Ekubeni UDaniel coleman yenziwa yaziwa ngo-1995 imbono ye-Emotional Intelligence, bambalwa abakuqwalaseleyo ukubaluleka kweli cala kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo mihla le, nakwindlela esidibana ngayo. Nangona iyinyani, ixesha, ngoluhlobo, yayingeyonto intsha. Ingcali yezengqondo yaseMelika uWayne Payne, wayazisa okokuqala ngqa ngo-1985.
Kwakuyiminyaka elishumi apho umbono wobukrelekrele waqala ukutshintsha, kwaye ababhali abanjengoHoward Gardner ngencwadi yakhe ethi "Multiple Intelligences", basizisela umbono onokutshintsha iindlela ezininzi, kunye neendlela ezintsha zokuqonda imfundo. Ukukhuthaza kunye nokufaka ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo kubantwana bethu, iya kubanceda kwiinkalo ezininzi, kwaye kwi «Madres hoy»Sifuna ukukunika izitshixo ezisisiseko.
Ukubaluleka kokufundisa kwiimvakalelo
Siza kuqala ngokuphendula umbuzo obalulekileyo uninzi lwabafundi bethu abanokuzibuza wona ngoku: Kutheni kubalulekile ukubafundisa abantwana bam kubukrelekrele boMvakalelo?
Cinga okomzuzwana ngezi ngcamango, kwaye uza kubona ukuba kwangoko, uyazi ukuba kutheni:
- Imfundo yomntwana ayikhawulelwanga ekumfundiseni ukuhamba, ukuthetha okanye ukwazi ukuba ngowuphi umlambo ogqitha eBudapest. Ukufundisa kukwafundisa indlela yokuphila, kwaye ukuphila kukwazi ukuba ndonwaba njani kwaye ndingonwaba njani kwabanye.
- Ulawulo lweemvakalelo lubalulekile kubomi bemihla ngemihla bomntwana. Ungamfundisa ukuba ukudana okanye ukukhathazeka akuphumi emsindweni, ukulila kuyakhulula kangako nokwazi indlela yokunxibelelana, kwaye kulungile ukuba wazi "indlela yokunxiba izihlangu" zabanye ukuze baqonde indlela abaziva ngayo, ukuze yazi ukuba yintoni uvelwano.
Kude kube namhla, imfundiso apho ulwazi olufanelekileyo kunye nolawulo lweemvakalelo lubekwa phambili akukabekwa kakuhle kwikharityhulam yesikolo.
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba ezinye izikolo zemfundo yabantwana abasaqalayo sele zisebenza ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zezixhobo ngalo mbandela, isidingo soku bonelela ngezakhono ezilungileyo kubuNgcali boMvakalelo (i-EI).
Inqaku, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, elinokuba linomdla kakhulu kwimfundo yamabanga aphakamileyo, apho abakwishumi elivisayo bebeka khona ubuntu babo, kwaye kufuneka bajongane nezo mpikiswano zangaphakathi nezingaphakathi kwabantu eziya kuphawula inxenye yobomi babo.
Iintsika ezisisiseko ekusekwe kuzo ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo zizinto ezisibhozo, uthotho lwezinto, kude nokuzinza, ukukhula nokukhula ebomini bethu bonke. Kungoko ukubaluleka kwe- faka le milinganiselo kwimfundo yabancinci ngokukhawuleza:
- Ukuqonda
- Ukuzithetha kunye nabanye ngokweemvakalelo
- Izakhono zentlalo
- Uvelwano
- Ukuzithemba
- Ukuzithemba
- Ukuzithemba
- Ukuzimela
Masibone ngoku Izitshixo ezi-4 zokufundisa kubuhlakani boMvakalelo (i-EI).
1. Sebenza kwiimvakalelo ezisisiseko
Njengoko sele uyazi, iimvakalelo ezisisiseko okanye eziphambili zezi: uvuyo, uloyiko, umsindo kunye nosizi. Uza kuqala nini ke ukwazi ukuba ungazichonga njani, uziqonde okanye wazi ukuba ungazilawula njani?
Njengomama kufuneka siyicace loo nto Imfundo yomntwana, kholwa okanye ungakholelwa, iqala ngomhla wokuqala. Inyaniso elula yokumnika ezinye zeendlela, ezinye zokulala kunye nezikhokelo zokutya, kunye noluhlu olupheleleyo lwezimbo zothando nothando, sele zifundisa.
Ukususela kumzuzu wokuqala uthabatha umntwana wakho ngengalo yakho uze umgungqise, sele ufundisa amaxabiso anamandla akhoyo: kuthando nakukhuseleko.
Njengoko bekhula uya kubona kubo "ukudubula" okucacileyo kuzo zonke ezi mvakalelo zisisiseko zikhankanywe ekuqaleni. Mfundise ukufumanisa umsindo, uloyiko, uvuyo...kwaye, emva koko, ukuziqonda kwabanye.
