Uninzi lwabazali lufumana isohlwayo ngendlela efanelekileyo yokufundisa abantwana babo xa bengaziphathi kakuhle, kodwa inyani yile ukohlwaywa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo luhlobo lobundlobongela oluhlupheka ngabantwana abaninzi kubazali abacinga ukuba benza into elungileyo. Kodwa abazali okanye nabani na ophethe abantwana, kufuneka athabathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo omthetho, olawulo, ezentlalo nawokufundisa ukukhusela umntwana kuzo zonke iintlobo zobundlobongela emzimbeni nasengqondweni, ukuxhatshazwa, ukungahoywa, ukuphathwa gwenxa, ukuphathwa gadalala, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, njl. .
Kukho izifundo ezijongana nobundlobongela obujoliswe ebantwaneni apho bachaza khona ukuba iindlela zenkohlakalo okanye ezithob 'isidima ezingabandakanyi ubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni azifundiswanga kancinci kunalezo zibandakanya izenzo zomzimba. Kukho ezinye iindlela zokuthotywa okushiyekileyo ezingqondweni zabantu abaninzi kwaye xa abantwana bekhula babe neenkumbulo ezibuhlungu zendlela abahlaziswa ngayo ngamanye amazwi okanye zizenzo zabanye abantu.
Ukohlwaya ngokwasemoyeni
Ukohlwaya okungokwasemzimbeni kodwa okwengqondo kuthathwa ngokuba ukhohlakele kwaye kuyathoba kwaye akuhambelani namalungelo abantwana. Isohlwayo esifana neentloni, ukuthotywa isidima, ukungxoliswa, ukuhlaziswa boyikise abantwana, ukumhlekisa okanye ukumenza ukuba anzima ngokweemvakalelo zizigwebo zengqondo.
Ezi zohlwayo zinokwenziwa kusapho okanye nasezikolweni. Isohlwayo ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye esikhohlakeleyo okanye esinzulu sinokuthathwa njengokungcungcuthekiswa kwengqondo. Kunokuba nzima ukwahlula isohlwayo ngokwasengqondweni kwimpatho gadalala yengqondo. Uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lokohlwaya ngengqondo kukusetyenziswa kokuthotywa esidlangalaleni. Kukho abazali abaye banesibindi sokucheba iintloko zamantombazana ukuwahlaza phambi kwabanye, iinwele zithatha ixesha ukukhula ukuze ke sisikhumbuzo esiqhubekayo sohlwayo nokuthotywa.
Kodwa ngaphandle kokuya koxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo, kukho ezinye isohlwayo zolu hlobo ezinokuthi zithathelwe ingqalelo njengesiqhelo 'ngabazali abaninzi. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana akafuni kuziphatha ngotata okanye ngumama, bangamshiya bengatyanga okanye bamshiye kwigumbi lakhe lokulala ebumnyameni ukuze afunde into ayithobelayo. Esi sohlwayo esingokwengqondo siza kuchaphazela kanobom iimvakalelo zabantwana abaziva belahliwe ngabazali babo kwaye baziva ngathi abazali babo abakhathali ukubaqonda.
Akukho mntu unelungelo lokohlwaya abantwana
Akukho mntu unelungelo lokohlwaya abantwana, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni. Ngapha koko, naluphi na uhlobo lokohlwaya abantwana kufuneka kungavunyelwa kubo bonke abantu abadala. Kufuneka kubekho iinkqubo ezisebenzayo zokusekwa kweenkqubo zentlalo ukubonelela ngenkxaso eyimfuneko emntwaneni kunye nakwabo kufuneka babakhathalele. Kuyimfuneko ukuba kukho iindlela zokuthintela ukuchongwa, ukwaziswa, ukuthunyelwa, uphando, unyango kunye nokulandelelwa kwamatyala obundlobongela ebantwaneni ngabantu abadala, kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko yokungenelela kwezomthetho.
Into engavumelekanga kukuba abantwana bahlupheke ngogonyamelo oluvela kubazali baboKungenxa yokuba abanalo ulwazi olwaneleyo ukuze bakwazi ukusebenzisa ezinye iintlobo zoqeqesho olusebenza ngakumbi kwaye olungenaxinzelelo kubo bonke abantu, olufana noluleko oluqinisekileyo.
