Kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo (endaweni yeenyanga ...) sibhiyozele IVeki yokuZalwa ehlonitshwa lihlabathi, emva koko ndabuza UMonica Manso ukusinika udliwanondlebe. Ndimele ukuthi uMonica wayeluncedo kakhulu kwaye wenza umsebenzi wam lula, endinika iimpendulo zakhe ngexesha. Nangona kunjalo, udliwanondlebe luye lwamiswa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo.
Ndicinga ukuba andinakuvumela elinye ixesha ukuba lihambe, kwaye kufuneka umazi. UMonica ungumqeqeshi woomama kunye noomama bexesha elizayo, kwaye Kwakhona doula. Umsebenzi wakhe wobungcali ujolise ekwenzeni ukuba abafazi abaze kuye babe ngumama oqondayo esiba ngamava okukhula komntu. Ukuzalwa komntwana kunokuba yinto elungileyo kwaye ukuba ngumzali kungonwaba… mhlawumbi kufuneka sifumane indlela yokoyisa uloyiko kwaye sizive sikhuseleke ngakumbi. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndivusile umdla wakho, kwaye ngoku ewe, ndikushiya nodliwanondlebe.
Madres Hoy: Ungumqeqeshi, kunye ne-doula, unokusichazela ukuba yintoni imisebenzi ye-doulas ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunye nasemva kokubeleka?
UMonica Manso: I-doula ibonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo, yomzimba, kunye nolwazi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kokubeleka kunye nexesha lasemva kokubeleka. IDoula:
- Kholelwa kwinkqubo yokuzala kunye nefuthe elinalo ekukhuliseni.
- Unembeko kwaye uyakwazi ukumamela ngokunzulu
- Ayinyanzelisi iingcinga kunye neenkolelo zayo
- Thembela kumabhinqa
- Qaphela amandla okuzala
- Ayithathi indawo yeqabane. Kodwa iyamnceda ukuba avuye umfazi wakhe.
- Ukholelwa ekuzaleni njengosiko lokuyalela owasetyhini ukuba azalele umntwana wakhe apho, ufuna nabani, kwaye ufuna njani.
Izifundo ezininzi ezenziwa eMelika Gxininisa umahluko omkhulu onokwenziwa ngu-doula ekusebenzeni nasekuzalweni. E-US, e-UK nakwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zase-Europe i-doulas yinxalenye eyaziwayo yeqela lokuzalwa kunye neenkonzo zasemva kokubeleka.
Ukuphila ngokukhulelwa okwaziyo kuya kunceda oomama ukuba baphile ngokukhulelwa kwabo ngendlela ezolileyo, kude noxinzelelo kunye nokukhawuleza
MH: Kuthetha ukuthini ukuhlala nokukhulelwa okwaziyo? Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba nolwazi ngenkqubo yokukhulelwa ngokwayo?
MM:Ukuphila ngokukhulelwa okwaziyo sisimemo sokuhlala kwinkqubo yotshintsho apho umfazi afakwa khona njengethuba lokuzazi, ukukhula kwangaphakathi kunye nokutshintsha.
Inxulumene nokumisa isantya esikhawulezayo esihlala kuso kwaye azinike izithuba zonxibelelwano kunye naye kunye nosana olukhula ngaphakathi kuye.
Inento yokwenza nokuzikhathalela ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasengqondweni, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomoya.
Ukuphila ngokukhulelwa okwaziyo kuya kunceda oomama ukuba baphile ngokukhulelwa kwabo ngendlela ezolileyo, kude noxinzelelo kunye nokukhawuleza, eya kuba nefuthe ekubeni namandla angakumbi kunye nokukhulisa ukuzithemba kuwo nakwimeko yayo yokuzalwa ukukhulelwa, ukuzala nokukhulisa umntwana wakho.
MH: Ukuthetha ngokwazi, ngaba kunzima ngakumbi ukubuyela kwakhona ngesantya sobomi? Ngaba kuyacetyiswa ukuba "usinciphise" isantya esiphila ngaso xa sikhulelwe?
MM: Ewe kubaluleke kakhulu, ngokubanzi, ngamaxesha onke, nangaliphi na ixesha lobomi bethu, kwaye ngakumbi ekukhulelweni kuba uxinzelelo, ngokophando lwenzululwazi, luchaphazela kakubi umntwana.
