Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ukuphuhlisa esi sithuba, ndingathanda ukukunika iliso: "musa ukubonisa umxholo kwiintombi zakho nakoonyana bakho, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba abavumi"; kwaye ngoku amahlaya angaphandle, ngenene ababandakanyekayo kuba bancinci ekufezekisweni komsebenzi wasekhaya ibanceda bafumane ukuzimela, baphuhlise izakhono ezahlukeneyo kwaye bakhule ngoxanduva.
Ndiyazi ukuba kumakhaya amaninzi, inyani nje yokuthatha inxaxheba ingakhokelela kungxabano. Mhlawumbi ukungangeni kwiimeko ezinzima kuxhomekeke kulwimi okanye ithoni esiyisebenzisayo; mhlawumbi ukusuka ekulingeni komsebenzi ocetywayo ukuya kubudala bamantombazana okanye amakhwenkwe, kodwa inyani kukuba sinako ukwenza okuthile njengaye abaququzeleli, kodwa bekwakhuthaza ukungakhathali, kwanokuvukela. Siza kuthetha kwakhona malunga 'nendlela yokwenza ngcono ukwamkela imisebenzi abayabelweyo'. Ndiyakumema ukuba uqhubeke nokufunda.
Kutheni le nto umsebenzi wasekhaya ulungele abantwana?
Xa uhlala nabantu abaninzi endlwini (njengakwimeko yosapho olunabantwana abancinci), thatha inxaxheba kulungelelwaniso nococeko lwasekhaya, iyanceda ukuziva ifana 'neyakho', kwaye ithathe uxanduva ngokubhekisele kukhathalelo kunye nokugcinwa kwayo.
Kodwa ikwonyusa ukunganyamezeli, njengoko kufuneka bajongane nezakhono zokufunda ezingaziwayo kubo ekuqaleni; kwaye banikezela nenxalenye (encinci, ewe) yexesha labo lasimahla. Ukukhathazeka emva koko kujika kube ngamandla, bona ngokwabo.
Izikhalazo malunga nococeko, ucwangco okanye imeko yamagumbi ahlukeneyo endlwini, Bangaphantsi xa abantwana benesenzo kunye nentsebenziswano, kuba bengabathathi-nxaxheba.
Banokulicwangcisa ngcono ixesha labo, kwaye nangona oku kungaphawuleki besebancinci, kubalulekile ngexesha lokufikisa.
Njengoko ubona, zonke ziluncedo, nangona kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akukho lula, ngaphandle kwaxa umkhwa ukhula ukusuka kumncinci. Kukwabaluleke kakhulu ukuba umama notata babe ngumzekelo, hayi ekwenziweni ngokulinganayo kwemisebenzi, kodwa balungelelanise, ngokweeshedyuli zomsebenzi kunye nemisebenzi yokhathalelo lomntwana.
Ngaba kunzima kubantwana bakho ukuba bayamkele into yokuba kufuneka basebenzisane?
Njengoko benditshilo ekuqaleni, uxanduva lokuthatha inxaxheba ekhaya kwabelwana ngalo, into yokuba abantwana bakho babe umkhwa ngaloo ndlela, yeyakho.
Iingcebiso zokubaqonda ngcono abantwana ngokucinga ngenqanaba labo lokukhula.
Ungakulibali oko abancinci bahlala ngokukhawuleza, abanalo ukucinga okungacacanga kwaye iinjongo zabo zifutshane kakhulu kwaye zibambekile.
Kukho imisebenzi ekulula kuwe kodwa kumntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka eli-14 okanye eli-15 kunokuba nzima ukuyigqiba; umzekelo ukucoca igumbi ngokupheleleyo, ukuqokelela ZONKE iithoyi ezisetyenzisiweyo, njl.
Bayayithanda indawo 'yabo' ikhululekile, kwaye ngenxa yoko bavunyelwe ukuba nayo (umhombiso, ucwangco) ngokokuthanda kwabo.
Iingcebiso zokujongana nonxibelelwano xa kufikwa kumba wokubandakanyeka ngakumbi.
- Yiba mnandi kwaye ube nobuhlobo xa uthetha.
- Veza kwaye ubeke amagama ngqo kwiingcinga zakho ngokubhekisele kwintsebenziswano (nguwe othi 'ubuze', hayi abo bafuna 'ukwenza').
- Kwimeko apho bafuna ukwenza isindululo, ukuba bafuna ukujongana nemiceli mngeni emitsha obungakhange ucinge ngayo, vumela (nokuba kungongamela ukugqitywa komsebenzi).
- Thetha-thethana xa ufuna uncedo olungaphezulu, sukunyanzela ...
- Bancede nanini na xa beyidinga (ubukho obufunekayo nobonelisekileyo buyanceda ukuzimela kamva)
- Sukungxola okanye ukuhlazisa xa bengazalisekisanga izibophelelo zangaphambili.
Masiyikhumbule ekugqibeleni loo nto Ayisiyoyokuphelisa lonke uthuli, okanye 'ingatyiwa' phantsi, kodwa indawo ohlala kuyo iyathandeka kwaye ndonivuyisa nonke.