Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye iqhelekile ukuba abazali bavuke xa besiva ukuba umntwana wabo uphethwe njani luhlobo oluthile lobusuku. Oku kuqhelekile, kuba bonke abantu bayabandezeleka ngakumbi okanye kancinci. Las amaphupha amabi Zidla ngokwenzeka xa abantwana besebancinane kakhulu, nangona behla ngokuhamba kweminyaka.
Into yokuba umntwana omncinci abe namaphupha amabi rhoqo yinto eqhelekileyo kuba iphantsi kwenkqubo yokuvuthwa kwengqondo. Njengoko ikhula, ifikelela kwinqanaba lokuvuthwa, elenza ukuba maphupha amabi ngamanye amaxesha.
Abantwana baqala nini ukuba namaphupha amabi?
Amaphupha amabi aqikelelwa ukuba avele emva kweminyaka emibini ubudala ngela xesha ingcinga yomncinci ikhula. Amaphupha amabi aqhelekileyo kwaye abazali akufuneki bakhathazeke ngawo. Umntwana uqala ukuqonda ukuba kukho izinto ezinokumonakalisa kwaye zizise engqondweni yakhe. Amaphupha amabi anokubangelwa zizizathu ezininzi ezinje ngokutshintsha kweendlela okanye ukwanda koxinzelelo kubomi bomntwana. Njengokuba besesitshilo apha ngasentla, njengoko umntwana ekhula, amaphupha amabi ayancipha kwaye aba ngamaxesha athile.
Yintoni iphupha elibi
Abazali bahlala bedibanisa amaphupha amabi kunye nezinye iingxaki zokulala njengoko kunjalo ngobusuku obothusayo okanye amaphupha amnandi.
- Ukuphupha kukaLucid kwenzeka xa usana luhamba kumjikelo wokulala luye kolunye. Yinto eqhelekileyo ke ngoko akukho mfuneko yakuzixhalabisa nangaliphi na ixesha. Ukuba umntwana unephupha eliqinisekileyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuye ukuba ahlale ebhedini okanye athethe yedwa. La maphupha ahlala ixesha elincinci kwaye omncinci akakhumbuli kwanto eyenzekileyo.
- Izinto ezothusayo ebusuku zinqabile kwaye zivela kwangoko xa ulele. Kwezi zoyikiso umntwana ulele ubuthongo kwaye unexesha elibi ngokwenene, ukukhwaza okanye ukulila. Nje ukuba uloyiko luphelile, omncinci ulele ubuthongo kwaye ngentsasa elandelayo akakwazi ukukhumbula nantoni na eyenzekileyo.
- Amaphupha amabi aqhele ukwenzeka kwinxalenye yokugqibela yephupha. Ngokungafaniyo nezi zimbini zangaphambili, umntwana uyakwazi ukukhumbula amaphupha amabi ngentsasa elandelayo.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuthintela amaphupha amabi omntwana wakho
Kubonakalisiwe ukuba abantwana abalele kakubi kwaye kangangeeyure ezimbalwa badla ngokuba namaphupha amabi. Ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba umntwana alale iiyure ezifunwa ngumzimba wakhe kwaye akhululeke.
Kubalulekile ukwenza into yesiqhelo ngaphambi kokuba ulale ukuze umntwana afike ekhululekile kangangoko. Kulungile ukuthetha nomntwana malunga namaphupha amabi kwaye umnike ezinye iingcebiso zokwazi indlela yokujongana nazo.
Ujongana njani nephupha elibi
Into yokuqala ekufuneka yenziwe ngabazali kukuthuthuzela omncinci kwaye uzame ukumhlisa umoya kwaye uphumle emva kokubandezeleka. Imfudumalo nothando lwabazali ngumba ophambili wokuba umntwana azole ngokukhawuleza. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba umntwana abonakalise okwenzekileyo ngelixa uqhubeka nokumhlisa umsindo.
Nje ukuba ubone ukuba uzolile, ungambeka ebhedini. Uninzi lwabazali benza impazamo enkulu ngokuthatha umntwana wabo ayokulala ebhedini ngokwaphula imikhwa yabo kunye neziqhelo. Phambi kokuba abuye alale ungashiya ukukhanya kancinci kwigumbi lakho ukuze ufumane ukulala ngaphandle kwengxaki.
Ngamafutshane, amaphupha amabi aqhelekile kwiminyaka yokuqala. Ixesha elingaphezulu liyancipha. Kubalulekile ukuzibeka ezihlangwini zomntwana kwaye umqonde ngamaxesha onke. Uninzi lwabazali luyayityeshela le nyaniso kwaye bayilibale. Abantwana banexesha elinzima ngenene kwaye bafuna inkxaso yabazali kunye nokuqonda ngawo onke amaxesha.