Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba iintloni kunye nokungeniswa kuyafana, kodwa akukho nto inokuthi iqhubeke nenyaniso. Zibonakala zifana kodwa azifani kwaphela. Ukuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo uyangenisa, ungakhathazeki kuba ayisiyonto imbi kwaphela. Endaweni yokuchasene ngokupheleleyo.
Kukho abazali abadida intshayelelo kunye neentloni, oku kubangela ukuba bakhathazeke xa bebona ukuba ulutsha lwabo lugciniwe ngakumbi okanye xa berhoxa kumaqela amakhulu abafikisayo, okanye ukuba babonakala benobunzima ekuhlaleni. Kodwa Ukuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ungumngenisi, ukuchitha ixesha elinzima akukho nzima kuye, sele ebakhethile abahlobo.
Iintloni kunye nokuzazisa akufani
Iintloni kunye nokuzazisa akuhambelani nangona zinokubonakala ngeliso lenyama. Ulutsha olunentloni, kwelinye icala, lunokuba noxinzelelo lwasentlalweni, kodwa ulutsha olwazisayo ukuba noxinzelelo ngabazali babo, kodwa hayi bona. Abazali bahlala bekhathazekile kuba abantwana babo babonakala ngathi abanazo izakhono zokuhlala, kodwa enyanisweni, ezo zakhono zinazo, kukuba nje bakhethe ukuba bazisebenzisa nini. Ulutsha olungenisiweyo lonwabile ukuba lungenisiwe, luyinxalenye yobuntu babo.
Ulutsha olungenisiweyo ludinga ukubekelwa ecaleni ekuhlaleni kwaye lukhululekile ngakumbi kunontanga babo xa behleli bodwa. Kodwa i-introvert ayisiyongxaki kwaphela kunye ne-extrovert, banokhetho olwahlukileyo, kwaye Zombini izinto abazikhethayo ziyabonwabisa.
Mhlawumbi unendawo yokungenisa kwaye uziva ulungile ngaloo ndlela. Ama-introverts azonwabisa ngaphandle kwenkampani yabantu abaninzi, kwaye banokonwaba kakhulu ukuzingqunga nabantu abambalwa kodwa abo babajonga njengabakumgangatho ophezulu. Ukuba unenkxalabo yokuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ungangenisi, kufuneka uqhubeke ufunda ngenxa yokuba uza kufumanisa izibonelelo zokuba mnye, umntwana wakho wonwabile ngolu hlobo!
Izibonelelo zomntwana wakho kukungenisa
Uya kuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwesidingo somntu
Olona lutsha luphumayo kufuneka lusoloko lukunye nabanye abantu ukuze luzive lonwabile. Bafuna imisebenzi yezoluntu, baya kuphuma bachithe ixesha elininzi kude nekhaya. Endaweni yoko, Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo owazisayo uya kuzonwabisa ngokuzonwabisa kubantu abambalwa okanye nokuba yedwa, kwaye ayisiyonto imbi leyo.
Ungalufumana ulonwabo kwincwadi okanye kwizinto ozithandayo uwedwa. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana wakho uyasokola, kude kunoko. Kufuneka ujonge nje ukuze wazi ukuba wonwabile ngoluhlobo, uyancuma, uhleka nezinto ezimenza azive kamnandi. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo owonwabileyo uyonwaba kuba enjalo kuba uyabakhetha abahlobo bakhe kwaye akadingi ngaphezulu koko.
Kunoko, Ukuba ucinga ukuba unexhala ekuhlaleni okanye uneentloni kwaye angathanda ukunxibelelana nabantu abaninzi kodwa engazi ukuba angenza njani, ke kubalulekile ukuba umfundise izakhono zentlalo ukuze akwazi ukuziphumeza okanye ukuba unxibelelane nengcali ukuze umkhokele kwaye umncede kule ndlela.
