Ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, ezona zinto zilula kwaye ezo uzenzayo kodwa ungazicingi, zinokuba nefuthe elibaluleke kakhulu kubomi babantwana bakho. Abazali abaninzi bathetha izinto ezinje: 'Ndifuna wonwabe', Kodwa inkcazo yolonwabo inokwahluka kakhulu ukusuka komnye umntu uye komnye, nangona umnqweno osentliziyweni ufana ngokuchanekileyo.
Abazali bafuna abantwana babo ukuba bonwabele, bazive bethandwa, bakwazi ukuthanda abanye abantu, bomelele kwaye bomelele xa bejamelene nemiceli mngeni yobomi. Kukho amanyathelo alula anokukunceda ukhulise abantwana abonwabileyo kuba uya kuba nakho ukudala imeko-bume ekhaya, ikhaya elikhuselekileyo nelonwabisayo labantwana. Abantwana bafuna uvuyo, inkuthazo, kunye nothando oluninzi.
Izenzo ezilula zokuKhulisa abantwana abaNwabileyo
1. Funda ngokuvakalayo yonke imihla
Ukufunda ngokuvakalayo sesinye sezona zipho zilula kunye nezona zihlala ixesha elide onokuthi uzinike umntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho uyakuthanda ukuva ilizwi lakho kwaye ngokufunda amabali ungambonisa amava acacileyo kunye namava amnandi. Ukufunda ngokuvakalayo kunokukunceda ukunxibelelana nawe ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye yinto elula ukuyenza, ukuba leyo ibingonelanga, iya kulomeleza ulwalamano lwakho lweemvakalelo.
Ukufundela abantwana ngokuvakalayo kuluncedo olukhulu kuphuhliso lwezakhono zokufunda nokubhala. Ukufundela abantwana ngokuvakalayo kuya kubanceda ukuba baqhubele phambili ngakumbi kulwazi lokufunda nokubhala esikolweni. Kwakhona, kumnandi ukuchitha ixesha kunye kunye nokufunda kunye nokonwabela umzuzu womlingo abazali nabantwana.
2. Khuthaza ushicilelo
Xa umntwana wakho emdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba angabhala kwijenali, uya kuba nakho ukubhala ngobomi bakhe, ukuze azi ukukhuthaza kwakhe, ukukhathazeka kwakhe, amava akhe, ukufumanisa kwakhe, imibuzo yakhe ... Yonke into ubomi bubalulekile.
Mkhumbuze ngokubaluleka kokubhala amaxesha okuqala, loo mava amenza azive kamnandi Kwaye xa kukho amava akwenza uzive ungalunganga, kuyakufuneka ukwazi ukufumana izisombululo kwiingxabano ukuze uzive ungcono. Umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuxabisa umzuzu ngamnye, ukubiza iimvakalelo, ukuchaza nokubalisa iimeko, ukuxabisa awona mava abalulekileyo ahleliyo, njl. Kwaye kwakhona, ukubulela ebomini.
3. Cula ekhaya
Umculo udala imvakalelo ebantwini kwaye ukwabopha iqhina phakathi kwabo bahlala kunye. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ucula kakuhle okanye kakubi, ukucula kunye nomntwana wakho yenye yezona zinto zimnandi onokuzenza kwaye omncinci wakho ngokungathandabuzekiyo uyakonwabela ukuba secaleni kwakho.
Kwiintsana, iilullabies ziyimfuneko, kubantu abadala, iingoma ezinemvano-zandi ziluvo oluhle lokufunda iikhonsepthi ezisisiseko ezinje ngeentsuku zeveki, oonobumba, imibala, njl. Kubantwana abadala ngakumbi, iingoma ezazisa iingcamango ezinzima kunye nesigama esitsha sinokuqwalaselwa.
