Sthandwa sam, yiza, nxiba ibhatyi yakho kuyabanda. Andifuni, andigodoli
Ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphezu kwesihlandlo esinye siye safumana lo mboniso okanye into efanayo. Umntu omdala oqaphela ukuba kuyabanda kwaye yinkwenkwe okanye intombazana engavumiyo ukunxiba ibhatyi okanye nayiphi na enye impahla eshushu. Into enokuba yi ngqu zulwano.
Kuyacaca ukuba umnqweno wethu wokufihla intombazana awuphumi ngaphandle kwenkanuko, kodwa ngenxa yokuba sinenkxalabo ngempilo yakhe, ukuba uyabanda kwaye le nto ineziphumo.
Ukuqonda izizathu zakho zokuphepha ungquzulwano
Kwaye kuyabonakala ukuba intombazana inemilinganiselo yayo kwaye nangona sibanda, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayiyiyo. Ngaphambi kokungena kumlo wamandla, umntu omdala unyanzelisa kwaye intombazana, iyala, kufanelekile zama ukuqonda iinjongo zabo. Kwaye oko kuqonda, yenza ngovelwano oluyimfuneko ukunqanda ungquzulwano
Ngaphandle kokuya kulowo mntu unendlela eyahlukileyo yokubona ukubanda okanye ubushushu kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu oshushu ngokulinganayo okanye obandayo. Kufuneka sicace gca ukuba abantwana bethu bayakhula, kwaye abanalo amava esinalo njengabantu abadala.
Ngeenjongo zethu ezilungileyo, sizama ukuya phambili kodwa kufanelekile ukuvumela intombi yethu ukuba ihambe ngamava kwaye ibe yiyo ecela ukunxiba ibhatyi ukuba iyabanda.
Kuxhomekeke kubudala
Ngokucacileyo, asiyi kwenza into efanayo ngomntwana omncinci kakhulu njengakumntu omdala.
Ukuba intombi yethu incinci, sinokwenza yonke into ifane nomdlalo. Endaweni yokuzama ukumnxibisa ibhatyi, singayidlalisa loo dyasi. Yenza amazwi, ukhathaze ... ngakumbi ukucinga, kungcono. Ulwimi lokudlala lulwimi lobuntwana.
Kodwa ukuba intombazana yethu indala, singamcacisela ukuba kuyabanda, sinebhatyi yakhe kwaye ukuba uziva ukuba uyayifuna, angayicela kwaye siza kuyinika kwangoko.
Ayisiyiyo iresiphi yomlingo ukusukela oko kwimiba yobuzali, akukho zindlela zokupheka ezixabisekileyo. Yonke inkwenkwe okanye intombazana yahlukile, njengazo zonke iintsapho. Okusebenzayo kwimeko enye akufuneki ukuba isebenze kwelinye.
Kodwa kunjalo, yindlela yokuphepha ngaphezulu kweyodwa kwimpikiswano yemihla ngemihla kunye neentombi zethu.
Ngaphezu kokuzama ukunyanzelisa, ukuzinza ekubeni singabantu abadala abazi yonke into, sinokushiya umda wokuhamba. Sinokubayeka baphile ngamava, ngaphandle komngcipheko kwimpilo yabo, ngokucacileyo, kodwa bayayazi intsingiselo, umzekelo, ukunxiba ibhatyi. Kuba intombazana iyabanda, hayi kuba ikhulile.