Kude kube kudala kwakucingwa ukuba indima yokukhulisa umntwana yayiyiyo leyo kanina. Utata, umntu oqaqambe ngakumbi kwaye ethe qelele ngokweemvakalelo ebantwaneni kubonakala ngathi usebenza kakuhle, kodwa inyani kukuba oku kubangele ukusilela okukhulu ebantwaneni, ngoku sele bebadala. Ukusilela ngokweemvakalelo okunokuthi kuthintelwe kulawulo olwahlukileyo lokuba ngumzali.
Abazali bebesoloko benendima enkulu ekukhuliseni abantwana. Ziyimfuneko ukuba abancinci babe nokukhula okuzinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo. Ngethamsanqa, kubonakala ngathi oku kuyaqala ukutshintsha kwaye iintsapho ziqala ukukuqonda ukubaluleka kwabo bobabini abazali (ngokulinganayo kwimfundo yabantwana babo).
Utshintsho kubuzali
Ngemihla yakudala kwaye ngamehlo kunye nokuphelelwa lixesha kwabantu abaninzi, bekukholelwa ukuba eyona nto ichanekileyo kukuba indoda ithathe imali igoduke kwaye umfazi ayinyamekele indlu nabantwana, evotela amandla abo onke umfazi nomntu. Oku, Oku akusekho njalo kwaye akufuneki kube kwiindawo ezininzi zehlabathi lethu namhlanje. Abasetyhini abangena kwilizwe lomsebenzi baye banyanzela iintsapho ukuba zihlengahlengise iindima zazo kwaye, ngaphezulu koko, uluntu luyakuqonda ukubaluleka kwamadoda nabasetyhini ekukhuliseni abantwana.
Ayothusi into yokuba kumakhaya amaninzi akhoyo ngoku lo mfazi ngoyena mntu unikela ngemali ekhayeni kwaye le ndoda yiyo egcina umzi kunye nabantwana ... Kwaye oku, ewe, akuyi kuphazamisa ubuchule bakhe, ngakumbi ngokuchaseneyo. Indoda eyaziyo ukukhathalela abantwana bayo, ikhaya layo, iqabane layo, eliphume liye emsebenzini, elikwaziyo ukubaluleka kwenani lalo kubomi babantwana balo ... Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, yindoda enazo zonke izinto iileta ezikhathalele intlalo-ntle yosapho lwakho.
Indima katata ekukhuliseni abantwana
Ukukhulisa abantwana yenye yezona misebenzi zoyikekayo umzali anokuze abe nayo, yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini babo. Kunzima kodwa Yeyona nto intle owakha wayazi. Abantwana sesona sipho sibalaseleyo sabazali, kwaye ukubajonga bekhula kwaye babe nefuthe kuphuhliso lwabo lelona lungelo lilungileyo abazali abanokuba nalo. Kungenxa yoko le nto abazali kufuneka bakuthathele ingqalelo ukubaluleka kobudlelwane babo beemvakalelo kunye nabantwana babo. Abazali banokubanceda baphumelele ebomini.
Ukuba utata usebenzisana ngokufanelekileyo kuphuhliso lwabantwana bakhe, baya kukhula kwaye baphile ngokufanelekileyo, banokuba ngabantu abadala abaphumelelayo.
Abazali akufuneki baxhase umama nangaliphi na ixesha, oko kukuthi, banoxanduva olufanayo nomama ekukhuliseni abantwana kuzo zonke iinkalo. Abazali, njengomama, kufuneka babakhathalele abantwana babo, babanike ukhuseleko ekukhuleni kwabo, badlulise amaxabiso kunye nemida ebekiweyo. Ootata noomama kufuneka babe sendleleni efanayo kwimfundo yabantwana babo, ukuze abantwana babone ukuhambelana kunye nenkxaso engenamiqathango kubazali babo.
Utata kwaye uya kuhlala eyinani lenkxaso kunye nokhuseleko kubantwana bakhe, into eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo iphazamise ngqo kubuntu babantwana, ekuzithembeni abanako kubo nakwilizwe elibangqongileyo. Abantwana kufuneka babe nobudlelwane obuhle nabazali babo ukuze bakhule ehlabathini. Kuya kufuneka babelane ngexesha elisemgangathweni yonke imihla nabazali babo, babenendawo ekhuselekileyo apho banokuziva bekhuselekile kwaye bethandwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo.
Ngegunya, kodwa ngaphandle koloyiko
Iindima zitshintshile kwinani likayise. Kude kube kudala kwakucingwa ukuba ukuba negunya ebomini babantwana kukuba baziva benoloyiko xa utata ethetha. Kodwa uloyiko alufundisi, kwaye alukhuthazi igunya elifanelekileyo, ngapha koko, iyakhathaza indlela olu loyiko olunxibelelana ngayo kakubi kubomi babantwana. Ngamaxesha amaninzi kuyaqhubeka ukwenzeka ukuba inani likatata lilinganiselwe ekubekeni ucwangco loloyiko, oku kusisimo sosapho esisebenzayo ...
Ngethamsanqa Lo mbono uqinisekileyo wokuba ngutata uqala ukutshintsha kwaye ube nombono owoneleyo wokukhula kakuhle kwabantwana. Abazali bayaqonda ukuba uloyiko alufundisi kwaye ngaphezulu, igunya linokufezekiswa kuphela ngothando kunye nokuqonda iimfuno zabantwana. Ukuqina akuhambi kunye nokukhwaza kunye nesimilo esibi, kuba le yokugqibela ibonisa ubuthathaka kuphela kwaye ingazi ukuba yenze njani xa iphakamisa.
Imisebenzi yasekhaya ihanjiswa ngokungacacanga phakathi koomama nootata, into eya kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ibancede kakhulu abantwana. Ngoku abazali bathathela ingqalelo inkathalo yemihla ngemihla yabantwana, kukhathalelo lwabo lomzimba kodwa nakwindlela abakhula ngayo ngokweemvakalelo. Imisebenzi yosapho ayinanto yakwenza nesini sabazali kodwa kukukhula okufanelekileyo kwabantwana, kuba zizinto zokuqala kuye nawuphi na utata okanye umama.
Ixabiso likatata
Ewe, utata unexabiso elikhulu kuphuhliso lwabantwana kwaye ukongeza, inani lakhe linokuba nefuthe elikhulu kuphuhliso lobuntu boonyana bakhe neentombi zakhe. Umzali okude ngokweemvakalelo okanye ongabandakanyekanga kwimfundo yabantwana bakhe uya kushiya isithuba esikhulu seemvakalelo kubomi babantwana bakhe, ezibangela ukuba basokole kwaye bangazithembi kwaye bathambekele kuxinzelelo.
Ithamsanqa lelokuba abazali baya bekwazi ukubaluleka kwabo ekukhuleni kwabantwana babo, ukuba kufuneka bahambisane noomama, ukuba bobabini banobunzima obufanayo ekukhuliseni nasekufundiseni abantwana babo, ukusukela oko abantwana ndizalwe kwaye ndisezandleni zakho okokuqala.