Ukuba ungumzali onenkxalabo malunga nokuxhatshazwa, kubalulekile ukuba uqale wazi ukuba yintoni na imiqondiso nokuba ingaba umntwana wakho ulixhoba okanye ungumhlaseli. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze wazi indlela yokwenza. Ukuphapha nokuba neliso kubalulekile, njengoko amaxhoba ngokufuthi engafuni ukuxela okwenzekayo kuwo.
Amaxhoba amaninzi akabaxeleli abazali okanye ootitshala kuba besiva iintloni okanye iintloni zokuxhatshazwa. Ukulumka kubalulekile kuba amaxhoba angangathethi nto, anokucinga ukuba abantu abadala bazakubatyhola ngokutyhola okanye baya kubaxelela ukuba basombulule kuba 'zizinto zabantwana', kodwa hayi, Ayizizo izinto zabantwana. Amanye amaxhoba akholelwa kwelokuba akukho nto abantu abadala abanokuyenza ukuze ayeke umxhaphazi.
Ewe, abaxhaphazi abaxeleli abazali babo okanye ootitshala ngezenzo zabo ezimbi ... abazukuthi benza ubomi bube lusizi emntwaneni kwaye baya kuhlala bekhanyela ukuthatha kwabo inxaxheba kolu hlobo. Ngesi sizathu, Kubalulekile ukuba bobabini abaqeqeshi bezemfundo kunye nabazali baqwalasele.
Iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ulixhoba
- Uvela esikolweni eneempahla ezikrazukileyo
- Izinto zesikolo zilahlekile okanye zophukile
- Amanxeba okanye ukubetha kuyavela
- Unentloko okanye isisu-okanye ezinye iimpawu-
- Awufuni ukuya ngendlela efanayo nesikolo
- Unamaphupha amabi okanye uyakhala
- Ukuphelelwa ngumdla esikolweni
- Ndibuhlungu okanye ndidandathekile
- Yiba neemvakalelo eziguqukayo
- Ubonakala unabahlobo abambalwa okanye ungenabo kwaphela
Iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ungumhlaseli
- Unesidingo esomeleleyo sokulawula nokuboyisa abanye
- Uziqinisa ngamandla nezisongelo zokufumana le nto ayifunayo
- Yoyikisa abantakwenu okanye abantwana elumelwaneni
- Ibonisa ukonyuka okwenyani okanye okucingelwayo ngaphezu kwabanye abantwana
- Ityekele ekubeni ibe nomsindo oshushu, ibe nomsindo msinya, inyanzelise, kwaye inyamezeleke kancinci ekukhathazekeni
- Unobunzima ekuthobeleni imigaqo kunye neembandezelo
- Unempatho enobundlongondlongo ngokuchaseneyo nabantu abadala, kubandakanya ootitshala nabazali
- Unokuziphatha okuchasene noluntu okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho (njengobusela okanye ukonakalisa izinto)
- Ayiziniki ukubaluleka kwezinto zesikolo
Bangenza ntoni abazali bexhoba?
Ukuba uyazi okanye ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa kodwa kubonakala ngathi akukho nto bayaziyo esikolweni, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngqo notitshala womntwana wakho kwangoko. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba injongo yakho kukufumana intsebenziswano yesikolo ukuze ayeke ukuxhaphaza umntwana wakho.
Nokuba uyachaphazeleka ngokweemvakalelo yile meko, kubalulekile ukuba ubhalise ukusebenzisana kwesikolo ngaphandle kokwenza umboniso womoya. Nokuba ufuna abo babandakanyeka ekuxhatshazweni bohlwaywe ngokuqatha, okona kubaluleke ngakumbi kunesohlwayo kukuba ukuxhaphaza kunqunyanyiswa ngokukhawuleza.
Isimo kunye nezenzo
- Mamela unyana wakho
- Yiba ngoqondayo kwaye uyithathe nzulu ingxaki. Sukukhawuleza ucaphuke okanye uthabathe amanyathelo
- Musa ukutyhola ixhoba
- Ikhaya lakho yindawo yokuhlala, makhe uzive kamnandi
- Funa ingcali yeengqondo ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyayifuna
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba athethe nawe
- Chitha ixesha kunye nomntwana wakho, mnike inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo rhoqo. Menze azi ukuba umthanda rhoqo
Ufundisa ngeendlela zokukhusela abantwana
- Ukubetha umva akufuneki kube yingcebiso.
