Iintsapho ezingakumbi nangakumbi zigqiba ekubeni nomntwana omnye kuphela. Nokuba kungenxa yoxanduva lwemihla ngemihla, kuyo yonke into ekufuneka yenziwe yonke imihla, ngenxa yokunqongophala kwemali okanye inkxaso yabantu, ukunqongophala koncedo kwezentlalo ... zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni isibini sithatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana omnye kuphela. Ngale ndlela, nangona engonakaliswanga kuba angafundiswa kakuhle ekuhlaleni kwaye abe nemida ecacileyo, kwangaxeshanye, banokunikela ngalo lonke ixesha namandla abo kule mfundo.
Kukho izinto eziluncedo kunye nezibi ekukhuleni njengomntwana okuphela kwakhe. Ukuba ucinga ukuba nomntwana omnye kuphela kwaye umnike abantakwabo, ke ungaphoswa ziingenelo kunye neengozi zokukhula ngaphandle kwabantakwenu. Oku kunokwenzeka. Uncede uthathe isigqibo sokuba uyafuna na ukuba usapho lwakho lube ngamalungu ama-2 okanye ama-3 okanye ube nabantwana abaninzi.
Iinkonzo zokukhula njengomntwana okuphela kwakhe
- Izixhobo ezingaphezulu, oku kunika ithuba lokuba namava ngakumbi kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi.
- Ingqwalaselo engakumbi kubantu abadala
- Ukubonakaliswa okukhulu kwihlabathi labadala kunye nokuvuthwa
- Ukuphuhlisa izimvo ezicacileyo kunye nokukhuthaza ukucinga nzulu
Iindleko zokukhula ngaphandle kwabantakwenu
- Awufundi ukwabelana nabanye xa umncinci
- Awufundi kuthethathethana ngeemfuno zakho nabanye, kunzima ngakumbi ukufunda ukusombulula ukungavisisani nabanye
- Okulindelwe ngabazali kukuphela komntwana okuphela kwakhe, akwabelwana ngako okunokubangela iimvakalelo zempixano okanye ukungaqondani.
Njengoko ubona, kukho iingenelo kunye neengozi zokukhula njengomntwana okuphela kwakhe, kodwa ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana omnye kuphela, akufuneki ibe yiyo nayiphi na into embi. Kuya kufuneka ugcine engqondweni ukuba intlalontle yakhe ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye kufuneka abe nemida emiselweyo kunye nemilinganiselo enesimilo esihle ekhaya kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo ukuze akhule elungelelene ngokwasemoyeni.
Izinto eziluncedo nezingalunganga
Emva kwale ntetho imfutshane apho sithethe nawe malunga neenzuzo kunye neengxaki zokuba nomntwana omnye kuphela, emva koko sifuna ukuthetha okungakumbi malunga nesi sihloko, Ukunikezela ngee liana malunga nezibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga zokukhula njengomntwana okuphela kwakhe.
Kule mihla, izibini ezandayo zigqiba ekubeni nomntwana omnye kuphela. Izizathu zinokuba zininzi kwaye zahluke, kuba ezoqoqosho, ezabasebenzi kunye nokungazinzi koluntu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukongeza, ukuba nemithwalo emininzi kunye noxanduva, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukusilela kwexesha kubenze bazibuze ukuba ingaba nyani ngokwenene Banokubeka ixesha elithathwayo ukukhulisa umntwana omnye okanye ngaphezulu kwesinye.
Ukungabinabantakwenu akufuneki ukuba kubi okanye kulunge, kuxhomekeke kwimbono ojonga ngayo kule meko. Kungenxa yokuba usapho lunomntwana okuphela kwakhe oko akuthethi ukuba babe ngabazithandayo, abalawulayo, abakhohlisayo okanye nantoni na enjalo. Inyaniso, kunokuba ngokuchaseneyo ... konke kuxhomekeke kwimfundo ebonelelweyo.
Kodwa oku kunjalo, kubantwana kuphela kwaye kwabo banabantakwabo. Ngawo onke amaxesha, imfundo enikwa ekhaya ibalulekile ukuze wazi ukuba umntwana uya kukhula nyhani na ngandlela thile.
Hayi kuba ungumntwana okuphela kwakhe, uhlala unesizungu okanye uchasene nentlalontle okanye uchaseneyo. Ayinanto yakwenza nayo, yonke into ilele ekukhuleni nakwimo yabancinci. Nangona singekhe silibale ukuba banako baneempawu ezithile ukuba banokuba nabantwana nabantwana basekhaya kwaye bangabi nabantwana kuphela kwaye kungenjalo.