Kubo bonke abantwana, ukucula kuzisa imvakalelo elungileyo kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kwaye sisixhobo esihle sokukhumbula. Iingoma ozicula kunye nabantwana bakho ziya kugcinwa kwimemori kangangokuba xa abantwana bakho bekhulile kwaye baqala usapho lwabo, baya kubacula kunye nabazukulwana bakho.
4. Jonga umhlaba
Ukuthatha ixesha veki nganye lokufunda into entsha nomntwana wakho kuyamangalisa ukuba kufuneka ubeke phambili. Oku kuya kubonisa abantwana bakho indlela oluxabisa ngayo umdla wokufunda kunye nokufunda, kodwa kuya kukudibanisa nabantwana bakho ngakumbi. Ungabhiyozela uloyiso ekwabelwana ngalo nabantwana bakho kwaye wonwabele izinto ezintsha kunye nemiceli mngeni. Umzekelo, ungaya kwiiklasi zokudanisa kunye, uthathe iiklasi zokuzikhusela okanye wenze igadi okanye ucweyo ... Yindlela hayi yokufunda kuphela, kodwa kunye nokukhula kunye. Iya kuba ngamava omlingo kuye wonke umntu.
5. Yenza imishini yosapho
Kubalulekile ukuba uthathele ingqalelo njengosapho ukuba zithini na ezona zithethe zakho kwaye, ukuze ube nakho ukwenza izigqibo ezincinci nezikhulu ebomini kunye. Ukongeza, izimvo zabantwana bakho ziya kubaluleka nakwimihla ngemihla, into ebalulekileyo kubantwana ukuba bazive beyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yosapho, ukuze bazive benoxanduva lokuba lilungu elinye losapho. Ukuze abantwana bazive bebandakanyekile kwezi zigqibo, ungababuza nokuba ucinga ntoni malunga nemiba ethile.
6. Uqinisekiso oluqinisekileyo yonke imihla
Abantwana njengoko bekhula baya kufumana indawo yabo kweli hlabathi linesiphithiphithi apho kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ilinganayo okanye ukuba yonke into ayizinzanga. Akukho lula ebantwaneni nakwishumi elivisayo ukufumana indawo yabo ... ukuba kumaxesha amaninzi akukho lula nakubantu abadala! Kodwa abantwana bakho bayakudinga ngale nto, bafuna wena ukuba ubakhokele kwaye ubancede benze ezona zigqibo zibalaseleyo ngokusekwe kwiminqweno neengcinga zabo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ilizwi lenkuthazo, mxelele ukuba uyazingca ngaye, yiba ngumzekelo olungileyo… Yonke into ibalulekile ukuze abantwana bazive kwaye benze isiqinisekiso esihle yonke imihla, beshiya ukungakhathali ecaleni ... Kwaye bafunde ukubona iglasi isiqingatha igcwele endaweni yesiqingatha singenanto. Yivuleleni izimvo, cingani kunye ngemiba yobomi, vumela abantwana bakho ukuba bacinge ngokuvakalayo kunye naweBayakuqonda ukuba uyinkxaso yabo kwaye ukuthembela kwakho akunakwaphulwa nantoni na. Oku kubalulekile ukuze umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile kwaye ukonwaba kwakhe kuyinyani ebomini bakhe.
7. Hlakulela umbulelo
Ukubonisa umbulelo kunye nokuchonga iimvakalelo oziva unombulelo kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuziva wonwabile kwaye uxabise izinto onazo ebomini, ushiye bucala ezo ungenazo. Kubalulekile ukuba nombulelo ebomini, nakwezona zinto zincinci.
Oku kuyakukhuthaza ithemba kubomi babantwana, kunye nemfesane okanye ithemba. Oku kunokwenziwa ngokuba nomzobo eludongeni okanye kwenye indawo ebonakalayo apho abantwana banokubonisa ngokukhululekileyo umbulelo wabo. Kubalulekile ukuba itshathi yokubulela okanye igrafu ibonakale ukuze abantwana bayibone yonke imihla kwaye ke basebenze kuhlobo lombulelo.