Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha njengotata okanye umama ukhe uzive ukuba 'umbi' kwifilimu kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuhlala unendima kuyakudinisa. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ukufundisa abantwana akukho lula, kukuzibophelela kwexesha elide okufuna unyamezelo olukhulu, umonde, ukuqina kunye needosi ezinkulu zothando. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ungumntu ombi kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, kude lee kuwo, kodwa kufuneka ubengutata okanye umama ofundisa abantwana ukuze zikhule ngokuchanekileyo kuzo zonke iinkalo.
Unokucinga ukuba nokuba ungazithetha kangaphi izinto kubantwana bakho, abasayi kukumamela. Ukungabikho kokuzithemba kubuzali kungathintela abazali ekungeneleleni. Banoloyiko lokuba umntwana wabo akazukuvela kwangexesha okanye abayi kumamela xa kuthathwa amalungelo kwaye bayakushiyeka 'njengababi'.
Ukuba iziphumo azisebenzi, kuya kufuneka uvavanye izizathu zokuba kutheni ingqeqesho yakho ingasebenzi. Ukuphepha uqeqesho kuyakwenza ingxaki ibe mbi kakhulu kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ufumane izakhono ezaneleyo zokuqeqesha ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngaba uya kucinga ukuba ungumntu ombi? Enye yezona mpazamo zinkulu zokuba ngumzali ijonge kwelinye icala xa kukho into eyenzekayo. Okwangoku, umntwana wakho unokucinga ukuba umbi ngokungamvumeli ukuba adlale okanye ngokuthatha into yokudlala ayithandayo. Nangona kunjalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, yeyona nto ilungileyo kuye kwaye kubalulekile ukumnceda ukuba afunde. Ngamanye amaxesha xa umntwana wakho ekucaphukisile, oko kuthetha ukuba uwenza kakuhle umsebenzi wakho.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale ungumntu ombi, kuba enyanisweni, awubi mbi. Ukuba iqabane lakho livumela umntwana wakho ukuba aphumelele emva kwengxaki yokuziphatha, unokuziva ungonwabanga ixesha elide. Kubalulekile ukuba nobabini niqeqeshe abantwana ngendlela efanayo, nihambe ngendlela efanayo. Kufuneka nimanyane. Kufuneka kubekho imigaqo ekhaya kwaye kufuneka ilandelwe, kwimeko yokwaphula umthetho, iziphumo ezibi kufuneka zisetyenziswe.