Xa umntwana wakho ezelwe, wonke umntu ubonakala ngathi yingcali ekukhuliseni. Wonke umntu ukunika iingcebiso, ezinye zilunge kakhulu, ezinye azilunganga kwaphela. Kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba uyazi ukwahlula enye kwenye. Akukho mntu unokuyenza ngcono kunawe, kuba xa isiza nosana lwakho, ubeka ithoni.
Ngabazali abanoxanduva lokuthatha isigqibo ngemfundo yabo, kwindlela abatya ngayo, nakubomi babo kwiminyaka yabo yokuqala. Akukho mntu uya kumazi umntwana wakho ngcono kunawe, oza kuhlala naye ixesha elide kunaye nabani na. Ke into yokuqala ethi xa umamele naliphi na ingcebiso, nguwe oza kuthatha isigqibo sokuba uyayamkela okanye awuyamkeli.
Ndingazi ngaphezulu kweengcali zemfundo kunye nokuba ngumzali?
Ayisiyokwazi okungakumbi, imalunga nokwazi umntwana wakho ngcono kunayo nayiphi na ingcali. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba wazise ngokwakho kubantu abakhethekileyo kwisifundo malunga neendlela ezilungileyo. Basekela iingcinga zabo kunye neendlela zabo kwizifundo zenani labantwana, ngokusekwe kumava. Kodwa khumbula oko Xa uzisebenzisa, kuya kufuneka uhlalutye ngononophelo iimeko zakho nezomntwana wakho. Ababazi kwaye ingcebiso efanayo yengcali inokusebenza kubo bonke abo bantwana, kodwa hayi kuwe. Kusenokubakho iimeko ezahlula wena okanye umntwana wakho kubo bonke abo bantwana ababandakanyiweyo kwezi zifundo.
Abazali bathatha isigqibo
Kananjalo ayisiyiyo yokuba ngoongantweni kwaye ungathathi ngcebiso nakubani na. Kungenxa yokuba umgaqo uhlala usetyenziswa nguwe neqabane lakho okanye uwedwa ukuba uyintsapho enomzali omnye. Njengoko besesitshilo, unoxanduva lomntwana wakho, uya kuba noxanduva lwezenzo zakhe kwaye uya kuthatha isigqibo ngobomi bakhe. Kwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala uyakudinga kuyo yonke into. Oko kwenza ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uyiqwalasele ukuze uzilungiselele ngokufanelekileyo iimfuno zayo. Isiqhamo sako konke ukujonga, Uya kumazi ngcono kunaye nabani na. Ngokuchanekileyo oko kunceda ukuba usebenzise icebiso ocinga ukuba lilungele umntwana wakho kwaye ulahle ezingakulungelanga.
Xa bekunika iingcebiso ongafuni kuzamkela
Kunokwenzeka ukuba xa ufika ekhaya nosana lwakho kwaye utyelelo luqala, wonke umntu ngequbuliso uyingcali kubuzali. Baza kukucebisa ngezinto osele wazazisile ngazo kumaphepha aliwaka, amaqela oomama, iibhloko kunye neencwadi. Uya kwazi ukuba azichanekanga kwaye unovakalelo kwaye uyacaphuka, Kuya kufuneka uzame ukuhlala uzolile ukunqanda iimeko ezingathandekiyo. Akukho lula ukona ukuba ngubani na onokukunika Uncedo oluza kuthi uludinge.
Kwezi meko, Kungcono ukunika impendulo ehloniphekileyo kwaye ungalisebenzisi icebiso konke konke. Nokuba bangaphinda-phinda kangaphi, awudingi kuchaza nakubani na, kodwa kufuneka ube nembeko kwaye uhloniphekile. Akukho mfuneko yokuyekisa nento ongayamkeliyo, Unelizwi lokugqibela.
Sebenzisa iikhrayitheriya zakho
Ngokwenza isishwankathelo, kuyaqondakala ukuba iikhrayitheriya zakho zezona zisemthethweni kumntwana wakho, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi:
- Ubophelelo obukhoyo phakathi kwenu ukusukela kwixesha lokukhulelwa.
- Ubophelelo lweqhotyoshelweyo olwenziwe ngexesha lokuzalwa.
- Ulwazi lomntwana wakho ngokujonga ukuba uyamelana neemfuno zabo.
Ngoku, Ukufaka iikhrayitheriya zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo yokukhula komntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukuba iikhrayitheriya zakho zisekelwe kakuhle. Oku akusekelwanga kwiingcinga ezililize okanye ezingabalulekanga malunga nokuba ngumama, njengokuthi "kuba ndingunyoko kwaye ndiphethe." Uhlobo lwe imfundo yobuzwilakhe, inokuba yingozi emntwaneni wakho. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba useke iikhrayitheriya zakho kuhlobo lwemfundo yedemokhrasi. Njengomzekelo lowo ukhuthazwe ngu Paulo Freire.
Umnqweno womama ngamnye kukukhulisa abantwana bakhe besempilweni, bezimele kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke bonwabile. Ukuze ukwazi ukukhokela umntwana wakho kolo lonwabo, iikhrayitheriya zakho kufuneka zisekwe kwintlonipho, kwiimvakalelo zakhe, kumntu wakhe. Lowo ngoyena ndoqo ubalulekileyo xa usamkela ingcebiso. Zibuze "Ngaba umntwana wam uya kuphila ubomi obonwabisayo xa ndisebenzisa eli cebiso?". Impendulo yalo mbuzo iya kuhlala iyinto ephambili yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uyayisebenzisa.