Ungaze ube madolw 'anzima ukubabuza besebancinci ukuba baziva njani, babenze bahlule kuqala «ingqumbo yosizi. Uninzi lwabantwana lunokusabela ngomsindo xa luswele kwaye luziva lusizi.
Benze bazi indlela yokwahlulahlula, bachaze ngawabo amazwi okanye bazobe ukuba baziva njani.
2. Ndizibeka ezicathulweni zabanye
Lo msebenzi kufuneka ubekhona mihla le kwaye uqheleke kubomi bemihla ngemihla bomntwana. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba kufuneka bazi indlela yokuqonda ezabo iimvakalelo kubo, kubalulekile ukuba, nabo, bazi ukuba bangaziqonda njani kwabanye.
- Uvelwano yintsika esisiseko yokuphila kunye. Ikhuthaza ukuqonda, intlonipho kunye nokumanyana.
- Ukuchonga kwezinye iimvakalelo umntu "anazo" kudala ubudlelwane kunye nembeko kwabo bandingqongileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ayiqonde ngokukhawuleza.
- Ngoku, singayifumana njani? Mbuze imibuzo, uvuse umdla wakhe kwiimvakalelo zabanye abantu: Ubabone njani ootatomkhulu namhlanje? Ngaba ucinga ukuba babonwabile, ukuba babediniwe? Ucinga ukuba umhlobo wakho eklasini yakho uziva njani ngokungammemi kusuku lwakho lokuzalwa?
3. Sifunda ukuzithanda
Fundisa umntwana ukuzixabisa nokuzithandaKubaluleke njengokutya esikunikayo okanye iimpahla esizinxiba ngazo. Ukuzithemba sisixhobo sentlalo-ntle yangaphakathi, kunye nokukhula njengomntu, lowo ngomso uya kukunika inkuthazo yokujongana nehlabathi.
- Ukuzithemba kuyakhuthazwa emntwaneni ngokumnika ukhuseleko ngalo lonke ixesha. Nika ukuzithemba ngamabinzana akhayo: "Ewe uza kuyiphumeza", "ufanelwe kokona kulungileyo", "inokuba ikonakele kuwe ngoku, kodwa ukuba uyazama kwakhona izakulunga."
- Ukubaluleka kokuzithemba kuqala xa abantwana bezazi ngokwabo ngokunxulumene nabanye. Esinye seziseko apho ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo bukondliwa khona
- Bayakuyiqaphela ingakumbi kwiminyaka yokuqala yesikolo, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba phambi kokuba baqale ukunxulumana, babe nezinto zokuzikhusela, bakwazi ukuzimela, soloko esazi ukuba bayathandwa kwaye baxhaswa sithi.
4. Ndivakalisa indlela endivakalelwa ngayo, kwaye ndiyayazi indlela yokumamela kuwe
Sukuvumela abantwana bakho bafikelele kwinqanaba lokufikisa ngokuba ulutsha ulusu abakwaziyo ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye baya kusoloko befuna ukuba bodwa kwigumbi labo elivaliweyo, ukuhambisa umsindo wabo ngokuvakalayo, ukuthetha malunga noloyiko lwabo, ukwazi indlela yokuchaza iimfuno zabo ...
Singayifumana njani? Thatha ingqalelo le miba apho ubuNtloko boBukrelekrele buya kuhlala busisixhobo sethu:
- Ukuseka ingxoxo engaguquguqukiyo, eyonwabisayo kunye neyamanzi nabantwana kuba bebancinci.
- Musa ukohlwaya, musa ukugweba, ungagxeki okanye uhlekise ngento ethethwa ngabantwana bakho. Okwangoku, xa beqonda ukuba amazwi abo aza kugwetywa kwaye iimvakalelo zabo zingangunobangela wokugxekwa, bayayeka ukunxibelelana nawe.
- Baphulaphule kwaye baphikisane ngaphandle kokugxeka, wenze onke amagama aphuma emlonyeni wabo abalulekile kuwe kwaye bawaqonde ngaloo ndlela.
- Kananjalo, kubalulekile ukuba bayazi ukuba bazimase njani, ukugcina ukujonga ngamehlo nokuhlonipha izimvo. Unxibelelwano kukwabelana ngentlonipho ngezimvo, iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga, kwaye esi sisipho ongaze usiphose yonke imihla nabantwana bakho.
Khuthaza imfundo esekwe kwiimvakalelo kubantwana bakho ukusukela kumzuzu wokuqala, nakuwo wonke umzuzu wobomi babo. Ngaloo nto, uya kunika umhlaba wonwabile kwaye uzimelele kubantu abadala abaya kukwazi ukwenza abanye abantu bonwabe.
Ukufezekisa oku, khumbula ukuba kufuneka wenze ngobukrelekrele beemvakalelo oboneleyo onokuthi ube ngumzekelo kubantwana bakho.