Izizathu zokohlwaywa kwengqondo
Uninzi lwabantu abadala alubazi ubunzulu bezenzo zabo okanye kwenzeka ntoni xa besebenzisa ezi zohlwayo. Nangona zikho ezinye izizathu ezinokukhuthaza abantwana ukuba babandezeleke kolu hlobo lobundlobongela. Oonobangela zezi zilandelayo:
- Abantu abadala abazazi iimpembelelo ezimbi kubantwana besohlwayo abasisebenzisayo
- Abazali abazi ezinye iindlela zokukhulisa abantwana babo kwaye basebenzise ukohlwaya ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni ukuzama ukumelana nokudakumba kwabo kwangaphakathi kunye nokusilela kwezixhobo ukuze babe nemfundo enempumelelo.
- Abazali basebenzisa kakubi iziyobisi okanye utywala
- Abazali okanye abantu abadala abakhathalayo badandathekile okanye abonwabanga
- Xa abazali okanye abantu abadala abakhathalayo benesimo esithile sokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo
- Xa abazali bengenazixhobo zaneleyo zeemvakalelo zokulawula umsindo wabo kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi
- Ukunqongophala kwezixhobo zoqoqosho nezentlalo
- Xa kukho iingxaki zosapho
- Ukungazi nokungabikho kwemfundo
- Iingxabano zosapho
- Ukugcina ucwangco kunye noqeqesho ngaphandle kokwazi uqeqesho olululo
Iziphumo zohlwayo lwengqondo ebantwaneni (kunye nakwisohlwayo ngokwasemzimbeni)
Ukohlwaya ngokwasemzimbeni kubangela ukwenzakala emzimbeni kumalungu ahlukeneyo omzimba, kunokubangela ukonakala okusisigxina empilweni kwaye kungade kubangele ukukhubazeka okuthile, kushiya neziphumo ezibi zemoya. Isohlwayo ngokwasengqondweni senza umonakalo omkhulu kubuntu bomntwana ochaphazeleke bubundlobongela athe wabekwa kubo.
Zombini isohlwayo esingokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni sinokuba neziphumo ezibi nezonakalisayo ebantwaneni. Ezinye zeziphumo ezinokuvela ebantwaneni bobabini ebuntwaneni nasebudaleni zezi zilandelayo:
- Uxinzelelo
- Ixhala
- Ukuzijongela phantsi
- Ira
- Ukuvukela kwakhona
- Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu
- Iingxaki zememori
- Iingxaki zokufunda
- Ukuzijonga kakubi
Abantwana abohlwaywa ngokugqithileyo ngabazali babo baya kuba notyekelo olukhulu lokubaleka ekhaya.Baza kuphulukana nomdla kwimfundo esesikweni nengafundiswanga, baya kuthanda ukuzama izinto eziyityhefu ezinje ngeziyobisi okanye utywala ukuba babalekele inyani, bayayeka esikolweni kwaye, ukuba bayasokola ngokweemvakalelo, banokuba neengcinga zokuzibulala. Kukuthini ukuba msulwa kufanelekile ukuziva ngale ndlela ngenxa yokuba abazali babo okanye abo babebakhathalele bengayazi indlela yokwenza izinto ngokufanelekileyo?
Ukuba ngutata akukho lula, kodwa yeyona nto intle ekhoyo kweli hlabathi. Abantwana beza kweli hlabathi ukuba bonwabe kwaye bakhule ecaleni kwakho. Abadingi zohlwayo, abadingi ukubethwa, abadingi ukuba ubenzakalise (ngaphandle koko, lulwaphulo-mthetho). Bafuna uthando lwakho, umonde wakho, isikhokelo sakho kunye nawo wonke umsa wakho ukuze ngale ndlela baqonde ukuba banokuba ngabantu abadala abaphumelelayo.
Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho babe nothando, bakuhloniphe kunye nabanye, zibambe ... ungasebenzisi isohlwayo. Sebenzisa izixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokuba ngumzali: iindlela, ulwakhiwo, umda, okanye ukurhoxa kwengqwalaselo. Kubantwana abadala kuya kufuneka ukuba babeke okulindelweyo, bachaze umvuzo okanye iziphumo.