NgoLwesine odlulileyo besingenakunceda ukubukela iindaba malunga nokuhlaselwa e-Barcelona, apho abantu abali-14 bebulewe kukubalekiswa, ngelixa abanye abaninzi besesibhedlele (kwaye abanye bekwimeko emaxongo); kwiiyure kamva eCambrils, iMoscos d'Escuadra yadubula yabanqolobi abahlanu. Njengoko sizama (singaphumeleli) ukufumanisa okwenzekileyo, inzondo enkulu! Ukujongela phantsi ubomi! abantwana bethu basibuza imibuzo emininzi, esingazi nokuba siyiphendule okanye hayi.

Senza ingxoxo-mpikiswano phakathi kokunyaniseka nokuvumela ixesha lidlule, masibone ukuba bayalibala na ... kodwa into esingenako ukuyilibala yile abancinci nabo bahlala kweli lizwe linzima nelitshintshayo. Nangona isenokungabonakali ngathi injalo, ngokuthetha ngokungafihlisiyo ngokwenzekileyo, sikwabafundisa, kwaye kuyo nayiphi na imeko kuya kuba lihlazo ukuphoswa lithuba lokuba bafumane olu lwazi kuthi kwasekuqaleni.

Kumntwana omncinci kuyothusa ukuva ukuba umntu ugqiba ngabom ubomi boontanga bakhe, kwaye kuya kubakho uninzi lwemibuzo. Akuqondakali ukuba ingqondo emsulwa (ngaphambi kweminyaka esi-8/9) ize iqonde ukuba umntu othile ukhokela isithuthi ngendlela efanayo nokhokelela kwintiyo yabo, kwaye ngokungakhathali baqhuba ngaphezulu kwabantu abaphila kwaye bonwabele ezabo. Ukubulawa kwabantu kubandakanya abantu abancinci, kubandakanya usana oluneminyaka emi-3 ubudala, oludala ukudideka nangakumbiUngambulala njani umntu ongonzakalisanga mntu, oxhomekeke kubazali phantse kuyo yonke into?

Ngaba ikhona indlela echanekileyo yokuthetha nabantwana bethu emva kohlaselo?

Akukho mpendulo kulo mbuzo, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba wenze ngathi unika iingcebiso ezichanekileyo, kodwa ndiyakholelwa ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba amantombazana namakhwenkwe afune ukusondela ngakumbi ngeli xesha, kunye nemiboniso ecacileyo yothando. Ngokukodwa kuthi, ngakumbi, kwaye ukuba sinakho ukuhlengahlengisa ulwimi kubudala benzala yethu, siya kubanceda kakhulu.. Ukuzola, ukuqonda, kunye nokungabikho kwezigwebo kuyimfuneko ngeli xesha, kuya kufuneka ufunde ezinye zeetweets ezikhuthaza inzondo ngokuchasene nabantu baseCatalan esifunda ngabo ngokuxhalabisayo ngolwe-Sihlanu; Kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuqinisekisa ukuba okwangoku imiqondiso ye-Islamophobia iyanda.

Enye ingcebiso eluncedo yile bonisa ukuzithemba kunye nokuveza iimvakalelo, kodwa ngendlela elawulwayo. Akuncedi nganto ukulila ungathuthuzeleki kwaye ungabinako nokuthetha igama (kwimeko yokuba singababukeli, yenye into enokuthi umntu othile omaziyo abe lixhoba); kodwa akukho nto yenzekayo ukuba basibona silusizi, ukudana kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kuyindalo kwezi meko.

Akukho buxoki okanye ukupeyinta ubomi kwipinki.

Abantwana bethu abadingi buxoki, kufuneka bazi: ukwazi kuyabanceda ukuba bakhulule iimvakalelo zabo ngcono, bazi ngaphandle 'kwezikrini zomsi' ivumela ukuba baqonde ngcono ifuthe leentlekele, kunye noonobangela abanokubakho kwezi ziganeko. Ngokuqonda izinto ezithile (ezinje ngobunqolobi) kwihlabathi liphela, into engenakwenzeka phambi kweminyaka eli-11 okanye eli-12, sikwanceda abo bantu bazakufikelela kubudala obusemthethweni, bathathe uxanduva kwihlabathi elahlukileyo nelinyamezelanayo.

Kukwacetyiswa ukuba uzame ukubazolisa ngokuthi izinto ezinje "akukho nto yenzekayo", kuba iyenzeka! Kwaye kukuba kwangaxeshanye siphepha ukuthintela iimvakalelo, sinokwenza okufanayo ngokuthintela isenzo. Kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ukuvala amehlo ethu akuncedi iintombi zethu noonyana bethu ukuba babe nakho ukulwela ilizwe ngoxolo. Ulwazi kufuneka lunyaniseke kangangoko, kodwa lungothusi kakhulu, zininzi iinkcukacha esinokuthi siziphephe ngokuxhomekeke kubudala.

Ukuhambelana kunika ukhuseleko.

Kubalulekile bayeke babe ngabo babuza ukungathandabuzeki kwabo, ababuze imibuzo yabo, abafumana iimfuno zabo kwaye bafune iimpendulo, thina kunye nathi siya kuba ecaleni kwakho, siphendule, siphindaphinde iinkxalabo zakho, kwaye silungise 'izigwebo' ezinokwenzeka ngokuchasene nokuhlala kunye ngoxolo. Uninzi lwabantwana bethu luyakhula kunye nabanye abancinci abane-Islam njengenkolo yabo, yindlela yokuphila inkolo eyahlula omnye komnye. Kungenzeka ngakumbi ukuba abahlobo babantwana bakho abangamaSilamsi, ukuba oomama babo (othetha nabo epakini) banxamnye nobundlobongela kwaye bayalugweba uhlaselo.

Lo mahluko kufuneka udluliselwe ebantwaneni xa sithetha ngawo, kuba kufuneka bazi ukuba ubudlelwane babo bunjani kunye nabanye abantwana, kwaye kuya kuba njani kwikamva: kuyafana. Uhlaselo sisenzo sentiyo esingahambelani nenkolo okanye ubuhlanga.

Ukuhamba nabo kwinkqubo, kwi-duel kubaluleke ngakumbi xa inani lolwazi elenziwa ngemithombo yeendaba likhulu kakhulu.

Phila iintlungu, ukungabinanto, ithemba kufutshane.

Izolo sibone imifanekiso yeentsapho zaseBarcelona zihamba nabantwana zibambene eRambla, umama wathi intombi yakhe ayiyiqondi into eyenzekayo, ke bagqiba kwelokuba bayithathe, kwaye bakufutshane nezo ndawo zikhumbula amaxhoba. Ke, ngumbono olunge kakhulu ukuba intombi yakho okanye unyana wakho azi ukuba ungahamba uze neentyatyambo, okanye ushiye umyalezo obhaliweyo wethemba, okanye ukhanyise ikhandlela, kwaye uchithe ixesha usabelana ngeemvakalelo ezilungileyo nabo bakhoyo. Uloyiko luchasene nothando ... awukwazi ukuhlala noloyiko olusisigxina: Ayisiyo yokuzimela ngokuchasa abanqolobi, imalunga nokuphila kunye nokuvula iintliziyo zethu.

Ngamafutshane: ukunyaniseka, ukuthanda (ukongeza kwinxalenye yokuphuza), ubukho kunye nokulawulwa kweemvakalelo, kuya kuba ngabahlobo bethu.

Kukhunjulwa amaxhoba asemhlabeni ohlaselo, kunye neentsapho zawo, kufuneka sakhe uluntu apho le micimbi ingenandawo khona.