Umama ngamnye uthwala iintombi zakhe ngonaphakade, kwaye intombi nganye iyakhula ikhatshwa kwaye iphenjelelwe ngunina ... sinokuba ngoomama babafana okanye abantombazana, nangona kunjalo le yokugqibela (okanye isenokungabi) ngoomama kwixesha elizayo, kwaye indlela yethu yokusebenzisa ubumama ngumzekelo kubonokuba siyazi okanye asazi.
Hoy sibhiyozele uSuku loMama, uhambo olunokuba nentsingiselo eninzi okanye encinci; usuku apho siya kube sifumene imizobo enemibala ngezandla ze-chubby, imibongo enexabiso elinomtsalane, ifoto emangazayo yabantwana bethu, okanye ukwanga nje. Ngethamsanqa elihle, lo msitho uza kube usebenze ukumanya oomakhulu, oomama kunye neentombi, kunye namanye amalungu osapho, kungekho nto yimbi ngaphandle kokuba nexesha elimnandi kunye.
Xa singomama, sihlala sivelisa iminqweno yethu, kunye neemfuno zethu, kolo sana luncinci oluthembekileyo, olukhasa ngaphezulu komzimba wethu ukuba lusondle, kwaye osizalisa ngeemvakalelo ekunzima ukuzichaza. Sifuna ukubakhusela de bayazi indlela yokuma bodwa, kwaye kwangaxeshanye sinamathandabuzo aliwaka.
Ngaphandle kokuzama nzima, sisebenzisa iingcinga (okanye hayi kuphela isini) kumntu osandula ukufika kweli hlabathi, ufuna ukuba kunye nomama wakhe, adibene naye emva kweenyanga ephupha ngaye. Kwaye ukusukela ngala mzuzu ukuya phambili, sizilolonga njengoomama, indima esinokuyiphinda ukuba ayingomntwana wethu wokuqala.
Ngenye imini
Yisihloko sentsomi entle kunye neemvakalelo, ebhalwe nguAlison McGhee, kwaye iboniswe nguPeter H. Reynolds (umpapashi weSerreS). Ibali liqala ngendawo esiqheleneyo kakhulu nayo: "Ngenye imini ndayibala iminwe yakho ndabanga enye nenye" ... kwaye ihambela phambili njengoko intombazana ikhula; Umbono "Ngenye imini uyakuva ubunzima obuncinci emqolo wakho" usizalisa ngobumnene, obunika indlela "Kwaye ndiza kucinga ngendlela odibanisa iinwele zentombi yakho" ...
Ngenye imini iintombi zethu zinokuba ngoomama, okanye zingangabi ... baya kuba ngabafazi, kodwa into eqinisekileyo kukuba wonke umntu wasetyhini ohlala kulo mhlaba unomama, awadibana naye phambi kwakhe nabani na, kuba xa Ihlabathi Babengekamangaliswa bubuhle obumangalisayo obunokubakho, babesele bekunye, kwaye bazakuba kwiinyanga ezili-9.
Ayinamsebenzi into yokuba sibathanda bonke abantwana bethu ngokulinganayo, kuba iimvakalelo esizigcinayo kubafana nakumantombazana ziphawulwe kakhulu ilifa lethu njengoomama, iintombi nabazukulwana babazukulwana kwaye phantse bengaqondanga, ngenxa yolindelo esinalo. Kucacile ukuba sibadala ngokwaneleyo ukuba singabaqonda oomama bethu, kunye neempazamo zabo, ngaphandle kokugxeka, kuba siyawazi amabali abo.
Lixesha lokubonisa ukuba sikhulile kwaye sinokubuyisa isisa esingenasiphelo abasikhulise ngaso, basifundisa kwaye basikhathalela. Enye into yindlela yethu yobuntwana kunye nolwalamano lwethu nabo abasiphawula ngayo ... yiyo loo nto uChristiane Northrup esithi elona lifa lilungileyo sinokulishiya kumantombazana "kukuphilisa njengabafazi".
Ntombi yam, ngenye imini uya kuba ngumama ... okanye hayi
Iza kuhlala iyisigqibo sabo, kwaye kusekho indlela ende ekufuneka beyihambile ngaphambi kokuba ufike loo mzuzu.. Ngoku kufuneka sizibuze ukuba siyakwazi na ukuqala indlela yokuphilisa, ukuphilisa ngaxeshanye iingcambu zomthi (umama wethu) kunye neziqhamo (iintombi zethu); kwaye ukuba siza kunika amantombazana uthando olungenamiqathango olufunwa sisidalwa ngasinye, kunye nembeko ehambelana neenkqubo zazo, kunye nenkululeko yokukhetha, ngaphandle kokuzenzakalisa okanye umntu.
Banobomi bonke phambi kwabo, kwaye sihlala kwindawo yokuqala yokuhlala kunye nokutya, emva koko sibe ngabahlobo bokutya-intuthuzelo-inkumbulo-yokubuyela umva ... Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhulisa ngothando kunye nokuncamathiselwa okukhuselekileyo, njengokuyeka xa befuna ukubhabha simahla. Kubalulekile ukuba bakhe ubuntu obomeleleyo nokuzithemba, kwaye nabo bathathe isigqibo sokuba ngoomama kuthando.