Ubuhlobo ebomini bunokuba nzima, ngakumbi kwinqanaba lokufikisa, xa bubaluleke ngakumbi. Abantwana kunye nolutsha bayayamkela imbono yokuba unokuba nomhlobo osenyongweni naphakade ... Nangona eneneni ukuba nomhlobo kwaye umgcine ngonaphakade kunokuba yintsomi kunokuba ibe yinyani. Ukuba nomhlobo osenyongweni oya kuhlala ecaleni kwakho kunzima kakhulu.
Ngenxa yoko, amantombazana amaninzi anikezela kwingcinezelo yokufumana oyena mhlobo usenyongweni kwaye awela kumgibe wokuzama ukuthandwa ngumntu wonke kunye nokonwabisa abanye. Oku akunampilo kuphela, kodwa kunokuvula umnyango kubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Inkqubo yeCAbasetyhini abathembekileyo ngakumbi nabahlobo babo, nokuba bavulekile kwaye bathembekile ngeemvakalelo zabo zokwenyani, banonxibelelwano olusondeleyo.
Xa ubomi bentombazana buhamba kakubi, bayazigxeka kwaye bacinga ukuba yeyona nto imbi inokwenzeka kubo. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuthetha neentombi ngobuhlobo bobomi bokwenyani kubaluleke kangaka. Fundisa iintombi zakho ukuba ubuhlobo yinto eyenzeka ebomini kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umhlobo abe kwimeko engalunganga ngamanye amaxesha okanye ukuba ubuhlobo buze budlule. Kuyimfuneko ukuba iintombi zakho (kwaye kunjalo noonyana bakho), bafunde ukuqonda ukuba yintoni bubuhlobo obusempilweni kwaye ubudlelwane obunetyhefu kufuneka bungaphandle kwekhaya.
Phambi kokuba ulinde ubuhlobo obugqibeleleyo, kungcono uqonde ukuba buyintoni na ubuhlobo kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba zininzi iinkolelo zentlalo malunga nazo, ekubhetele ukuba uzikhanyele ngokukhawuleza.
Abukho ubuhlobo obugqibeleleyo
Nangona ubuhlobo bubonakala bufanelekile ngexesha elithile, enyanisweni abukho ubuhlobo obufana nobo. Kubalulekile ukuba ubuhlobo bube sempilweni ukuze iimvakalelo zabelwane ngaphandle koloyiko lokuba ubudlelwane buya kuphela ngenxa yabo.
Ngapha koko, ukungqubana kubuhlobo kuya kuyenza isondele kwaye yomelele, kuba ukuba ungquzulwano lutyhala ubuhlobo, kungenxa yokuba lwalungazange lube njalo. Akufanele uzame "ukulungisa" okanye "ukutshintsha" abahlobo bakho, kuya kufuneka ubamkele njengoko benjalo njengoko kufanele ukuba ubalinde ukuba basamkele. Ngale ndlela ubuhlobo buba yinto eyomeleleyo, nangona oko akuthethi ukuba igqibelele.
Ngamanye amaxesha bayakukhuphela ngaphandle kwaye kulungile
Ukukhutshelwa ngaphandle yinto eqhelekileyo eyenzekayo kodwa xa isenzeka akufuneki ibonwe njengento embi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yimpazamo, ngamanye amaxesha ukhetho. Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ulusizi ngayo, yinto enokwenzeka kwaye akufuneki ikuchaphazele ngokungaphezulu. Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba intombi yakho iyayazi loo nto ukuba bayamkhuphela ngaphandle, ngabo abanye abaphulukana naye, hayi yena.
Abahlobo, nabo bayahlukana
Ngamanye amaxesha abahlobo bayahlukana ... kufana nobudlelwane bezothando, ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukwahlukana nomntu kuba akasiniki kwanto okanye kuba esivisa ubuhlungu. Kuyenzeka ukuba abanye abantu basinqumle, kwaye ayisiyonto imbi leyo. Lithuba lokufunda nokukhula, kwaye ukuba umntu uyabushiya ubomi, kubhetele ukuhlala nento asifundise yona, ngaphandle kwenzondo.
