Sonke sichanabeka kulwimi olunobutshaba, ngamanye amaxesha sigcwele amagama ahlabayo. Oko kubizwa ngokuba yi "expletive" kuhamba nathi ngaphezu kokuba befanelekile. Zisetyenziswa ngokuhamba rhoqo kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo yangaphandle: usapho, imithombo yeendaba, njl.
Intsapho yeyona meko iphambili yokuhlalisana, kuye kwafunyanwa umbono wokuqala wolwimi kunye nokuziphatha. Abantwana zizipili ezivelisa kanye oko zikubonayo. Ukuba bayayibona ebantwini ibalulekile kubo, baya kuyiphinda ngakumbi, kuba indlela yokuziphatha iqinisekisiwe. Ukulinganisa isigama sethu phambi kwabantwana bethu kubalulekile ukubathintela ekungeniseni intetho engcolileyo kwisigama sabo.
Nangona kunjalo, kuqhelekile ukufumana iintsapho apho amagama anenzondo engasetyenziswanga kwaye abantwana babo baqala ukuwazala. Njengoko besiphawulile, zininzi iimeko apho abantwana bethu bakhula khona kwaye la magama anokuvela kubo. Indlela osabela ngayo xa uthuka kuqala ibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuba sifuna umntwana wethu angatsaleleki ekusebenziseni amagama athukayo, bhala phantsi. Isohlwayo, ubaxo onje "uyivile into ethethwa ngumntwana?", Njalo njalo. babanceda kuphela baqonde ukuba la magama anamandla kunabantu abadala. Ezi ndlela zihlala zingasebenzi, njengoko ziphela zisenza amagama abe namandla. Bafunda ukuba luncedo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye baya kuzisebenzisa kaninzi.
Phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwemi-5 ukubonakala kwamagama esiqalekiso kwisigama sabantwana kuhlala kunxulumene nokuxeliswa kweemodeli, ngaphandle kokuqonda ngqo intsingiselo yala magama. Iya kuba kukusabela okwenziwa leli gama kubantu abadala okunika intsingiselo. Ukuba xa beyibiza, wonke umntu ujonge omnye komnye, kwaye abanye bayayicinezela, uyazi ukuba ayifanelekanga ukuyithetha, kodwa inokuba luncedo ngamaxesha omsindo kunye nokukhathazeka kuba uyazi ukuba isebenza kwiimeko ezingalunganga.
Kuthekani ukuba xa umntwana wethu eqala ukusebenzisa la magama, singasabeli kuwo? Impendulo ilula, awuyi kudibanisa naziphi na iziphumo, nokuba zezintle okanye ezimbi. Ngale ndlela uyakuyeka ukuyisebenzisa ngokungabinampembelelo kwabanye.
Ke ngoko, isisombululo sokuqala ekufuneka sisenzile xa sisusa amagama esiqalekiso kwisigama sabantwana kufuneka sibe njalo ungawahoyi la magama. Ngale ndlela kuphela abayi kufunda ukuba ukuzala kwabo kunokuba neziphumo ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi.