Nge-24 kaDisemba ngo-2015, asiphumelelanga (kwakhona) njengoluntu, nangona ukusilela kwakomelele ngokukodwa kwimfundo yeziko laseCatalan apho u-Alan wayefunde khona. UAlan wayeneminyaka eli-17 ubudala kwaye wayethandana nabantu abangatshatanga naye, kwakungekho kusilela kwezizathu zovuyo kuba wakwazi ukutshintsha igama lakhe kwi-ID yakhe, nangona kunjalo oogxa bakhe babemqumbela ngenxa yesazisi; Ukuphathwa gadalala yayingunobangela wokuzibulala kwakhe. Siyazazi ezi ndlela zokuziphatha njenge ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini: ngabantwana abahlupheka ngokuqhubekayo, kokubini kwiipaseji zeziko lemfundo, njengokuthatha ithuba ezo ndawo zibonakalayo, ethi ngamanye amaxesha ivelise okona kubi kuthi.
IKrisimesi ngaphandle kuka-Alan kubazali bakhe, kwaye okuseleyo kubo; Ndothuka ndakufumanisa ukuba emva kweentsuku ezimbini, andifuni ukuyikholelwa ndaya ngqo ebantwaneni bam, ndacela ukuba bandimamele: 'Ungamnyamezeli umntu ohlukumeza abanye ukhona, ungathathi nxaxheba kuhlazo oluhlangeneyo, xelela umntu omdala ukuba awukwazi ukujongana nale meko uwedwa'; Yintoni enye endinokuyithetha? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, luxanduva oluhlanganyelweyo, kuba ukuba bekungekho titshala oza kujonga kwelinye icala, ababukeli bokuxhaphaza bangathatha inxaxheba ebonakalayo, kwaye neentsapho zabahlaseli bezingayi kuba ngabancedisi, Ngekhe sithethe ngale nto.
Kwanele ngoku! Ngaba awucingi? Ngaba asikwazi ukunxibelelana nomntu owahlukileyo okanye kwenzeka ntoni kuthi? Emva kweentlanganiso zoqhankqalazo, nasemva kokuba uAlan ethathe indawo ephambili kwiindaba zamaphephandaba kunye nokubonakalisa kwiibhloko ezahlukeneyo, i Ukuqwalaselwa ngokuchasene neHomophobia eCatalonia, wabuza i-Síndic e Greuges ukuba iphande ngeemeko zokuzibulala, kwaye kwafunwa uxanduva kwezopolitiko, kuba yindawo eyi-Autonomous Community enomthetho we-LGTBI, kodwa kusilela ekusetyenzisweni kwayo.
Ukuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nokuhlala kunye kwigumbi lokufundela.
Amaziko amathathu kunye nembali ende yokuxhatshazwa: Ngubani onokufuna ukuya kwiklasi yonke imihla ukuba bayazi ukuba baya kubatyhala, babathuke okanye babaphosa ezinyukweni apho? Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kuthi bantu badala? Ngaba sizimfama?; mhlawumbi sisiqabu nje sokuhamba kwinkqubo esibonelela ngentlalontle ethile, okanye sinokungafuni kwanto malunga nokubandezeleka kwabanye. Zibeke endaweni ka-Ester, umama wenkwenkwe, cinga ngaye kunye nalaa Eva weKrisimesi apho u-Alan wasela iipilisi ezixutywe notywala, umhla apho uloyiko lobundlobongela loyise uthando losapho.
Ukuba usebenza nabantwana kwicandelo lezemfundo okanye uqeqesho olongezelelekileyo, nokuba ungumhloli kumakhaya olutsha ... kulungile, ukuba ungumzali, nawe: unokuba nomdla kule ncwadi ibizwa Trans * Exualidades, apho uRaquel (Lucas) Platero Méndez. onembali ende yobutshantliziyo be-LGBTQ nakwicandelo lezemfundo, ucebisa ngeendlela ezinokuthi zibe nefuthe kuthintelo kunye nongenelelo kwi-transphobia.
Umsebenzi odibeneyo?
