Ngokunokwenzeka, ukhe wanemeko apho ubucinga ngayo Ukugcina unxibelelwano olufanelekileyo nabantwana bakho kwakungumsebenzi onzima. Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha ukhe uvakalelwe kukuba uyaphulukana nolawulo kwaye ulawulwa yiminqweno yakho nokuba unomsindo kwaye nomonde wakho uyancipha ebantwaneni bakho. Kodwa, zeziphi iintsapho ezingazange zenzeke?
Ngamanye amaxesha bafuna ukuba sikholelwe ukuba bakho abo tata noomama abagqibeleleyo abangaze bacaphuke, abasoloko benomonde kwaye abangacaphukisiyo okanye boyiswe yiyo nantoni na. Ngokwam, ndikufumanisa kunzima kakhulu ukukholelwa. Andikabi ngumama okwangoku, kodwa ukukhulisa umntwana kubandakanya uxanduva olukhulu, ukuziqhelanisa nokwamkela imiceli mngeni. Ndiyibona iyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba iintsapho ziziva zonganyelwe kwaye zilahlekile kwezinye iimeko.
Enye yezona meko zinzima (kunye nomceli mngeni) kuni njengabazali yile unxibelelwano nabantwana bakho. Xa ndithetha ngonxibelelwano andibhekiseli kumagama nakwinto esiyithethayo. Sinokunxibelelana nangezimbo zomzimba kunye nokujonga (Oko kukuthi, unxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama). Ke ngoko, ngamanye amaxesha akubalulekanga kangako ukuba uthini ebantwaneni kodwa indlela oyithetha ngayo kunye nento oyibonisayo.
Ukuqwalasela unxibelelwano ngomlomo nangaphandle komlomo Ndiqulunqe isikhokelo esilula nesiluncedo kuwe ukuze uphucule unxibelelwano nabantwana bakho. Masibabone!
Yabelana ngexesha losapho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uchithe ixesha nosapho lwakho yonke imihla: ukupheka, ukudlala, ukwenza imisebenzi yangaphandle ... Ngalo maxesha, abantwana bakho baya kuba bekhululekile kwaye baya kuziva bezithembile xa beqala incoko nawe.
Ukumamela ngononophelo
Mhlawumbi le ngongoma yenye yezona zibalulekileyo ukufezekisa uphuculo olusebenzayo kunxibelelwano nabantwana bakho. Kubalulekile ukuba xa abantwana bekuxelela into bazi ukuba umamele njengokujonga emehlweni, ukuba nomdla kwinto abayithethayo, ukugcina unxibelelwano olungasebenzisi magama lusebenza ... Ngale ndlela, abantwana bakho baya kuziva exabisekile kwaye uya kuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ukuqala incoko nawe.
Yenza imozulu ekhuselekileyo nenokuthenjwa
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukudala indawo ekhuselekileyo nekhululekileyo ukuze abantwana bakho bangoyiki okanye bangafuni xa benxibelelana nawe. Oko kukuthi, imozulu kude ne ukungathembani, uxinzelelo kunye nemithambo-luvo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba abantwana bazive bezolile kwaye bekhuselekile xa bethetha nawe. Ukhuseleko kunye nokuthembela kunefuthe kakhulu ekugcineni unxibelelwano nabantwana bakho ngakumbi ulwelo kwaye luyinyani.
Ukumemeza akuncedisi imeko yosapho konke konke
Unokuba neentsuku ezimbi emsebenzini ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ukhathazekile, unomsindo, kwaye uyabamba. Kwaye ngenxa yeso sizathu, ngamanye amaxesha unokuba uqhutywa ziimpembelelo zakho kwaye isikhalo siphume emlonyeni wakho sisingise ebantwaneni. Ngokucacileyo, uyazisola kwangoko kwaye uyakuqonda (kwezi meko kuyacetyiswa kakhulu ukuba uxolise ebantwaneni ukuze bazi ukuba nawe wenza iimpazamo kwaye wenza iimpazamo).
Kodwa kufuneka icace gca ukuba ukukhwaza kubangela uxinzelelo, ukungonwabi kunye noxinzelelo kwimeko yosapho kwaye ukuba zenzeka amatyeli amaninzi, Abantwana baya koyika iimpendulo zakho kwaye kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kubo ukuqala incoko nawe ngenxa yoloyiko nokwaliwa. Ngale ndlela, uya kuthintela unxibelelwano olusempilweni nabantwana bakho kwaye ungabikho kuloyiko.
Uvelwano: umhlobo omkhulu
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba xa abantwana bekuxelela into uzame ukuzibeka endaweni yabo kwaye wazi ukuba baziva njani. Umzekelo: ukuba bakuxelele ukuba baphikisene nomhlobo wabo osenyongweni okanye ukuba ikho into abayivileyo, Kubalulekile ukuba ungazithobi izimvo kwaye ungatsho ukuba "Ndiqinisekile ukuba izakugqitha ngomso." Kukho abantwana abanobuthathaka ngendlela engathethekiyo kwaye ukuba bayaliva elo binzana lisuka kubazali babo banokuziva bengaqondwa kwaye bengaxabiswanga. Ke ngoko, ukuba umamele kwaye uzibeke endaweni yabo kubalulekile kunxibelelwano olufanelekileyo nabantwana bakho.
