeke ngawe kwaye bakuxelele into abacinga ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza. Ke, ukuba ayibonakali ilungile kuwe, baxelele ngokuzithemba ukuba uyalixabisa ingcebiso yabo kodwa ucinga ukuba yenye indlela ebhetele, kodwa ke uya kuwathathela ingqalelo onke amazwi abo ngawo onke amaxesha. Nokuba awuzenzi izinto abakuxelela zona, bamamele Oku kuyakubonisa ukubahlonipha kwakho kwaye nendlela abazokuyithetha ngayo kuwe ibalulekile kuwe.
Kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kukho umgca ocacileyo phakathi kolawulo kunye nenkxalabo, kubalulekile ukuba uyibone kwaye uyithathele ingqalelo. Ukuba abazali bakho bafuna ukulawula yonke into kwaye ubudlelwane obuyityhefu, kuya kufuneka ubeke imida ukuze kungabikho buhlobo bunengxaki phakathi kwakho.
Abazali bakho bayakudinga njengokuba ubufuna
Uyintsika yosapho, kwaye into yokuba ngoku unabantwana bakho kunye nosapho lwakho, kwaye uhlala kwenye indawo, oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ushiye abazali bakho ecaleni. Ubudlelwane ekufuneka ubenabo kunye nabo abufanele ukuba bobobuhlobo, lusapho lwakho kwaye luya kuhlala luhlala njalo. Ubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwezizukulwana kubalulekile ekukhuleni okuhle kwabantwana bakho, Kananjalo, kuxhomekeka kwindlela ophatha ngayo abazali bakho, yile ndlela baya kukuphatha ngayo xa sele bebadala kwaye nawe sele umdala.
Yiyo loo nto kufanelekile ukuba wenze umzamo kwishedyuli yakho exakekileyo ukubona abazali bakho, ukonwabela, ukubanika isipho esikhethekileyo, ukubenza bazive bebalulekile. Benze bazive benelunda ngokuba bakuzise ehlabathini ngokuba nguwe kunye necala labo. Akukho nto ibuhlungu njengokubona umntu osele ekhulile eyedwa kwikhaya labantu abalupheleyo kungekho mntu umtyelelayo, nditsho nokwazi ukuba unabo abantwana, ukuba bonke bayaphila neentsapho kwaye eli xhego lihlala lilwela ukulunga kwabantwana balo.
Abadala bethu bafanelwe yintlonipho, uthando lwethu, ukuqonda kwethu, inkampani yethu. Ngaphezu koko, ngabantu abathi, ukongeza kubantwana bakho, bafanelwe lelona lizwe ubanika ixesha lakho. Ngenxa yokuba akukho nto ixabisekileyo kweli hlabathi kunexesha, kwaye ukuyinika abantu esibathandayo kwenza ubudlelwane bube bukhulu kwaye bukhetheke ngokwenene. Yonwabela abazali bakho kwaye ubenze bakonwabele.