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo: luxanduva lokususa ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ezikolweni nakumaziko, kwaye luxanduva (ngokudibeneyo) izehlo ezingathandekiyo ezifana nale ndikuxelela ukuba zenzeke, okanye kukuba singabaniki abantwana bethu nakwinkqubo yemfundo ukuze bazive bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile? Bonke ootitshala abafani okanye abanalo uvakalelo olufanayo; Abanazo izixhobo eziyimfuneko zokugqithisa ikharityhulam yemfundo kwaye bafundise abo bangabantu phambi kwabafundi, kodwa kwintando, unokuhlala ungenelela. Kuyinyani ukuba ubungqingili kunye nokutshatana kwabantu ngokwesini kuyabonakala ngakumbi kwaye ke kwamkelwe ngakumbi namhlanje, kodwa akonelanga.
Sifuna ukufundisa abantwana bethu ngesondo ngokuthetha nabo malunga nokukhulelwa komntu kunye nokuthintela ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo kunye nee-STD, kodwa silibale eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu: yenza ebonakalayo engabonakaliyo, oko kukuthi, iimvakalelo, uloyiko, izigqibo, amathandabuzo, izikhokelo kunye nokuchonga. Sibaxelela le nto sifuna ukubaxelela yona singakhange sibuze ukuba banomdla, simamela kuphela iimpendulo zemibuzo yethu, kodwa hayi oko abantwana bafuna ukusixelela kona. Silibale nokuba banokwabelana ngesondo. Kwangelo xesha, asinangxaki malunga nokunikezela uqeqesho kwezi zihloko zibaluleke kangaka kwiiNethiwekhi zeNtlalo nakwi-intanethi.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba inqanaba lokuzibulala kwabantu be-transgender lijikeleze i-41%? Ngaba awucingi ukuba ayinyamezeleki?
Le grafu ilandelayo ibonisa amaxhoba oxhatshazo eMexico (2012) ngenxa yesini sabo sokuziqhelanisa okanye isazisi:
Nokuba siyanyamezelana okanye asinakho ukuzibiza njengoluntu.
Alan Wayenesibindi kodwa wayekwishumi elivisayo nje owayengqongwe kukungalawuleki kwindawo yentlalo eyakha amadoda ayo kubungqingili bobudoda, kwaye anditsho ukuba abantu basetyhini abanalo uxanduva, kuba oomama nootata kufuneka benze imizamo engakumbi yokubonelela ngeembekiselo ezinceda abantwana bethu ukuba bahloniphe WONKE umntu. Ukuba i-machismo ngokuyinxenye ibekek 'ityala, kungenxa yokuba iphikisana nobukho bezinye iimodeli, okanye ngaba akuvanga nawuphi na umzali ethetha ngokugculela (umzekelo) amafanasini? Abantwana benza oko bakubonayo ... khumbula.
Uluntu 'luhlobo lwabantu, abantu okanye izizwe ezihlala phantsi kwemigaqo efanayo', kuyaqondakala ukuba imigaqo kufuneka isebenze kubo bonke
Kufanelekile ukuba sikhankanye ukuba uninzi lobundlobongela obenziwa ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye buveliswa ngamakhwenkwe ngokuchasene namanye amakhwenkwe aneenkcubeko ezahlukileyo; kukho into engalunganga ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye Ndiyaphinda ndiyacinga ukuba uxanduva lokupheliswa kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha ludibeneyo.
Uyenza njani imiba yesini ekhaya? Ngaba unika abantwana bakho umfanekiso wonyamezelo okanye uzibonakalise njengomntu ongakwaziyo ukuqonda ubutyebi beyantlukwano? Uyayikhumbula lonto Isimo sakho sengqondo kunye noluvo lwakho lubumba abantwana ahlala nabo? Masiqale kule ndawo incinci siyibiza ngokuba yeyasekhaya, masiqale ukucinga kwaye senze abantu bacinge, ukukhuthaza umoya wokugxeka omncinci,… masinganyamezeli ukunganyamezelani, kwaye sihambe kwindlela ehlaziyiweyo engenabandlululo kwaye egcwele uthando.
Masiziva sikhululekile ukukhwaza sisophahleni sifuna izikolo zikhululeke kwi-transphobia kunye nokuxhatshazwa, ukuze kungaze kwenzeke kwakhona ukuba uAlan akasenakubuphatha ubomi bakhe kwaye ufuna ukubuthabatha kuye.
Kwimemori ka-Alan.
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