Ubuntu babantwana bebusoloko bungumxholo onomdla kakhulu oososayikholojisti, abafundisi-ntsapho, oogqirha kunye noogqirha bengqondo. Ngoku, oyena mntu unomdla kakhulu kule nkalo ngokungathandabuzekiyo ziintsapho, abazali ... Ngaba intombazana iya kufana noyise? Ngaba uzuze njengelifa isimilo semvukelo kamakhulu wakhe?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka siyazi kukuba ubuntu ayisiyonto ithile, ayisiyonto ibonakala kuthi ngokukhawuleza. Kananjalo akufuneki senze impazamo yokucinga ukuba umntwana "uswele ubuntu." Kukho izinto zemfuza, zebhayoloji, zamachiza kunye nokusingqongileyo eziya kuthi zimisele Sele kwiinyanga zokuqala sinomdla kwiimpawu ezithile ezinokusinika imikhwa elungileyo malunga nengqondo yabantwana bethu. Kuvuliwe "Madres Hoy» sikucacisela.
Izinto ezinokuthi zichonge ubuntu bomntwana
Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili, kukho imiba engaphaya kolawulo lwethu, kwaye eya kuthi ibonakalise ikakhulu ukuba umntu ukhulisa uhlobo oluthile lobuntu hayi olunye.
- Kukho icandelo lofuzo.
- Kananjalo asinakugweba ngaphandle kwezinto zemichiza. Umzekelo woku iya kuba yingqondo apho i-dopamine neurotransmitter ikhutshiwe: kule meko, sikhulisa indlela yokuziphatha ekhangelwe kukukhangela, umvuzo oqhubekayo ... Baya kuba ziimpawu ezicacileyo.
- Enye into ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni yile Ubuntu kukwakhiwa kwengqondo okwenziwa imihla ngemihla ngamava, kunye novavanyo esilwenzayo kubo.
Ngokusekwe kule migaqo, njengoko unokuthekelela, akukho mntu unokulawula, ukukhokela okanye ukumisela (yiyo loo nto umlingo wobuntu, kunye nemfuno yokujonga umntwana ngamnye njengokwahlukileyo kwaye okhethekileyo), kufanelekile ukuqaphela uthotho lweentsika ezinokuthi sincede ukuba similisele ukuzithemba kunye nokukhula kobuntu kubantwana bethu.
- Ubophelelo lokuqala umntwana aya luphuhlisa kunye nathi kukuncamathisela. Yindibaniselwano yeemvakalelo ebonelela ngokhuseleko kubantwana bethu, kwaye iyabanceda ukuba bahlakulele ubudlelwane bokuqala bokuhlala kunye nosapho.
- Kuyimfuneko ukuba okuqhotyoshelweyo kube sempilweni, kwaye kunika indawo yokuhlala, ukhuseleko, ukuzithemba, ngelixa inkqubela phambili inyanzela inkululeko.
- Oko kukuthi, kukho abazali abathi bakhule babe "liqela" kunye nengqele yeemvakalelo ezinokuthi zichonge ubukhulu bomntwana, okanye kwelinye icala, Kukho umngcipheko wokuzigqwesa kwaye sidale "abantwana abancinci", abantwana abaxhomekeke kakhulu kubo.
- Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele yindlela esihlala ngayo nabantwana bethu, oko kukuthi: "indlela esazisa ngayo kwihlabathi." Apha, kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba uhlala unikezela ngeendlela zokuba umntwana azimele, ukuze bafumane ukonwaba kunye nentuthuzelo ngokuvulela abanye, badlale, baphonononge kwaye bafumanise.
- Kuya kufuneka siphuhlise isitayile semfundo yedemokhrasi, sikuphephe ukugunyazisa. Yinto ebalulekileyo enokunceda abantwana bethu kakhulu ngomso.
Ubuntu babantwana bethu bukhethekile: yazi ngokukhawuleza
Uninzi lwabazali ngempazamo bakholelwa ukuba ubuntu bomntwana buzinza ebusheni. Kwaye akuyonyani. Isimilo somntwana siyabonwa kwaye siziva yonke imihla ukusukela oko weza emhlabeniNgapha koko, iintsana zeenyanga ezimbalwa sele zahlukile enye kwenye, kukho abo bafuna ingqalelo engakumbi, abo balila ngakumbi nangaphantsi, abo bahoya kakhulu kwaye abo basabela kakubi kwisimo esitsha.
Zonke ezi zizikhokelo, iziseko eziza kuthi kamva zakhiwe ngezinto ezintsha enkosi kumava kunye nokunxibelelana nehlabathi elikufutshane elibangqongileyo. Kwaye kufuneka siyiqonde Abazali kukuba asinako ukutshintsha isimilo sabo, umntwana akasoze abe ngumzekelo wabazali bakhe.
Ngamnye wabantwana bethu wahlukile kwaye ukhethekile, kwaye umsebenzi wethu kukuqonda, ukubakhokela kunye nokubakhokela rhoqo kulonwabo, ekuvulekeni ukuze ngomso, babe ngabantu abadala abazimeleyo abanakho ukufikelela kwiinjongo abazibekele zona.
Ke ngoko, kwasekuqaleni singabuthanda ubuntu bakhe ngezi nkalo.