Umnqweno wokuba nabantwana
Akubalulekanga kangako ukuba bangaphi abantwana onabo, ukuba akunjalo awunamnqweno wokuba nabo. Ukuqonda ukuba ngutata okanye umama kubalulekile ukuba ngumzali olungileyo ... Abantwana abanqweneleka kakhulu banokuba nomzali oqondayo ngakumbi ngabazali.
Xa ungumzali okokuqala, ngekhe wazi kakuhle indlela yokwenza izinto, kodwa ukuba nexhala akuyona into embi. Ayikuko kuba unomnqweno wokwenza izinto kakuhle. Oku kubalulekile kubuzali, kuba akukho ncwadana yemiyalelo!
Nangona isiphako sokuba ngumntwana okuphela kwakhe kukuba abazali banokuba nokuzikhusela ngokugqithiseleyo emntwaneni, okanye bafumane imfundo engqongqo okanye engalalanisiyo. Xa kuthelekiswa nabo bazali banomntwana ongaphezulu komnye, apho ubhetyebhetye kunye nemigangatho enesidima ihlala iluhlobo losuku ukuze bakwazi ukuziqhelanisa nobuntu obahlukeneyo babantwana.
Kuyenzeka ukuba bakho abazali abafuna ukuba ngabazali kodwa abaphantsi abafuni ukuba njalo. Benza oku ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwentlalo okanye ngenxa yemigaqo ebekiweyo kwinkcubeko yabo. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba umzali afumane ubuzali bokunyanzelwa obenza bazive bengalunganga kwaye omncinci uziva ulilolo ngokweemvakalelo.
Oku kunokubangela ukungazithembi kwixesha elizayo ukuze babe nakho ukuhlangana kunye nokusondela kubudlelwane obudibeneyo.
Nangona kunjalo, abo bazali ekuqaleni ababengafuni ukuba, banokuba nokukhuliswa kakuhle ukuba bayayamkela imeko ngokwendalo. Ukuba akunjalo, umntwana angangumamkeli wempixano kwaye angabinakho ukuhoywa ngokweemvakalelo.
Izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga
Okwangoku, siza kuthi chaza izibonelelo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga zokuba kuphela komntwana.
Inzuzo
- Abazali baya kuba nexesha elininzi kunye nezixhobo zomntwana wabo.
- Abantwana baya kuba nokuzithemba okungcono kunye nokukhuseleka kuba befumana ithuba lokukhetha kubazali babo
- Ngokudibana ngakumbi nabantu abadala, bakhulisa ubukrelekrele babo ngokukhawuleza
- Ngokungabinabo abantwana ngeenxa zonke, bathambekele ekuphuhliseni ubuchule ngakumbi kwaye banokuba nezihlobo zokucinga
- Banokuzimela ngakumbi kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abonwabanga
- Banokuba ngabantwana abahle ngakumbi kunabanye
Iingxaki
- Unokuba nobunzima ngokunxulumene nabanye
- Unokuba ngumntu ogciniweyo
- Akanakuba nokuhlangana ngokusondeleyo nabazali njengoko wayenokuba nako nomzalwana
- Njengokuba ekhula ngokukhawuleza, unokuphulukana nokuziphatha komntwana kwaye abe noxanduva kakhulu kubudala bakhe
- Uthethathethwano okanye izakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano zingathatha ixesha elide ukukhula, into eza ngokwendalo xa unabantakwenu.
Izinto Ezinabazali Babantwana Kuphela Abafanele Ukuzazi
Ukuba unomntwana okuphela kwakhe kukho izinto ezithile ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo kuba ngale ndlela, unokukhulisa umntwana owonwabileyo ngaphandle kwengxaki zengqondo kwaye ikhule kwaye ihambelane kakuhle nemeko engqongileyo.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba umntwana (kunye okanye ngaphandle kwabantakwabo) unokuziphatha okungaqhelekanga, kuxhomekeka ngakumbi kwindlela afundiswe ngayo ekhaya kunokuba abenabantakwabo okanye hayi. Eminye yale miba yile:
- Musa ukumkhusela ngokugqithiseleyo umntwana wakho
- Iququzelela unxibelelwano nabanye abantwana abakubudala babo
- Mncome umntwana wakho xa esenza into elungileyo, kodwa ungayibaxi.
- Ungasoloko umvumela ukuba aphumelele, myeke azive ekhathazekile olahlekileyo
- Bafundise ukuba ukwenza iimpazamo akukho nto iphosakeleyo kwaye banokuba ngabafundisi abalungileyo bobomi
Njengoko ubona, ukuba ngutata okanye umama womntwana okuphela kwakhe akuthethi ukuba kufuneka bathobele zonke iintsomi, kungasathethwa ke ... Iya kuhlala inento yokwenza nokukhula kunye nemfundo efumanekayo ekhaya.