Ndiyakhumbula ngokungathi bekuyizolo amanye amagama (alumke kakhulu kum) athe umama kum xa ndandikwibanga lesithathu: «ntombi, nokuba ungawaphi na amabakala, musa ukulibala ukuba ngaphezulu kwenani ungumntu. Kwaye abantu bangaphezulu kwenqanaba lesifundo. Kule veki, ootitshala banike abafundi ibhulethini kunye namabakala esikolo. Iveki ethi kwabanye idale ixhala, uxinzelelo, uloyiko kunye nokwaliwa.
Inxalenye yoluntu (kunokuba uninzi lwethu lungathanda) luthe phithi kukuvunywa nokungaphumeleli. Ngee-nines kunye ne-eights. Kukho ootitshala abanika kuphela ukubaluleka kumabanga esikolo kwaye eso sisiseko sokujongana kwabo nabafundi. Ngamanye amagama, ukuba umfundi ufumene ishumi ungumfundi okrelekrele, ngelixa umfundi ofumene isine nesiqingatha akakhanyisi kangako kwaye engafanelekanga ukuba aqwalaselwe kangaka.
Kodwa singathini malunga nendlela abasabela ngayo ootata noomama?
Ewe, njengayo yonke into ebomini, kukho yonke into. Kukho iintsapho eziba nomsindo kuba abantwana babo besilele enye kwaye baqhubeke nokohlwaya "ngamabanga angalunganga esikolo" (ngelishwa, iimpendulo ezimbi zabazali amaxesha amaninzi zibangela unxunguphalo, ukungonwabi kunye nokudinwa kwabafundi). Kwaye kukho iintsapho ezixoxa nabantwana okanye abantu abancinci, abanxibelelana nabo ngokuzimisela, babamamele kwaye bazame ukuziqonda.
Ngokuchanekileyo, kwisithuba sanamhlanje kuye kwenzeka kum ukuba ndithethe malunga neempendulo ezingafanelekanga ukuba zibekho xa ubona amanqanaba esikolo abafundi kunye nomntwana xa kuthelekiswa nezo bekufanele ukuba nazo. Makhe siye kuyo!
Ukufundisa ngoloyiko akusebenzi
Ndithetha ntoni ngale nto? Ewe, kukho abazali nootitshala abasoyikisayo ngokuthi "kulungile, ukuba awuzipasanga zonke izifundo, uza kuwuphinda unyaka." "Kulungile, ukuba uyayamkela yonke into, uya kuba nezipho ezingaphezulu" "Kulungile, ndizakubona ukuba ubufunda xa usiza namabanga akho esikolo" "Ewe, ukuba unesifundo esishiyekileyo, siya kuba nomsindo kakhulu ngawe. La mabinzana asongela. Izisongelo ezenza abafundi bafunde ngokunyanzelwa hayi ngokuzithandela. Isoyikiso sokuba, njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, kudala uxinzelelo, ukungonwabi kunye nokudakumba ebantwaneni nakubantu abancinci.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iintsapho kunye nootitshala bayazilibala ezi zoyikiso, singafikelela kuzo ukufunda kwabafundi kuhamba ngokukuko, ngaphandle koloyiko ngaphandle koxinzelelo. Imalunga nokuxhasa abafundi nabantwana kuhambo lwabo, hayi malunga nokubeka imiqobo engakumbi ekuweni kwabo kokuqala.
Ukungxola nokuba nomsindo ngamabanga esikolweni ayisosisombululo
Kukho abazali (kunye nootitshala) abacaphuka ngabafundi nabantwana ngenxa yokuba namabanga amabi esikolweni. Kwenzekantoni? Abangxolayo nabathetha kakubi. Ngale ndlela, abafundi bayadana, bayadana, baba lusizi, kwaye babuthandabuze ubuchule babo kunye namandla abo. Ngokufanelekileyo, Baphulukana nokuzithemba kubo, ukuzithemba kwabo kuthoba kunye namandla aqinisekileyo ababenakho ngaphambili kuncipha ngokuthe ngcembe.
Ukuba abazali nootitshala bagcina unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo kunye nencoko, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nokumamela ngokukuko, abafundi kunye nabantwana baya kuziva bekhuselekile, bekhululekile, bekhululekile kwaye bengenalo ixhala. Lixesha lokuba kuxhaswe abafundi ukuba baphucule kwaye bakhuthaze umoya wabo wokuphucula. Ngokwam, ndicinga ukuba ngomsindo kunye nokukhwaza akukho nto ifezekileyo ngaphandle kokudala ukungonwabi okungadingekile kunye nokuqina kwesikolo kunye nemozulu yosapho.
