Abazali abaninzi banxibelelanisa igama nembeko 'noloyiko'. Abantwana abafunda ukuba intlonipho kuthetha ukoyika omnye umntu baya kuba namathuba okuba babe nolwalamano oluhlwempuzekileyo phakathi kwabantu, kuba imbeko yokwenyani ayinanto yakwenza nokunyanzelwa, uloyiko okanye ukujongela phantsi oyena mntu uphantsi endlwini. Kananjalo imbeko ayisiyonto ibethelelwe, imbeko yinto ekufuneka izuzwe.
Intlonipho yabantwana yeyona nto iphambili eyenza ukuba abantwana babe nembeko kubazali babo. Intlonipho ibalulekile ukuze sikwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwabantu kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into, ukuze abancinci endlwini babe nokukhula okwaneleyo komzimba kunye neemvakalelo.
Intlonipho ayinanto yakwenza noloyiko
Lixesha lokuba abazali baqonde ukuba intlonipho ayinanto yakwenza noloyiko. Intlonipho ibangela ukuthembela ebantwaneni, kukuba bazive bamkelwe njengabo, baziva ukuba banenkxaso engenamiqathango yabazali babo, kwaye baya kubaqonda ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into ngenxa yovelwano kunye nokuzithemba. Ukufumana intlonipho yabantwana bakho kukubanika imbeko ebafaneleyo ukuba bengabo.
Ukongeza, intlonipho ayiphikisani nemilinganiselo, imida kunye nemithetho yekhaya. Kodwa uhlala phantsi komgaqo wentlonipho yabantwana kunye nokuguquguquka xa ujongene neemeko ezahlukeneyo ezinokuvela mihla le. Ngesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuba abazali ababecinga ukuba intlonipho iyafana noloyiko okanye uloyiko, babenomzuzwana wokucinga malunga nokuba loluphi uhlobo lobudlelwane abafuna ukuba nalo nabantwana babo: eyakhayo (imbeko esekwe kuthando kunye nokulingana) okanye ukutshabalalisa (imbeko engeyiyo esekwe kukoyika). Ngaba sele uyazi ukuba ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nabantwana bakho ukuba?