Amaxesha amaninzi abazali kufuneka baphefumle ngokunzulu xa abantwana babo bengaziphathi kakuhle kuba ukuba akunjalo, bayakwazi ukuthetha ezona zinto zibuhlungu. Kodwa Amandla amagama kunye nomonakalo omkhulu weemvakalelo abanokuwenza ebantwaneni akufuneki ujongelwe phantsi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqaphele amagama athethiweyo kwaye uphephe amabinzana anje ngala: 'Ndiyadinwa nguwe'.
Xa umzali exelela umntwana ukuba 'ndidikiwe nguwe', omncinci ufumana inxeba leemvakalelo ekunzima ukuphola. Uya kuziva ukuba uyaliwa ngumntu obaluleke kakhulu kuye, nguyise okanye ngunina. Kwaye ukuba abazali bakho banako ukukulahla, ngubani omnye ongayi kukwenza? Imvakalelo yokulahlwa ngokweemvakalelo inokuba buhlungu kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakhe nabuphi na ubudala ukhe waliva eli binzana lisuka emlonyeni wabazali babo.
Kwangokunjalo, ukuba uxelela abantwana bakho ukuba unomsindo ngenxa yabo, ubonisa ukuba awomelelanga ngokweemvakalelo, sukuzivumela ukuba ubekek 'ityala ngokutyhola abantwana bakho ngeemvakalelo zakho! Thatha uxanduva lomntu kwiingcinga zakho, indlela oziphethe ngayo, kunye neemvakalelo zakho, kwaye ungamxeleli umntwana wakho ukuba yena, okanye omnye umntu, unamandla okwenza uzive. Eyona ndlela ibhetele yokuseka olu dandatheko kukuthetha into efana nale: "Andiluthandi ukhetho olwenza namhlanje."
Xa uxabana nomntwana wakho, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ungaphikisi ukuba umntu akafuni. Ukuba umkhumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba kufuneka ayeke ukuxabana nawe, kungenxa yokuba uqhubeka umbonisa ukuba awuvumelani nento. Kungcono unikeze isilumkiso ngesiphumo okanye ungakhathaleli nje into ethethwa ngumntwana wakho ukunqanda ingxoxo ukuba ingakhuli. Khetha iimfazwe zakho kakuhle ukunqanda ukwenza intaba kwinduli yemolekyuli.