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale kude kwaye axelele umntu omdala nanini na xa evakalelwa kukuba umntu othile angamenzakalisa.
- Thetha ngeendlela ezikhuselekileyo zokuphepha iimeko eziyingozi. Umzekelo, fumana indawo ekhuselekileyo efana nevenkile ukufumana indawo yokuhlala ukuba uyatshutshiswa, soloko uhamba kunye nabo, banike inombolo yefowuni ukuba batsalele umnxeba nanini na boyika kwaye ucele uncedo kwimeko yokuxhaphaza.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba anike ingxelo ngokwenzekayo kubantu abadala ngokufanelekileyo: into abayenzayo kuye, ngubani oyenzayo, into ayenzileyo ukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki, into ayifunayo kumntu omdala ukumisa umhlaseli.
- Yenza amacebo kunye nokuziqhelanisa nomntwana wakho ukuze azi ukuba makenze ntoni kwaye enze njani xa ungekho kufutshane naye.
Sebenza ngokuzithemba
- Kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana malunga nokuxhatshazwa kunye nabaxhaphazi, bancede babeke ingxaki kwindawo efanelekileyo kwaye bangayithathi ngokwabo.
- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuhamba ngendlela ekhuselekileyo
- Sebenza nabantwana bakho kwizakhono zentlalo okanye ubancede ngobuchule
- Chonga kwaye ubakhuthaze iitalente zabantwana bakho kunye neempawu zabo ezintle
- Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba enze abahlobo abatsha
- Indawo entsha inokuba lithuba elitsha
- Nika inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo
- Mkhuthaze ukuba enze imithambo yomzimba ukuze asebenze kwimpilo yeemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane nabanye
Kufuneka uthethe nini kwabasemagunyeni?
Ukuba ukuxhaphaza kwenzeka esikolweni, olona xanduva lokufezekisa le njongo luxhomekeke kubasebenzi besikolo. Kubalulekile, nangona kunjalo, ukuba abazali bexhoba basebenze nesikolo ukumilisela isicwangciso ekuvunyelwene ngaso ukusombulula ingxaki.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwe esikolweni, nazi iingcebiso zokuxela ingxaki kubaphathi besikolo:
- Emva kokuthetha nomntwana wakho, kodwa ngaphambi kokuqhagamshelana nabasebenzi besikolo, bhala phantsi iinkcukacha zeemeko zokuxhatshazwa.
- Qaphela imihla namagama abantwana abathatha inxaxheba. Zama ukubona imeko ngokungachanekanga kwaye ubone ukuba imbi kangakanani.
- Umntwana wakho angakuchasa ukubandakanyeka kwakhe ukuba woyika ukuziphindezela kulowo ukuxhaphazayo. Ukuba kunjalo, chazela umntwana wakho ukuba uninzi lweemeko zokuxhaphaza zifuna ukungenelela kwabantu abadala ukusombulula ingxaki. Mxelele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ngubani oza kuthetha kwaye ngubani
- Nxibelelana nabasebenzi besikolo ukufumana isisombululo kunye nokuphelisa ukuxhatshazwa.Qala wabelane ngeengxaki kunye notitshala kwaye nisebenze kunye ukuze nithathe isigqibo sokusombulula ingxaki. Ukuba utitshala akakwazi kuyisombulula, yiya kwinqununu wenze isicelo esibhaliweyo esibhaliweyo sokuphelisa ukungcungcuthekisa.
- Musa ukunxibelelana ngqo nomhlaseli okanye usapho lomhlaseli.
- Gcina irekhodi elisisigxina lemihla yezona ziganeko zokuxhatshazwa kunye nezenzo ozithathayo ukunceda umntwana wakho ajongane nokuxhatshazwa. Yazisa isikolo ngeziganeko ezenzekayo.
- Kwiimeko ezimandundu ngakumbi, tshintshela umntwana wakho esikolweni - awufumana ngaphambi nangexesha lokhathalelo lwengqondo- uye emapoliseni uqeshe iinkonzo zegqwetha.