Ukuyeka kuthetha ukuyeka ukuba semqondweni kwaye uqale ukuhlala emzimbeni, kwaye emzimbeni kuvela ulwazi olutsha, indlela entsha yokuba mnandi nokuba nolwazelelelo nesiqu sakho, nosana kunye nendawo ohlala kuyo.
MH: Kuba ndikhankanyile isingqisho esibalulekileyo apho sibanjwa khona, inokuba yintoni imiphumo yoxinzelelo ekubelekeni nasekuzaleni?
MM:Ndingakuxelela ngayo yonke into kwinqanaba leemvakalelo: Ilula kakhulu: Uxinzelelo oluthe xhaxhe, ngakumbi uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo ngakumbi, uxinzelelo lomzimba olukhulu, ukungavisisani komzimba, kokukhona isibeleko siqinile kwaye kukho iintlungu ezingakumbi kwaye umsebenzi uqhubeka kancinci kwaye usenokungaphumeleli. Uxinzelelo luye lube nefuthe elibi kulawulo loloyiko kunye noloyiko luhambelana ngqo noku kungentla, uloyiko olungakumbi, kokukhona uxinzelelo kunye nomjikelo ziqala kwakhona.
Ebuzalini, ukuba nomonde okuncinci kuyachaphazela, Ukuphulukana nolawulo lweemvakalelo, uxinzelelo olunokubakho emva kokubeleka ...
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba oomakhulu bethu bazalele ekhaya, kuphela kukutsiba okuvelisayo
MH: Ukuchaza njani ukungazithembi kwimizimba yethu kwaye unoloyiko lokuba sihlala kunye ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye oko kusithintela ekuzaleni?
MM: Ndicinga ukuba unyango lokuzalwa komntwana kwiminyaka engama-60 lube nefuthe elihle nelibi kuluntu.. Kulungile kuba kuncede inkqubela phambili yokuzalwa kunye nokusindisa ubomi obuninzi, Okubi kukuba siye sakholwa (okanye basenza sikholelwe, ngamacala amabini engqekembe enye) ekuphela kwento esingasakwaziyo ukuzala ngayo kwaye iyeza kuyo.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba oomakhulu bethu bazalele ekhaya, kukho kuphela ukutsiba okuvelisayo, izizukulwana ezizalele ngaphandle koncedo oluninzi lwezonyango azikho kude kangako.
MH: Ekugqibeleni, ndingathanda ukwazi ukuba ungathini kumfazi ofikelele kule veki yama-41, ukwandisa ukuzithemba emzimbeni wakhe.
MM: Ukuba uthetha kakhulu nomntwana wakho, ukuba unxibelelana naye, kwaye umxelele ukuba lixesha lokuba uphume uye kumlinda ngalo lonke uthando lwakhe, ukuze abone ukuba unawo na umcimbi omileyo kwaye awusombulule, uhamba, atsibe, enze uthando kwaye adanise. Kwaye uthembe ukuba yonke into inokwenzeka.
Emva kodliwanondlebe, kufuneka ndiphinde umbulelo wam kumqeqeshi kunye no-doula Mónica Manso, kwaye ndixolise ngokulibaziseka. Kuni, bafundi, ndiyathemba ukuba nikonwabele oku kufunda kulula kwaye kunamandla okusixelela ngokukhulelwa okuqinisekileyoUnxibelelwano nosana, kunye nokukhula komfazi / komama.
Ndigcina ibinzana "Ukuphila ngokukhulelwa okwaziyo sisimemo sokuphila kwinkqubo yotshintsho apho umfazi afakwa khona njengethuba lokuzazi, ukukhula ngaphakathi kunye nenguqu" Kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba baninzi nangakumbi oomama bexesha elizayo abanethuba lokonwaba ngokuzimeleyo ukukhulelwa kwabo, kunye namandla okuthatha inxaxheba ekhokelayo kwiinkqubo zokukhulelwa, ukubeleka nokubeleka
Imifanekiso / Ulwazi oluthe kratya - Umama oNononophelo. UMonica Manso