Hlonipha ubuqu bakho
Umntwana ngamnye wahlukile, wahlukile kwaye unetalente eyahlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kucingelwa ukuba kokona kulungileyo ukufundisa abantwana ukuba benze njengabo bonke abantu kwaye bangachasani nomsinga. Kodwa loo nto kum ilahlekile kubuntu bokwenyani bomntwana. Mfundise ukuba abe ngumntu ongachanekanga. Abantwana bakho basenokungabi nabo abahlobo abaninzi okanye babe ngama-introverts kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abanazakhono zintlalontle kodwa bakhethe ngaloo ndlela.
Enye into ebaluleke kakhulu endinokuyibonisa kweli nqanaba kukuba umntwana ngamnye ukhetha indlela yakhe, iinjongo zakhe kunye neenjongo zakhe. Kutheni ndisitsho nje? Kuba kukho ootata noomama abafuna ukuba abantwana babo bahambe emanyathelweni abo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banyanzele abantwana ukuba balandele indlela efanayo nabo. Oku kunokubangela ukungonwabi nokungazithembi ebantwaneni kuba abanako ukuzikhethela into abafuna ukuyenza kubo bonke ubomi babo. Ngokucacileyo, ukungabahloneli abantwana kunye nezigqibo zabo akukuncedi ekubeni ube nonxibelelwano oluthembekileyo noluthembekileyo nabantwana bakho.
Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo: esisiseko kwimeko yosapho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nina njengabazali ziqonde ezakho iimvakalelo kwaye wazi ukuba uziqonde kwaye uzilawule njani ukuze ukhokele abantwana bakho kwezabo. Ngesi sizathu, ndincoma ukuba ujonge amaxwebhu kwi-intanethi okanye kumathala eencwadi malunga nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kuba sesinye sezitshixo sonxibelelwano nabantwana bakho ukuba balunge ngangokunokwenzeka. Abanye abantwana ukuveza iimvakalelo akukho lula konke konke, yiyo loo nto le bendiyithetha ngaphambili ibaluleke kakhulu: ukudala imeko-bume ekhuselekileyo, ethembekileyo nenothando ukukhusela ukungavisisani, ukunganyaniseki nokungathembani.
Musa ukungena kwimfihlo yakho okanye uxinzelelo
Ndicinga ukuba akukho mntu mdala sithanda umntu ukuba eze ebomini bethu aze ahlasele indawo yethu. Njengokuba abantwana bekhula kwaye bangena kwinqanaba lokufikisa bafuna ukuba bodwa kwaye babe bodwa. Bayayidinga indawo yabo kwaye ayisiyonto imbi leyo. Ukubacinezela ukuba bathethe nawe kwaye ungabavumeli baphefumle okomzuzwana kuya kubangela ukuba barhoxe ngakumbi kubo kwaye bangafuni ukwabelana nantoni na. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndincoma ukuba ubuze imibuzo elula eyakha ukuthembana nokuzithemba. Ngale ndlela, baya kuziva bekhululekile ukukuxelela amathandabuzo abo, izinto abazilindeleyo kunye noloyiko lwabo ngendlela esempilweni.
Bakhumbuze ngeempawu zabo ezintle
Ngamanye amaxesha, kuye kwandinika imvakalelo yokuba abanye abazali babona kuphela iimpazamo zabantwana babo kwaye bahlala ukuze babalungise. Ngokucacileyo, sonke siyazenza iimpazamo kodwa kufuneka sigqamise kwaye siqaqambise okuhle nokuhle. Kubalulekile ukuba ungagxili kuphela kwizinto ezenziwa kakubi ngabantwana bakho kodwa ujonge nakwizinto ezilungileyo kwaye ubaxelele. Kuya kufuneka ubabonise ukuba banezakhono ezintle kunye nobuchule kwaye unebhongo ngabo. Ngale ndlela, uya kuba ukhuthaza ukuzithemba kwaye uya kuphucula unxibelelwano nabantwana bakho.
Ukuzikhusela ngokugqithisileyo kunokukhokelela kukuzithemba okuphantsi
Kuqhelekile ukuba njengabazali awufuni kwenzeke nantoni na ebantwaneni bakho okanye ubenzakalise kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uhlala ubakhusele kakhulu, ukholelwa ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo kubo. Kodwa loo nto ayiyonyani: lAbantwana kufuneka bafunde ukwenza izinto bebodwa, kufuneka benze iimpazamo, kufuneka basilele kwaye kufuneka bazifumanele umhlaba ngokwabo (ngenkxaso yakho, ewe). Ukuba ukhuthaza ukuzimela okuyimfuneko, abantwana baya kwazi ukuba uyabathemba kwaye iya kuba yindawo efanelekileyo yokunxibelelana nabantwana bakho.