Xa ubuhlobo buphela, ihlala iluphawu lokuba kukho into eyaphukileyo. Khuthaza intombi yakho ukuba ingacingi ngento enokuba ibiyiyo, kodwa ibone njengethuba lokungenisa umhlobo olungileyo olandelayo. Yazi ukuba intombi yakho ingakhathazeka yile nto, kodwa mkhumbuze ukuba intliziyo yakhe yomelele… ukuba akayivali intliziyo yakhe, angakufumana umhlobo ofanelekileyo kungekudala.
Ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho nabahlobo akunangqondo
Kuqhelekile ukuba ubuhlobo buhambe kwaye ukulindela into eyahlukileyo akunampilo. Khumbuza intombi yakho ukuba kuya kubakho amaxesha apho umhlobo wakhe exakeke kakhulu yimisebenzi kunye nokuzibophelela ekuchitheni ixesha kunye.
Okanye, kunokubakho amaxesha xa exakeke kakhulu. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kunokuba buhlungu ukungachithi ixesha kunye, kodwa kunqabile ukuba kube buqu kwaye kufanele kwamkelwe. Ukuzenza ubuqu kuhlala kwenza izinto zibe mandundu kwaye kukhokelela kungxabano. Intombi yakho kufuneka iqonde ukuba ukubambelela kakhulu okanye ukufuna ngenkani kunokutyhala umhlobo wakho kude. Mncede aqonde ukuba ukuqhekeka nomhlobo akuyonto imbi. Endaweni yoko, ikuvumela indawo eyoneleyo yokufumana abanye abahlobo onokunxibelelana nabo.
Amaqabane akufuneki ebe ngalo lonke ixesha nokuba
Amantombazana amaninzi enza impazamo yokushiya abahlobo babo ecaleni xa beqala ukuthandana nomntu, bacinga ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye yinto elungileyo ukuyenza. Akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani. Njengabahlobo bakho, ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho busempilweni xa ungachithi lonke ixesha lakho naloo mntu.
Kuyimpilo ngakumbi ukuba umntu othandana naye ufuna lonke ixesha lakho. Ukulawula wedwa kunye nokulawula ishedyuli yentombi yakho luphawu lwesilumkiso sokuphathwa gadalala. Ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba intombi yakho iyazi ukuba ubudlelwane obunempilo bulunge ngokuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nexesha kunye nesoka lakhe. Qiniseka kwakhona ngubani owaziyo ukufumanisa umfana othandanayo okanye oxhaphazayo ngaphambi kokuba abe yingozi.
Usenokuba nabahlobo bobuxoki
Ubuhlobo bobuxoki bukho kwaye buqhelekile ... enyanisweni, baninzi abantu ababuxoki kwaye ababonakala ngathi bayenye into kodwa ke baba yenye into. Ubuhlobo ngamanye amaxesha bubonakala buye kwicala elinye, kwaye xa kusenzeka oko kungenxa yokuba babengengabo abahlobo kwaphela.
Xa oku kusenzeka intombi yakho ingaziva iintlungu ezithile emphefumlweni, kodwa iyakomeleza kwaye imncede aqonde ukuba buthini ubuhlobo bokwenene… nokuba sempilweni. Ubuhlobo obunetyhefu abufanele bube nandawo ebomini bakho. Ixesha elininzi alichitha nabantu abangenampilo, kokukhona eli xabiso liba kuye ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokukhawuleza uqonde ukuba kufuneka uqhubeke, ngcono.
Nangona sizikhankanyile ezi ngcebiso "zamantombazana", enyanisweni, zisebenza kumakhwenkwe namantombazana, kuba ubuhlobo abuqondi ubuni okanye ubudala.