Uyiqonda njani 'i-turkey age' kwaye ujongane nayo ngempumelelo

'Iminyaka yeTurkey' ibekiwe ibhetyebhetye, bubudala ebantwaneni apho babhalwe ngokungakhethiyo malunga nokuziphatha okungacacanga nokungahambelani ... Kodwa kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kwaye kwenzeka ngenxa yophuhliso abahamba phantsi kwalo. Abafikisayo basendleleni eya ebudaleni kwaye oku kubandakanya uthotho lweenguqu ezibalulekileyo zehomoni, zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo eziya kutshintsha ubomi babo.

Abafikisayo bafuna ukuzazisa kwaye bafuna umntu omdala ukuba abakhokele kwaye abakhokele, kwaye baxelelwe ukuba 'bakwiminyaka yobudala be-turkey', ayibancedi kwaphela. Uninzi lwabazali bayazi ukuba eli nqanaba okanye inqanaba liqala phakathi kweminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-13 kwaye ihlala ifikelela encotsheni yokufikisa kude kube kukhula, okunokufikelela kwiminyaka eli-16 ukuya kweli-19 ubudala.

Kweli nqanaba, abakwishumi elivisayo, befuna ukumakisha isazisi sabo, bazame ukwahlukana nabazali babo kangangoko kwaye babeke ubudlelwane ngakumbi noontanga babo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba bayeke ukufuna abazali babo, kude lee! Banokubonisa ukuba abazidingi kwaye eyona nto ibalulekileyo bubuhlobo babo, kodwa inyani iya kuhlala yahlukile. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukwenza ngokubanzi, eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kukuba amantombazana akhula ngaphambi kwamakhwenkwe. 

Ingqondo iyakhula

Xa kufika ixesha lokufikisa, imizimba yamakhwenkwe kunye neyamantombazana iyatshintsha, iba kwishumi elivisayo kunye nemizimba yabo ifana naleyo yabantu abadala ... kwaye nengqondo yabo ikwajongeka njengokumdala. Ingqondo lelona lungu lokugqibela emzimbeni ukukhula kunye nokuvuthwa akugqitywanga kude kube malunga neminyaka engama-24 ubudala. I-chemistry kunye nobume bengqondo yokufikisa kuphela malunga ne-80% yefom yayo yokugqibela.

Abafikisayo, enkosi kubume bengqondo yabo, banokufunda ngakumbi kwaye babengcono kunabantu abadala kuba bafikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokufunda kwabo enkosi kwi-synaptic plasticity. Iiseli zobuchopho zinxibelelana kwaye yile ndlela ufunda ngayo. Ii-synapses ziye zikhule xa kufundwa into. Iiproteni kunye neekhemikhali ezibandakanyekayo kulwakhiwo lwee-synapses zokufunda ziphezulu kakhulu ngeli nqanaba lokukhula, nangona njengoko ulutsha lukhula luyancipha kwaye luyancitshiswa kubantu abadala. Ngesi sizathu abantwana banokufunda iilwimi ezimbini okanye ezintathu ngokugqibeleleyo. Ukufikisa akusebenzi kakuhle njengomntwana kodwa ungcono kunomntu omkhulu ngokwesantya abanokuthi bafunde kwaye bathathe ngaso ulwazi.

Ummangaliso kuyo yonke le nto kukuba ngelixa abafikisayo benamandla amakhulu okufunda, unxibelelwano phakathi kweendawo ezahlukeneyo zobuchopho lusakhula kwaye yiyo loo nto banokuba nesimo sengqondo kunye nokuziphatha okungalindelekanga kakhulu kwiimeko ezininzi.

I-lobes engaphambili isaphuhliswa kwaye inoxanduva lokubona, ukugweba, ukulawula impembelelo, uvelwano kunye neminye imiba ulutsha olunengxaki yokuyilawula. Ingqondo yokufikisa iyasebenza kwelinye icala, iyakwazi ukufunda ngokukuko kodwa kwangaxeshanye ikhokelwa kukuziphatha okucothisa esi sakhono sikhulu.

