Ulutsha oluninzi lunoxinzelelo kwaye luxhalabile kwaye uninzi alazi ukuba kutheni okanye kwenzeka ntoni kubo. Ngamaxesha amaninzi oku kuyenzeka kuba bengaziboni iimvakalelo zabo. Ebuntwaneni babo, ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo abuzange busetyenzwe kwaye ke, abazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo okanye ukuba benzeni ukuze bazive bhetele. Ukuba kunjalo, kubalulekile ukunceda umntwana okwishumi elivisayo oziva enexinzelelo. kwaye uxhalabile ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kakuhle.
Ukuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba yinxalenye yobomi bayo bonke abakwishumi elivisayo kwanaye nawuphi na umntu. Kubalulekile ukuthatha ixesha elaneleyo lokumamela abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo kwaye ufumanise ukuba kutheni beziva njalo, babenze baqonde ukuba kutheni benje kwaye ngakumbi, babakhokele ekufumaneni ukuba zeziphi ezona zisombululo zibalaseleyo okanye ezona ziluncedo ekufuneka bazenzile ukuze bazive bhetele.
Iimvakalelo zokufikisa
Iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo inokuba nzima kakhulu, iphawulwe ngotshintsho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, ukhetho olutsha kunye noxanduva, kunye nokudaleka kobudlelwane nabantu abasingqongileyo. Kodwa IiHormone ayisiyiyo kuphela into eyolisayo kulutsha. Abantu abancinci baya besanda ukubonisa ukungakwazi kwabo ukubhengeza oyena nobangela wokubandezeleka kunye nentlungu. Ezi ziphumo zinefuthe elibi kuphuhliso lwazo lweemvakalelo, kuba ukwazi ukuba yintoni esenza sizive singalunganga kubalulekile ukuze sikwazi ukufumana izisombululo ezifanelekileyo.
Ukonyusa isantya sobomi kudala uxinzelelo ngakumbi kulutsha kwaye lubanike ixesha elincinci lokujongana nezithintelo ezinokubakho. Itekhnoloji ibonelele ngezixhobo ezibalulekileyo zokuqokelela ulwazi kunye nokunxibelelana, kodwa ngexabiso lolunye unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo: unxibelelwano nosapho. Unxibelelwano losapho kunye nesikhokelo sabazali kubalulekile ukuba abantwana babe nakho ukujongana nobomi bokwenyani.
Uninzi lolutsha kunye nabazali baye bakwazi ukuhamba kule ndawo enodaka ngokulungelelanisa iishedyuli kunye nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo ngeendlela ezizodwa ngokuxhomekeke kusapho ngalunye, kodwa ulutsha oluchatshazelwe kukuxhalaba kunye nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo lusokola kakhulu kunakuqala.ukuziva ungcono, kodwa ngaphandle kokwazi indlela yokwenza ngayo, baya kuziva bebi kakhulu amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ulutsha lufumana injongo yalo ngobuhlobo
Abafikisayo, xa baziva benganxibelelananga kangako neentsapho zabo kunye noontanga babo okanye abahlobo (okuhlala kwenzeka kwilizwe lethu elixakekileyo), iingxaki zabo zempilo yengqondo ziye zisiba mandundu kwaye zibe yingxaki enkulu.
Ukwenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi kulutsha, ilizwe lihlala lihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye abakwazi ukufumanisa ukuba babakhathalele ngantoni kanye okanye bafikelele njani kumalungu osapho okanye abo babathandayo kodwa bakholelwa ukuba abanxibelelananga kakhulu kwaye banqwenela ukuba babephosisile Into abayaziyo ngokuqinisekileyo kukuba baxhalabile, badandathekile okanye ukuba baziva bembi kakhulu ... Kwaye baziva bengenakho ukuba bhetele, baziva bengamalolo kwaye bengenathemba.
Abafikisayo banzima kakhulu kunakuqala ngoxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala, ke kubalulekile ukuba bobabini abazali kunye nabantu abadala ababangqongileyo, kufuneka baziphaphele iimpawu ezinokubangela ukuba aba bafikisayo bangaphili ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Singabanceda njani abakwishumi elivisayo abasokolayo ukuba baqonde kakuhle ukuba yintoni abayilwelayo kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo? Kuyimfuneko ukuba babize iimvakalelo zabo kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba bayayazi indlela yokufumana izinto ezibenza bazive bengalunganga Ukuze ufumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo. Inxalenye yesisombululo, kubonakala ngathi ilula njengoko inenguqulelo: ukunciphisa iiyure zethu, beka iifowuni ecaleni kwaye umamele yonke into abaya kuyithetha kuthi, nokuba ayinamazwi.
Ukuva ilizwi nokwenza unxibelelwano lobuqu kubalulekile kwaye akusoloko kuthe tye, njengoko ulutsha olunxungupheleyo ludla ngokuswela izakhono zonxibelelwano zokuchaza indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Abazali bahlala beziva bebotshiwe izandla neenyawo kuba bengazi ukuba bajongane njani nezi meko.
Ungamnceda njani uMntu oXhalabileyo noXinzelelweyo
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo unexhala, unoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, kuyakubaluleka ukuba uthathe ingqalelo kwezinye izinto ezisisiseko ukuze ukwazi ukumnceda kwaye azive esondele kuwe. Kungenzeka ukuba ekuqaleni akafuni ukuthetha okanye ukunxibelelana okanye azame ukukwenza ubone ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ... Kodwa inyani kukuba bayakudinga ukuba uzive usondele, nokuba abakubonisi okanye bazame ukwenza ukuba ubone okwahlukileyo.
Ezi zezinye zeengongoma ezisisiseko ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni ukuze ube nakho ukubandakanyeka kwiimvakalelo zolutsha lwakho kwaye ngenxa yoko ubancede kwaye bazive bexhaswa ngalo lonke ixesha kuwe:
- Khangela iimpawu. Utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo umntwana wakho, ukutshintsha kwemozulu okanye indlela abaphila ngayo okanye izinto azibona ngayo, ziya kubenza bazive utshintsho emzimbeni njengentloko okanye iingxaki zokutya nokulala. Oku kunokuba luphawu olucacileyo lwentlungu emzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
- Yenza ulutsha lwakho luqonde ukuba kulungile ukuba uzive ungalunganga, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye awunakuziva unetyala ngayo. Isitshixo kukufumana izisombululo zokuziva ungcono. Kubo, ncedisa abantwana bakho bachonge ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ngokubanzi kwaye ubazise ukuba ubomi buyaqhubeka kwaye baya kuba nakho ukuziva bonwabile kwakhona ngokufunda, ukuhleka nokuzonwabisa kwakhona.
- Beka phambili ixesha lokuchitha kunye nosapho. Lungiselela ukuphuma kosapho, isidlo sasemini okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye ubuncinci amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki (ngaphandle komabonwakude okanye iifowuni eziphathwayo). Yakha kwaye ukhulise ubudlelwane bosapho lobuqu ukuze abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo bazive bekwindawo ezinzileyo yosapho kwaye ke, bafunde ukuveza izimvo zabo kwaye bazi ukuba bayamanyelwa kwaye bayahlonitshwa ngabo babathandayo. Abakwishumi elivisayo bayakudinga nokuba abafuni kukubonisa.