Uya kuba nabahlobo abambalwa kodwa baya kuba semgangathweni
Abantu aba-extroverts baya kudibana nabantu abaninzi, banenethiwekhi enkulu yoqhakamshelwano, kodwa ke ngoku, xa kuziwa ekubeni nabahlobo bokwenyani xa ubadinga, unokuziva ulilolo ngakumbi kunokuba bekulindelwe. Ngokwahlukileyo, okwishumi elivisayo owazisayo uyayazi indlela yokukhetha abahlobo abafanelwe yingqwalaselo yakhe.
Oku kuthetha ukuba xa ufuna uncedo, awuyi kuba nangxaki ngokwenza njalo, kuba abahlobo bakho baya kuba bokwenene. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo owonwabileyo uya konwaba liqela lakhe elincinci labahlobo kwaye akuyi kufuneka ukuba abe phakathi kwabantu 'abadumileyo'. ukusuka kwiziko eliza kwamkelwa. Ubuntu bakhe bunamandla ngaphezu kwayo yonke loo nto. Oku kulungile kuba kubonisa amandla abo angaphakathi kwaye xa umntu okwishumi elivisayo efuna ukwamkelwa ngomnye phantse ngalo lonke ixesha, ziindaba ezimbi kuba banokwenza nantoni na ukuze bazive bemkelwe eluntwini.
Siza kuchitha ixesha elininzi ekhaya
Oku kulungele uxolo lwakho lwengqondo njengomzali. Abafikisayo abafikisayo baya kuchitha ixesha elininzi ekhaya kwaye ke ngekhe banyamezele okanye bahlupheke ngoxinzelelo lwentlalo olunokubenza bakhethe iindlela ezingafanelekanga.
Ukongeza, into yokuba uchitha ixesha elininzi ekhaya ikwanomdla kuba uya kuba nakho ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nosapho lwakho. Kuya kuba luvuyo kuphuhliso lwabo kunye nakwibhondi yosapho kuba ningenza amalungiselelo emisebenzi yokwenza kunye. Ukuze umntu ofikisayo achithe ixesha elininzi ekhaya kwaye ethanda ukuba sekhaya njengentsapho, kuyintsikelelo kumakhaya amaninzi.
Siza kugxila ngakumbi kwiingcinga zakho
Ulutsha olungenisiweyo ludla ngokugxila ngakumbi kwiimvakalelo nakwiingcinga zabo kunakwabanye abantu okanye oontanga babo. Ke ngoko, oku kulungile kuba enkosi ngokujolisa ngakumbi kwiingcinga zabo baba ngabantu abanobuchule obukhulu bokuyila kwaye baya kuyazi indlela yokwenza izigqibo ezingcono.
Njengokuba oko kwakungonelanga, baya kuba nakho ukukwazi ukucinga okugqibeleleyo. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, bayazi ukuba bazi njani neengcinga zabo uya kubenza baziqonde iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo, ke baya kuba novelwano, ukuzithemba kunye nokomelela, Kuyimfuneko kuye nakubani na nakuluntu ngokubanzi!
Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ongenisayo ngumntu olungileyo
Ngokwesiqhelo umntu okwishumi elivisayo ongenisayo ngumntu olungileyo, uyaziqonda iimvakalelo zabanye ngenxa yenceba yakhe kwaye akafuni kuba neengxaki nabanye abantu. Kunqabile ukuba babe ngabaxhaphazi kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kwaye bathande ukunceda abanye xa besengxakini.
Oku kuyimfuneko kuluntu lwethu kuba sihlala kuluntu oluthi nangona kubonakala ngathi wonke umntu ufuna ukuba nentlalontle kakhulu kwaye unonxibelelwano oluninzi kuthungelwano lwabo lwentlalo, xa kutyhalwa kuza kutyholwa, xa umntu efuna uncedo, bajonge kwenye indawo. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo owazisiweyo uya kuba ngomnye wabo bantu abaya kukwazi ukunceda abanye xa befuna.
Kubalulekile ukuba uluntu luyeke ukugxeka izethulo, kuba zona, kwiimeko ezininzi, zezona zihambisa umhlaba ukuba ube ngcono.