Okanye ke noko bangandixelelanga. Bandixelele ngokubaluleka kokuzilolonga ngexesha lokukhulelwa, imiqondiso kunye nezigaba zomsebenzi, ukukhathalela umntwana, njl. kodwa hayi ukusuka iimvakalelo, de bendizakuziva njani, okanye kubaluleke kangakanani zilungiselele into ongayilindelanga okanye uyiqikelele.
Isicwangciso sokuzalwa
Kukho into abangazange bandixelele ngayo kwindibano yokulungiselela ukubeleka, kodwa ngethamsanqa ndafumanisa enkosi kwinto yokuba ndabelana ngokukhulelwa kwam neqela loomama abakhulelweyo, kwaye isicwangciso sokuzalwa. Isicwangciso sokuzalwa bhala ukuzalwa kwakho, indlela ofuna ukuba ngayo, uphuphe"Uxwebhu apho umfazi angabeka khona izinto azikhethayo, iimfuno, iminqweno kunye nokulindelweyo malunga nomsebenzi kunye nenkqubo yokuhanjiswa kwenkonzo", njengoko kuchaziwe kwi Umsebenzi kunye neSicwangciso sokuzalwa soMphathiswa Wezempilo. Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sakho sokuzalwa kukunika ukhuseleko, ukuzithemba ukuba yonke into iya kuba-ngaphakathi kwezonyango-njengoko ufuna ukuba njalo.
Izinto endingazange ndikuxelele zona
Ndabhala isicwangciso sam sokuzalwa emva kokufunda, ukucinga, ukuvavanya ukhetho, njl. Okwangoku, ukuba ndijonga emva, ndicinga ukuba akukho mntu undixeleleyo kulungiselelo lwam lokuhambisa:
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Izinto zinokungahambi ngendlela ozifuna ngayo, mhlawumbi ngendlela ongakhange ucinge ukuba zinokuphuma ngayo
Ndiza kukuxelela ngamava am obuqu: Ndenze i-yoga ngaphambi kokubeleka, indawo yokusebenzela kunye nokuhanjiswa, bendizazi iindlela zokuphila ngentlungu kwaye ndiyoyise, andifuni i-epidural, ndifuna ukuzalwa kwendalo ... ndinamava okunyanzelwa, iminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu yenkqubo yokusebenza, i-epidural, i-adrenaline, ukuphantse kugqitywe ngokupheleleyo, icandelo lonyango olukhawulezileyo kwaye ndandingaziva ulusu kulusu nomntwana wam emva kokuzalwa ngenxa yezizathu zonyango. Ayikuko ukuba akukho mntu undixelele ukuba inokuba njalo -kungekho mntu undixeleleyo- kukuba ngekhe ndiyicinge nokuyicinga.
Ayisiyokuya kunikezelo lwakho ulungiselelwe le ntlekele, kodwa ukuba uyazi ukuba izinto zinokungahambi njengoko ulindele, kulula ukuba ujamelane nobunzima ngalo mzuzu kwaye uyiphathe ngendlela esemphefumlweni.
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Ukubeleka lelona xesha lihle ebomini bakho
Wonke umntu uthetha ngentlungu ("oh, kubuhlungu kanjani!"), Ngamava afana nalawa ndibalisile ngaphezulu kweeyure ezilishumi elinesithandathu, zokuthintela, imeko engonwabisiyo ... kodwa ngaphandle kokuzisola, ukuzala lelona xesha lihle ebomini bakho kuba yinkqubo yendalo yokwazi usana lwakho. Yiphile ngamandla, uyonwabele. Unakekele umntwana wakho iinyanga ezisithoba ngaphakathi kwakho, kwaye kwiiyure nje ezimbalwa uya kube ugonene ngaphandle kolusu, ulusu kulusu.
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Kubalulekile ukuba umntu omthandayo akukhaphe ngexesha lomsebenzi
Nokuba liqabane lakho, unyoko, umntakwenu, umhlobo wakho ... kubalulekile ukuba wena thatha isandla somntu omthandayo kwaye ukhale, kwaye usicinezele kakhulu, ukukunika amandla, ukukhuthaza, ukwanga ... Ngamafutshane, kubalulekile ukuba ungabi wedwa. Ndiyicinga ukuba ngeli xesha kukho iimbono ezahlukeneyo malunga nalo, kodwa kum kwakumnandi kakhulu ukukwazi ukukhwaza "Ndiyakuthanda!"
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Ukuncancisa ulwazi, hayi ithuba
Ndiyakhumbula ukuba kwindibano yokulungiselela ukubeleka endandikhe ndaya kuyo, basibuza: "Bangaphi kuni abafuna ukuncancisa?" Khange ndiyiqonde, bendicinga ukuba ngumbuzo-buciko, kodwa hayi, kufuneka uphakamise isandla. Ke intetho malunga nokuncancisa yaqala apho basixelela khona malunga "necolostrum", "ukunyuka kobisi", "ukuzalwa kwendalo vs. icandelo le-cesarean ', njl. Abazange bathethe nam malunga "nokubamba" okanye indlela yokuma, umzekelo. Ndifunde kancinci ukufika kwam esibhedlele, ngethamsanqa, kwaye ndicinga ngokunyanisekileyo Isitshixo sempumelelo yam, ukuncancisa kwethu (kunye) nolwazi. Kwaye ulwazi alufundanga nje, likwafuna uncedo, inkxaso, ukubuza imibuzo, ukucela ukuba ujonge ukubamba kwakho, njl. Hayi, ayithethi ngethamsanqa.
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Ubomi bakho bujika umzuzu wokuzalwa komntwana wakho
Epheleleyo, ujikeleze; Kuyajika kuba ngalo mzuzu uyeka ukuba ngu "wena" ukuba ube "thina". Ewe, amanye amabinzana olu hlobo aviwe ngexesha lokukhulelwa: bakuxelela ukuba «umntwana utshintsha ubomi bakho», apho kum kuvakala njengobusuku obuninzi ngaphandle kokulala, kodwa hayi (ewe, ewe, ubusuku ngaphandle kokuba ndilale kakhulu emqolo wam), kodwa ngumlingo wokuba ngumama kukwenza ukhule, uqinise amaxabiso akho, ulwele usana lwakho ngamandla okuzingca kweengonyamakazi, ukuba abe sisiseko, athande ngokunzulu, yeyona nto intle kakhulu okwenzekileyo kuwe kukuba umntwana wakho athi "Mama."
