Ngokwesiqhelo abantwana abakhutheleyo banexesha elinzima ngakumbi ukuhoya kunaleyo izolileyo, kwaye azaziwa ngakumbi. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana wakho akanakuncedwa, nokuba uzolile. Kukho izinto ezininzi ezenza ukuba nabani na angazi nto, kubandakanya ukutya okungekho mgangathweni kunye nokunqongophala kwezondlo.
Ukungabikho koxinzelelo, ukungabinantsingiselo, iba yingxaki xa ikuchaphazela kwimeko yesikolo kunye nokusebenza kwayo kuncitshisiwe. Ngamanye amaxesha ezi ziphazamiso zinokubachaphazela banxibelelane nabanye abahlobo, baqonde kwaye bakhumbule imigaqo yomdlalo. Siza kukunika iingcebiso zokunceda umntwana wakho akwazi ukugxila, kunye nokuphucula ukusebenza kwakhe.
Kutheni le nto umntwana wakho engenakho nofifi nje?
Into yokuqala kunye nesisiseko yile Chaza ingxaki yokunganaki komntwana wakho. Masithi ukuba kuxhomekeke kwindlela esuswe ngayo, kuya kuba lula ukuseta iinjongo ekufuneka zifezekisiwe. Ingcebiso yokuqala ayikokumgweba, okanye umphathe njengesidenge, oku kuyakuqinisa ingxaki kwaye konakalise ukuzithemba kwakhe.
Abantwana bathatha onke amandla kwindalo esingqongileyo, Thetha naye kwaye ufumane unobangela weziphazamiso zakhe. Ukuhamba ngexesha elinzima ekhaya, imeko kunye nabahlobo okanye esikolweni inokuchaphazela ukugxila kwakho. Le ncoko iya kudala ukuthembana kunye nokudibana phakathi kwakho, okuya kukunceda uyeke iziphazamiso zakho.
Ezinye iingongoma ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho usuka ekubeni angabi nazixhobo ukuze abe nokulahleka kwengqwalaselo kunye noxinzelelo kukungazinaki iinkcukacha, kunika imvakalelo yokuba ayimameli xa kuthethwa nayo. Rhoqo wenza iimpazamo kumsebenzi wesikolo. Kunzima kuye ukuba azilungiselele, ubeka izinto endaweni engeyiyo. Ulibale ngokulula imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Kodwa yingcali ekufanele ukuba ikucebise, ungayibhali inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ngokwakho.
Ungayiphucula njani ingqwalaselo ukuba umntwana wakho akanazixhobo?
Oomama abaninzi banxulumanisa ukungakhathali kwabantwana babo nokusilela kwengqwalaselo, okanye ukungakhathali, kodwa ayingabo bonke abantwana abangafundanga abanayo. Xa kungekho bungqina bokuba ukungakhathalelwa komntwana kungenxa yento ethile yezifo, unokulandela ezinye zezi ngcebiso sikunika zona:
- Sebenzisa i khuthazoKwenzeka ebantwaneni nanjengoko kusenzeka kubantu abadala, eyona nto siyithandayo yeyona nto sinikela ingqalelo kuyo.
- Ikhuthaza kuye oko akuthandayo.
- Ziqhelanise midlalo ezithandayo ingqalelo yakho kunye noxinzelelo. Ngamanye amaxesha sithethe ngabo njengezibini, sifuna umzobo ephepheni, umahluko ...
- Mnike i imiyalelo nganye ngexesha. Ngale ndlela awuyi kuphazamiseka ngokucinga ngeeodolo ezininzi ngaxeshanye.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni kwaye iluncedo kakhulu kuyo yonke iminyaka, beka uncedo, njengokuncamathela kwibhashi yamazinyo kumnyango wegumbi lokuhlambela. Okanye yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzenzile evekini kwaye uzincamathelise ngokucacileyo. Mkhuthaze ukuba anqumle oko sele kwenziwe.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana ongenalwazi ekusebenzeni kwakhe esikolweni?
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abangenalwazi benza umsebenzi wesikolo ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kutheni okanye njani, kwaye zama nje ukuwukhumbula. Kule meko kuya kubakho iindlela zokufunda ziya kuza ziluncedo. Ungathetha notitshala wakho akuncede. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba angayisombulula, kodwa ayaphazamiseka kwaye angayigqibi, kuba nje enovalo okanye kuba efuna ukuya kudlala.
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana bayabhideka kuba Bayadikwa ngumsebenzi wasekhaya okanye abakhuthazwa. Ukuba kunjalo, setha iinjongo ezintsha kuye, ekufuneka anike ingqalelo ethe kratya kwaye njengoko ezifezekisa, vuza impumelelo yakhe. Licebo elilungileyo ukuphinda ngokuvakalayo into ekufuneka uyigqibile. Umzekelo, yithi: Kuya kufuneka ndenze isincoko kwiTitanic. Njengokuba enika imiyalelo kuye.
Kukwacetyiswa ukuba kubantwana abangenazixhobo yenza umsebenzi wasekhaya emva komzamo othile, bhetele kunasemva kokuphumla. Xa kukho iingxaki zoxinaniso, ukuchitha amandla omzimba ngemidlalo okanye ngomdlalo owuthandayo kuya kukunceda ungabinangqondo. Unazo ezinye iingcebiso kwi Oku kubhaliwe.