Kuqikelelwa ukuba ngama-23/25 epesenti yamantombazana, kunye ne-10 ukuya kwi-15% leepesenti yamakhwenkwe, ipesenti yabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-17 ubudala abaphathwa gadalala ngokwesondo (ASI); ikwangumfanekiso oqhele ukugcinwa ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kwaye oku akutshiwo ndim kuphela, kodwa kukwenziwa nezifundo ezahlukeneyo ezenziwa eSpain nakwamanye amazwe e-European Union; eUnited States naseKhanada. Esinye sezizathu ezichaza inyani yokuba ii-ASIs ziyenzeka zezabo ukungabikho kokubonakala, nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni ube nesazela sentlupheko.
Kwaye ukuba idatha oyifundileyo iyakukhathaza, ndiza kuba negalelo ekwenzeni okungakumbi, kuba ama-60 ekhulwini amaxhoba akafumani naluphi na uhlobo loncedoKungenxa yokuba abaxeli, okanye ngenxa yokuba abazali babo bayakufihla,… Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana ngokwesondo kubangela umonakalo omkhulu engqondweni nasemoyeni ngendlela engapheliyo. Ingxaki entsonkothileyo indlela yakhe nayo inzima. Enye yezona zinto zikhwankqisayo kukuba siqhubeke nokubambelela kwimbono ephosakeleyo yokuba ii-ASI zenzeka kwiintsapho ezikumgangatho ophantsi woqoqosho lwentlalo; xa enyanisweni kungekho nkangeleko icacileyo yabaxhaphazi esekwe kwintlalo yabo, ezoqoqosho, okanye uqeqesho.
En Oovimba abagcina iiPediatrics baseArgentina, Sifumana ireferensi kwifowuni indawo yokuhlala, echazwe yiRoland Summit ngo-1983, ebonisa ngokucacileyo iseti yeendlela zokuziphatha umntwana azamkelayo xa ejongene nemeko:
- Ukuziva ungancedi okumkhubazayo kwaye kwenza kube nzima 'ukuxhathisa' (nangona abazali bekwigumbi elilandelayo). Akukho mntwana unokuzikhusela ngendlela umntu omdala ebenokuzikhusela ngayo, kwaye agqibele ngokurhintyelwa lithemba; Okokugqibela, unokuziva unetyala okanye uxanduva lweziganeko.
- Ukugcina ukufihla ngenxa yeentloni, ukuziva unetyala, kwaye usoyika ukohlwaywa okanye ukuba umhlaseli wakho uza kuyeka ukukuthanda. Ukusongelwa ngokuthe ngqo ngabahlaseli kuqinisa uloyiko.
- Isimo sokuHlala: kwezi zinto zimbini ziphikisanayo ezi-1) Umntu omdala onoxanduva lokumkhathalela mubi, akanako ukumthanda; okanye 2) Ixhoba liziva lingcolile kwaye kufanelekile; ukhetho lwesibini luhlala lukhethwa, kwilinge lokuphila ngokweemvakalelo.
- Izikhalazo ezifike emva kwexesha neziphikisanayo: abancinci abakwaziyo ukukuxela ngalo mzuzu kusenzeka (uninzi lwabo); Banokuxela i-ASI ebusheni (sele benenkululeko engakumbi). Nangona kwizihlandlo ezininzi iziganeko zingakhunjulwa de kudlule iminyaka eliqela, oko kukuthi, ebudaleni. Kuzo zombini iimeko kukho umngcipheko wokuba zingathathelwa ngqalelo.
- Basirhoxisile isikhalazo, ngenxa yokoyika iziphumo zaso; kwaye enye ingxaki yongezwa: ukuvuselelwa kwakhona, ngenxa yokuba ityala lilawulwa kakubi.
Ukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana ngokwesondo, ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-80 zamatyala, kwenziwa ngabantu abasondele kusapho, okanye kufutshane kakhulu nomntwana (iimonitha, abamelwane, ootitshala)
Ngamanye amaxesha ndiye ndizibuze ukuba ndingathini xa omnye wabantwana bam endixelela ukuba ukhe waphathwa gadalala. Ndiyayazi lo nto Ukuphakamisa uluvo akufani nokunyanzelwa ukuba ube nempendulo ethile. Kuya kubonakala kungaqhelekanga kuwe ukuba uyibhale le nto, nangona ingeyiyo eyokwakha usapho umama avela kuyo, okanye ubudlelwane anabo nalowo umxhaphazayo, okanye ukukwazi kwakhe ukoyisa ukubeka iimfuno zomntwana phambi imbono yentlalo yengxaki. Uya kundixelela, bendiya kubakhusela abantwana bam, ewe! Ndiyayiqonda, bendiya kukhusela.
Asingabo bonke oomama abaphendula ngendlela efanayo
Ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni ndiphakamise lo mbuzo, ewe, kuyacaca ukuba ayingabo bonke oomama abaphendula ngendlela efanayo, sifumana iiprofayili kuxhomekeke kwimpendulo emva kohlaselo (ayisiyiyo inkohliso esiyenzayo):
- Umama odala abantwana bakhe ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala kwaye uyabakhusela.
- Lowo uqala ukukhusela ixesha elide emva kokuba befumene.
- Lowo unokukrokrela kodwa woyika kakhulu ukukuqonda.
- Lowo uyazi, kodwa wenza ngathi akazi.
- Lowo ukholwayo, kwaye unqwenela ukukhusela, kodwa uhlala enxibelelene ngokwasemphefumlweni nomhlaseli.
- Lowo uthatha ixabiso lokubonakala njengesiqhelo, uthatha ngexabiso lokwenzakalisa abantwana, kuyaqondakala.
- Lowo uthatha inxaxheba kuxhatshazo olo.
- Lowo uxoka ngento eyenzekileyo.
Emva kokuphuhlisa indlela abasabela ngayo oomama, kuhlala kum ukuba ndikhumbule ukuba oku kukoluhlobo lokuba umntwana angangxamela ukukuxela, kwaye ukuba akunjalo? Apha sithethe ngezinye zezalathi, ekufuneka isoloko ibekwe kwimeko. Kwaye ekugqibeleni ndiyanyanzelisa: enye yeentsika zotshintsho kuyo nayiphi na imeko inokuba njalo ukufaka isandla ekubonakaleni kwale ngxaki ngokwenza ulwaziKuba okoko nje kukho umntu ongakholelwayo kubantwana, ozifihlayo, ongaziyo ukuba angafumanisa njani ... baya kuqhubeka nokuveliswa nge-ASI.
Abantu abadala abaziqondayo iinyani kunye nenkxaso, baqala indlela enzima, ngethamsanqa eSpain, kukho amaziko akwaziyo ukukhokela, enza umsebenzi olungileyo. Ewe, masiqale ngokukholwa, kuba umntwana akanamava ngokwaneleyo okanye ukukhula ngokwaneleyo ukuba angaqamba. Ngesi sizathu, kwaye ngenxa yokuba besemngciphekweni kakhulu kwaye bafuna (ngaphandle kweemeko) ukuba abo (babona) babathandayo, babe kwicala labo.
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