Ukuba ukuthetha ngesondo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana sele sisihloko esinovakalelo, ukuthetha ukongeza kwi Ukwahluka ngokwesondo kunokuba njalo ngakumbi. Kungcono ukuyenza kunye yemvelo, kwihlabathi liphela nangokubandakanya wonke umntwana apho uziva khona ukuba umdla wabo wanelisiwe. Ukuba kukho into eqhubeka indothusa, kukukwazi "ukunganiki ukubaluleka" kuyo yonke into eyenzelwe abantu abadala.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu vumela abantwana bavakalise ngokukhululekileyo amathandabuzo abo, iinkxalabo zabo, kwaye bangazenzeli izimvo malunga nento elungileyo nengalunganga ngokweyantlukwano ngokwesondo.
Nge-8 kaNovemba, uSuku lwaManyano lwe-Intersex
Hoy Nge-8 kaNovemba ngumhla woBumbano lwe-Intersex, kwaye ukuze sikwazi ukuyicacisa kakuhle kubantwana bethu sifuna ukukunika umbono omncinci. Umntu uthathwa njenge-intersex xa ozelwe ngokudityaniswa kweempawu zebhayoloji eyindoda nebhinqa. Oogqirha abanakubabela owesilisa okanye owasetyhini. Oku kwahluka okwenzeka ngokwendalo ebantwini, asiyongxaki yezonyango. Kwaye kuqhelekile kunokuba ucinga.
Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe ex-intersex, ugqirha kunye nosapho bathatha isigqibo ngesini kwaye bayikhulisa ngokungathi yeyesini eso, kwezo ndima, nokuba yindoda okanye ibhinqa. Ngamaxesha athile, Kwenzekile ukuba isini esikhethwe lusapho kunye noogqirha sangqinelani nesazisi sabo. Yeyiphi ekuhambeni kwexesha ebangele iingxaki ezinzulu zezazisi.
Yintoni iyantlukwano ngokwesini xa kuthelekiswa nesazisi?
Kuya kufuneka ndivume ukuba bekufanele ndilungiselele isifundo. Yiphathe ngononophelo, kuba enye into yiyantlukwano ngokwesini kwaye enye sisazisi. Njengokwahluka ngokwesondo siyayiqonda zesondo umntu ngamnye anayo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngantoni. Ngokubanzi, ihlelwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:
- Ukwabelana ngesondo: ngabantu abathandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo.
- ubufanasini: abantu abatsala abantu besini esifanayo.
- bisexuality: Abantu abatsala isini kunye nesini.
Endaweni yokuba Isazisi sesini yeyona nto umntu ngamnye anayo kwindoda okanye isini. Emva koko iyathetha:
- I-Cisgender: Ngabantu abonelisekileyo ngesini sabo sebhayoloji. Ngaphandle kwabo babatsalela ngokwesondo, baziphatha ngokwesini esidibeneyo.
- I-Transgender: Bangabantu abangazichazanga ngokwesini abazalelwe kuso. Oko kukuthi, abayigatyi into yokwabelana ngesondo ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa baziva bachongiwe ngokwengqondo kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Ke ngoko bayazibonakalisa njengabantu besinye isini, kodwa bagcine isini sabo ngokwendalo.
- I-Transsexourse: Bangabantu abangazichazanga isini sebhayiloji kwaye baya kutyando kunye / okanye kungenelelo lwehomoni ukuyiguqula.
- Isini sesithathu okanye i-intersex: Eli gama libhekisa kubantu abangenakuhlelwa njengamadoda okanye ababhinqileyo.
Siyaqonda ukuba lo mbandela ubuthathaka, kodwa khumbula ukuba umntwana ophakathi kwe-0 ne-6 yeminyaka ubudala unombono wobomi "oqhelekileyo" ngakumbi. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe othuke umntu afunda naye enxibe njengentombazana, okanye abantu abadala ababini abancamisayo.
Iintsomi kunye namabali abantwana abajongana neyantlukwano
Abanye Iincwadi zabantwana kunye namabali onokuzisebenzisa njengesixhobo sokufundisa Ukucacisela abantwana bakho malunga neyantlukwano yesini emalunga nayo. Sele sele zimbini zakudala Ibali lika-Aitor, onomama ababini; okanye eyeNkosazana Li, owala umtshato wakhe nenkosana uBeatrice wakhe amthandayo. Omabini la mabali aqhelekileyo amabali othando phakathi kwabafazi.
Kukho ezinye izihloko ezibalayo amabali abantwana (amakhwenkwe) abathanda ukunxiba njengeenkosazana, okanye unxibe iimpahla zikamama… zii-Adventures zaseTulipan. Okanye amantombazana aziva njengabantwana abanjengoCua de Sirena. USoy Jazz ubalisa ibali eliyinyani, ebaliselwe umntu wokuqala wentombazana ovela kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala ukuba azive efana, nangona ekhaya bamxelele ukuba yinkwenkwe.
Siyathemba ukuba sikuncedile, okanye ke ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi malunga nesifundo unokudibana nesazi ngengqondo okanye kwisikolo esifanayo senkwenkwe okanye eso ntombazana baya kukukhokela kwizinto ezingaphezulu. Apha Sikushiya nenqaku onokuthi udibane nalo.