Inqanaba lomsebenzi
Le yinto esiyibona ngokulula kwiinyanga zokuqala. Kukho abantwana ekunzima ukuba sibakhuphe endlini. Ubaphatha ngeengalo zakho okanye kwinqwelo kwaye abayeki ukuhamba, "badinga indawo" yokuhamba, abaze bayeke ukuma kwaye bahlala betsalela ingqalelo.
Kwelinye icala, abanye balale ngokulula, kwaye bayakwazi ukuziqhelanisa kwaye bazolile xa bebakhupha endlini. Nangona kunjalo, Masingacingi ukuba ngenxa yokuba umntwana eshukunyisiwe kwaye angasizisela iingxaki ngomso, ngamanye amaxesha inqanaba lomsebenzi linxulumene nomdla. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinto esikhathazayo.
Rhoqo
Abantwana abaqhelekileyo benza izinto ezininzi lula kubazali: ziyaxelwa kwangaphambili, sinokuziqhelanisa nemikhwa yazo kwaye siququzelele izinto ezinje ngokuphuma, ukuhamba ... Kucacile ukuba bazakutya ngeyure zabo, kwaye balale kamnandi.
Kwelinye icala, sinabo abanye abantwana abathatha ixesha elide ukulala, abangafuni kutya xa ilixesha labo kwaye, umzekelo, abenzi nje "ukuguqula izingqisho zabo zebhayoloji", oko kukuthi, Kunzima kakhulu ukuba ususe amanabukeni, lawula umchamo ... njl.
Ngale nto, sele unentuit ngubani oza kufuna ingqalelo engaphezulu kunye namandla kuwe.
Ukuphendula kwisikhuthazo esitsha
Iintsana ngokubanzi azenzi kakuhle ngezinto ezingalindelekanga kunye notshintsho. Bakhetha isiqhelo kunye noqikelelo. Nangona kunjalo, imeko-bume yabo ayizukuzinza kubo bonke ubomi babo, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubo ukuba basabele ngendlela eyahlukileyo kakhulu kwizinto ezinje ngeendwendwe, abantu abazithathayo, umculo, izandi, izibane, izilwanyana zasekhaya ezintsha, iihambo. ..
Kukho abantwana abantsonkothileyo abafumana ezi meko zintsha kakubi, kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu kuthi ukubalumkisa ngokukhawuleza. ukulawula ngcono ezi meko ngokunika ukuzola kunye nokhuseleko. Into esisiseko ukuze ngomso baziqhelanise kakuhle nemihla ngemihla kunye nophuhliso lwabo lwentlalo.
Ukuphendula ngamandla
Usabela njani kwizinto? Iintsana zinokusabela kwisimo esitsha ngokukhwaza, ukulila okanye ukuthula. Konke oku kuthetha lukhulu malunga nabo, bakhona ababa nomsindo, abanye bathule ngeentloni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba basabela njani, kufuneka usoloko ubanceda babonise iimvakalelo zabo.
Lide kangakanani inqanaba lokhathalelo lwakho?
Konke oku kuya kwahluka ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko bekhula, kodwa kukho iintsana ezihlawula kancinci kakhulu kwizikhuthaziAbanye, kwelinye icala, bayazingisa kwinto entsha, umzobo, into yokudlala ...
Kufanelekile ukuba uthethe nabantwana malunga nezi zinto ukukhuthaza umdla wabo, ukugxila kwingqondo yabo kwaye bangasasazi. Khumbula ukuba kufanelekile ukubanika into yokudlala enye kuphela kuninzi ngexesha.
Imvakalelo yokuziva
Kukho abantwana abanolwazelelelo kunabanye kwizinto abazithandayo, izibane, uburhabaxa, izandi kunye namaqondo obushushu. Ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelo lweemvakalelo lunento yokwenza nomlinganiswa wabo, nendlela yabo yokuziva kunye nokunxibelelana nehlabathi.
Ngalo lonke ixesha jonga inqanaba lomntwana wakho lokuziva ukwazi ukulawula zonke izinto asebenzisana nazo mihla le.
Yeyiphi imo eyongamele usana lwakho?
Kukho iintsana ezingahleki nto, ezinye zisabela ngokuba nomsindo, abanye baneentloni ngakumbi ... Kholwa okanye ungakholelwa, ezi sele zizikhombisi ezicacileyo malunga nobuntu babo, into eya kusenza siyiqonde ngcono kwaye ibancede bakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo ngakumbi Usuku lomhla.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala kwaye uphendula ngokutsala iinwele zakho okanye ukungxola ngento angayifuniyo okanye angayithandiyo, kuyafuneka ukuba ulawule kwaye uhambise ezi mpendulo. Okuphikisanayo, Ukuba imeko yomntwana wakho icimile, mkhuthaze ukuba abonise, ukunxibelelana, ukuchukumisa, ukuziva ... Yenza uqhakamshelwano lomzimba isithuthi semvakalelo yentsini kunye nokumangaliswa.
Hlakulela ukonwaba kwakho kwemihla ngemihla, kwaye ufumane indlela ubuntu bakho obukhula ngayo ukuze uyiqonde kwaye ikuncede xa uyifuna.