Ngokungena esikolweni, abantwana baqala ukwakha ubuhlobo babo bokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuba ukusukela kwiminyaka emithathu uqale ukubiza abanye 'njengezihlobo'. Abantwana baqala ukuqonda ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba nobudlelwane nabanye kwaye kukho abantu abanokuvana ngcono kunabanye. Ubuhlobo bokuqala kunye nabahlobo bokuqala ebomini babantwana bakho bazalwa.
Abahlobo, kanye njengokuba bekwazi ukudlala, banokuba nokungaqondani okuqhelekileyo besebancinci. Amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana aneminyaka emi-3- kunye ne-4 ubudala bazicingela bodwa kwaye banemvakalelo ephezulu ngenxa yoko kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubo ukuba babe 'nentiyo-nothando' ubudlelwane kunye noontanga babo. Kodwa ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ukuba akhe ubuhlobo obusempilweni?
Ubuhlobo beminyaka yobudala basesikolweni buba nomdlalo ongaphezulu kweeveki ezine zentsimbi. Uninzi lwabantwana abaneminyaka emithathu ukuya kwemine ubudala banexhala lokuba nabahlobo, kodwa banokucinga ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba nomhlobo olungileyo. Abantwana abakule minyaka yobudala banokuxelela omnye umntwana ukuba ngoyena mhlobo wabo usenyongweni kwaye ngomzuzu omnye bangabaxelela ukuba baye kwitheko labo lokuzalwa kwaye ngosuku olulandelayo banokucaphuka nangasiphi na isizathu, kodwa kuya kuhlala imizuzwana emibini ngaphambi kokuba baphinde badlale.
Kule minyaka, abantwana bayathandana kwaye bayathanda ukuba kunye nabahlobo babo., kodwa bayathanda ukuphikisana kwaye balungile. Konke oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukunceda abantwana abancinci bakhe ii-bond ezomeleleyo, nezisempilweni. Ke, unokuba sisikhokelo esihle ukuze babe nobudlelwane obusempilweni kwaye bazive bonwabile nabahlobo ababenzayo kubo bonke ubomi babo.
Thetha ngeemvakalelo rhoqo
Abafundi basesikolweni baqala ukuqonda ukuba abanye abantu baneengcinga kunye neemvakalelo ezinokwahluka kwezabo. Obu bubuchule obutsha obuvumela abantwana abangafundanga ukuba bakwazi ukukhathalela nokuthuthuzela umhlobo xa benobunzima… baqala ukuba novelwano. Uvelwano kufuneka lukhathalelwe ukusukela kule minyaka kuba kuyimfuneko ukukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kunye obuhlala buhleli.
Ngelixa abantwana abancinci bejonga kunina ukuba bathuthuzele omnye umntwana okhalayo, abantwana abaneminyaka emithathu nengane bayaqonda ukuba umhlobo wabo uya kumthanda umama kunaye nawuphi na umntu omdala. Uphando lubonisa ukuba xa abazali bethetha ngeemvakalelo rhoqo njengoko zivela kubomi bokwenyani, kwiimuvi, okanye ezincwadini, abantwana bayakwazi ukusebenza ngovelwano ngaphakathi kwaye bacinge indawo engcono yokujonga abanye. Bafunda ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye bazibeke ezihlangwini zabanye abantu.
Ukwazi ukuzibeka ngokwembono yabanye sisiseko esisiseko sobuhlobo. Ungathetha nabantwana izinto ezinje: 'Uyoyika kuba khange ayenze le nto ngaphambili' okanye mhlawumbi: 'Uyavuya kuba umhlobo wakhe wabelane naye ngemibala yokupeyinta kunye'.
Hlela ixesha lokudlala nabantwana
Ukudlala kunye lithuba elihle lokuba abantwana bahlalisane, ke ukucwangcisa ixesha lokudlala licebo elilungileyo lokuba baqale ukusebenza kwi-bond bond. Nangona amaqela amakhulu emidlalo enokonwaba ngakumbi, umntwana wakho angonwaba ngakumbi ukuba ucwangcisa ixesha lokudlala nomnye umntwana. Abasaqala isikolo banokhetho lwabantwana abathile kunabanye, ke unokufuna ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi na umhlobo afuna ukummemela endlwini yakhe azokudlala.
Xa abantwana bebancinci baneminyaka emithathu nemine ubudala, lixesha elihle kubo ukuba banandiphe umdlalo wokomfuziselo kwaye babe nakho ukwenza imiboniso ethile entsonkothileyo yokucinga. Banokonwaba besilwa nabanye ngokungathi ngamadabi, bengabagqirha bezilwanyana ... nawuphi na umdlalo omele inyani yabantu abadala ngumdlalo olungileyo kubo.
Kuba abantwana bayazana kakuhle xa bebahlobo, baya kuyazi indlela yokulungelelanisa kakuhle kwimidlalo yokomfuziselo, kangangokuba ukuba ubukele okwethutyana uyakothuka ngumbutho wabo. Thina bantu badala kufuneka sifunde kwizakhono zabo.
Xa uququzelela idinga lokuba umntwana wakho adlale nomnye umntwana phakathi kweyure enesiqingatha kunye neeyure ezimbini kungaphezulu kunokwanele ukuba benze ubudlelwane obomeleleyo beemvakalelo. Nangona bebonakala bevana kunye nabanye, inyani kukuba ngumsebenzi onzima kubo ukwenza abahlobo. Ke kungcono ukuwugqiba umhla ocwangcisiweyo ngenqaku eliphezulu kunokuba ulinde de abantwana badinwe kwaye bangonwabanga, into enokuba nefuthe kubuhlobo babo bobuhlobo.
Fundisa uvelwano
Nangona abantwana abafundayo bafunda ukuba novelwano, ngamanye amaxesha banokubakhathalela abanye. Abantwana bathambekele ekucingeni ukuba abanye abantwana bacinga ngendlela efanayo, kodwa xa umhlobo engazenzi into ayifunayo Banokuziva bekhathazekile kwaye bengasafuni ukuba ngumhlobo wakho - okwethutyana.
Abantwana bangaxoxa ngezinto abanazo, ngubani oza kukhwela ngaphambi kokuba anike ibhayisekile, okanye ngabaphi abalinganiswa abaza kumela umdlalo okomfuziselo. Banokubakhuphela ngaphandle abanye abantwana kumdlalo ... oku kwenzeka kuba befuna ukukhusela ummandla wabo okanye ngenxa yokuba bexakekile xa bezama ukulungelelanisa umdlalo kwaye kubonakala abantwana abaninzi, kwaye oku kungalingani umbutho wabo womdlalo.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abulise abahlobo bakhe, yithi nceda kwaye uyabulela, ukuze akwazi ukutshintshana kwaye abelane nabanye. Ukuba uyalwa nomnye umntwana, kubalulekile ukuba uchaze ukuba uziva njani umhlobo wakho kwaye ubuze ukuba ungenza ntoni ukunceda umhlobo wakho azive engcono. Ukuba ubona ukuba akayazi indlela yokwenza, ungayiqondisa kwakhona imeko kwaye nenze nobabini niziva niphilile.