Imiba ebalulekileyo kwinqanaba lokufikisa

Imikhwa emibi kunye ne-IQ

Iziyobisi kunye notywala zinokuba nefuthe elibi ngakumbi kwingqondo yokufikisa kunakwingqondo yabantu abadala. I-IQ yakho inokutshintsha kwaye inyuke okanye yehle phakathi kweminyaka ye-13 ukuya kwi-17. Nangona kungaziwa ngokwenyani ukuba yintoni enokubangela ukuba i-IQ yehle, kuyacaca ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwezinye iziyobisi kunokuyithoba i-IQ. Ngokukwanjalo, uxinzelelo lunokuba yingxaki kuba awukwazi ukusombulula iingxaki ngempumelelo njengomntu omkhulu, kodwa kufuneka ufunde ukwenza njalo.

Ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi kunye nokulala

Kukho izifundo zamva nje ezityhila iingxaki zexesha elifutshane kulutsha: ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi. Ngumthwalo omninzi ongathintela amandla akho okukhumbula amagama okanye ezinye iikhonsepthi.

Ukulala kubaluleke kakhulu ekufundeni nakwinkumbulo kulutsha ... kodwa abanokuzifumana iiyure abazifunayo ngokwenene. Ukuba umntu okwishumi elivisayo ukhumbula emva kwexesha okanye uvuka ekuseni kakhulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba abazali bacinge ukuba oku kwenzeka kuba bonqena ... kodwa inyani kukuba bakwishumi elivisayo, Iiwotshi zabo zebhayiloji zilungiselelwe loo nto. Kodwa into engenakulibaleka kukuba bafuna iiyure ezi-8 okanye ezili-9 zokulala ukuze babe nokukhula kwengqondo okunempilo.

Kumntu ofikisayo ukuvuka ngo-6 kusasa xa esiya esikolweni kufana nomntu omdala ukuvuka ngentsimbi yesithathu ekuseni. Oku kwenzeka kuba abantu abadala bahlala befumana ukwanda kwe-melatonin-ihomoni eveliswa yingqondo yokuvelisa ubuthongo-ukusuka nge-8.30: 11pm, ngelixa kulutsha akwenzeki kude kube malunga ne-XNUMX ngokuhlwa.

Unxibelelana njani nomntwana wakho 'kubudala beturkey'

• Itrust kufuneka ifunyenwe.
• Uthethwano kwaye ubeke imida
• Ezinye iindlela zinokuba lelona qabane lakho lilungileyo ukuze ungaphikisani ngokungeyomfuneko
• Ingqalelo yomntwana wakho kuwe ixhomekeke ekuzithembeni kwakho
• Seka unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo ukuze bazi ukuba banokuthembela kuwe
• Chitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabantwana bakho
• Yenza imisebenzi kunye
• Banike indawo noxanduva
• Linganisa amagama akho, ezona njongo zingachazwa gwenxa ukuba usebenzisa amagama angalunganga
• Yiba nomdla kuyo yonke into umntwana wakho afuna ukukuchaza okanye ayithethe kuwe
• Funda ukuphulaphula kakuhle
• Wulawule umsindo wakho
• Yiba ngumzekelo obalaseleyo
• Funda ukuba bhetyebhetye
• Mamela uluvo lwabo kwaye ubanike ixabiso

Abantwana bakho abakwishumi elivisayo bayakufuna, bafuna ukhokelo kunye nesikhokelo sakho. Ziphephe izityholo, ukugweba, okanye amazwi ahlabayo. Uvelwano kunye nokuzithemba kufuneka kube ziziseko zonxibelelwano lwakho ukusukela ngoku. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azive ukuba uyamphulaphula kwaye uyamthemba. 'Iminyaka yeTurkey' ayikho enye into eyinkqubo yenguqu.