Ukugxila kuphela kwinani elinye yimpazamo
Amabanga esikolo ahlala evavanya inkalo enye kunye neengqondo ezimbini nje: ubukrelekrele kunye nengqiqo yolwazi-lwezibalo kunye nolwimi. Kumaziko emfundo, imeko yeemvakalelo nezentlalontle kunye necala lobuqu labafundi kufuneka zithathelwe ingqalelo kunye nezinye iinjongo zokuqeqesha abafundi ngokupheleleyo.
Xa ndijikeleza iiforamu zemfundo okanye ndimamele iincoko ezivela kwabanye abazali, ndiphantse ndihlale ndifumana eli binzana: "kulungile, ukuba unesixhenxe kwizibalo kunye nezine kwimfundo yobugcisa, akukho nto yenzekayo." Ngale ndlela, ubeka abafundi kunye nabantwana kwingxowa ye-obsession yamabanga amangalisayo. Yintoni egqithisile, ukunika ukubaluleka kwesihloko esinye kunesinye kubonakala kum njengempazamo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abafundi nabantwana bayayazi inkxaso yabazali kunye neetitshala kwaye bayazi ukuba bangabantu kwaye ayingobalo nje bamabakala esikolo, Baya kuba nenkuthazo engakumbi yokuzabalazela ukwenza ngcono, ukuzithemba kwabo kuya kuhlala kulunge, kwaye ukuzithemba kwabo akuyi kuba lihlwempu.
Isiseko sokufunda kumabanga esikolo
"Awukhange ufunde nto ngokufumana ezine!" Ndiyabona ukuba uyiqondile yonke into kuba ufumene isibhozo! Amaxesha amaninzi kuye kwafuneka ndimamele la mabinzana. Ngokwenene, Ukufumana ishumi okanye isithoba akuqinisekisi abazali nootitshala ukuba abafundi nabantwana bafundile ukusukela ukukhumbula kunye nokuphindaphinda kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngapha koko, kukho abafundi abambalwa abathi emva kweveki bayazilibala izinto abazifundileyo.
Eyona nto ifanelekileyo iya kuba kukukhuthaza ukufunda okusebenzayo kunye okunentsingiselo kwigumbi lokufundela. Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, ukungakholelwa ukuba ngokufumana inqanaba elifanelekileyo umfundi uyiqonde yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo. Nabazali mabangakhathali kakhulu ngento abanokuyifumana kumanqaku esikolo. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba akukho ziviwo okanye amabakala avavanya ngokupheleleyo abafundi. Ke ngoko, ukuba kukho nayiphi na into encomekayo kwikhadi lengxelo, musa ukoyika okanye ucaphuke. Akufanele silibale ukuba abantwana kunye nabantu abancinci bafunda kwaye isigqi ngasinye sokufunda sahlukile kwaye sahlukile.. Kufuneka uzame ukuhlonipha loo nto.
Molo Mel, ulunge kangakanani… Ndicinga ukuba sigxile kakhulu kwiziphumo, ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo ukuba inkqubo ngokwayo sisalathiso sendlela intombazana okanye inkwenkwe eqhuba ngayo. Abantwana bethu kufuneka bonwabe kwaye baneliseke yimfundo abayinikwayo, kwaye yinkqubo yemfundo ekufuneka ilungelelaniswe neemfuno zabantwana, hayi enye indlela. Ukuba andibaboni abantwana bam bonwabile, ukuba andibaboni bekhuthazeka ... kukho into esilelayo.
Kum isiphumo samanani siyinxalenye kuphela, enyanisweni liyinxalenye encinci kakhulu, kuba ekugqibeleni ungafumana ipasi ngokwenza umndilili, okanye ufumane kwakhona (ukuba bakwinqanaba lesibini), kwaye uphinde, nangona ndiqinisekile ukuba ayiloncedo kakhulu, ayingomdlalo weqonga. Kwelinye icala, umntwana odidekileyo, okanye okhathazekileyo, okanye onobunzima obungalindelwanga ... leyo yimeko enokuba sisifo esinganyangekiyo. Ungayichazanga eyokuba ngamanye amaxesha sityhala "ngokugqwesileyo" kwaye singahoyi iimpawu zoxinzelelo, umzekelo.
Ngapha koko, ndingumama wabantwana ababini, kwaye ukuba bonwabile sisiphumo, nam ndinjalo, ukuba bayasilela, andizoluli iinwele zam okanye ndibanike umlo ... Obo bomi buhle kakhulu ukuba bungasenza bukrakra; into ekufuneka siyenzile kukuthatha icala labo.
A hug, kwaye enkosi.