Ngaba ukhe waqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uqhuma ngaphezu kwayo yonke into ngokupheleleyo? Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba ingelosi yakho iyaqhuma ngaso nasiphi na isizathu esimoyikisayo kwaye ade abe nomsindo. Oku kuhlala kwenzeka xa kukho iimeko ongazi ukuba uzisingathe njani. Oku kunokwenzeka nakubantwana abadala, abakwishumi elivisayo kwanabantu abadala abangakwaziyo ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo.
Kukho abantu ababhidanisa olu hlobo lwabantwana ngabantwana abangenaxabiso, kodwa enyanisweni ngabantwana abanovakalelo kakhulu ekufuneka befundile ukuhambisa iimvakalelo zabo nokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngokwemeko abajamelana nayo. Ukuze bafunde ukuhambisa iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bayeke ukuba ngabantwana abanesiqhushumbisi, baya kuludinga uncedo kunye nokufundisa kwakho.
Okulandelayo siza kukunika iingcebiso ukuze umntwana wakho ayeke ukuba dubulo kwaye abe novakalelo.
- Jonga umntwana wakho emehlweni kwaye wamkele iimvakalelo zabo.
- Mamela ngononophelo kwinto eyenzekayo, uya kwazi ukuba uyakhathala kwaye lonto izakumthomalalisa.
- Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze abone ukuba uyavelana naye.
- Yiba noqikelelo kwindlela ophendula ngayo, bazise ukuba uya kuba ecaleni kwabo. Musa ukuba bhetyebhetye okanye uza kudala uxinzelelo.
- Thetha nomntwana wakho malunga nezinto eniza kuzenza kunye, ukuze aqikelele izinto kwaye avelise ukuzola.
- Mnike yonke inkxaso yakho nanini na eyidinga. Inkxaso yakho yeemvakalelo ibalulekile kuphuhliso lwabo.
- Vumelana nonyana wakho. Yenza izivumelwano kunye.
- Phefumla ngomntwana wakho. Ukuphefumla kuthoba nabani na kwaye kunokwenziwa nangaliphi na ixesha. Ukuthatha umoya ophefumlayo, ukubala, ukubamba, kunye nokukhupha kancinci kuya kunceda umntwana wakho azolise ezo mvakalelo zinamandla.
- Fumana ukuphazamiseka. Xa umntwana wakho eqhuma okanye sele eza kuqhuma, fumana isiphazamiso sokumphazamisa kugxininiso. Ingayingoma okanye umdlalo.
- Nika ixesha. Umntwana wakho angadinga ixesha lokuzola kwaye kufuneka umhlonele, nangona kufuneka azi ukuba uya kuba naye ngokukhawuleza xa eyidinga.