Onke amakhwenkwe namantombazana aphila phantsi kwamathuba afanayo okuphila ngovuyo nangemvisiswano. Xa besiya esikolweni banelungelo elifanayo kunye nethuba lokujongana nosuku ukufunda kunye nemidlalo. Kuba kufuneka uncume kwaye wonwabe kwaye kubonakala ngathi kukho abantwana abanovelwano oluncinci lokuyihlonela. Ukuze silwe nokuxhatshazwa, siza kuchaza amanye amabinzana anokukhuthaza abantu abaninzi ukuba balwe nale ngxaki.
Yintoni ukuxhatshazwa? Eli gama lisetyenziswa ngakumbi kulwimi lwethu ukuchaza i ukuziphatha okunobundlobongela nokoyikisayo ekhoyo phakathi kwabantwana okanye abafikisayo kwinqanaba labo lesikolo. Akumnandanga ukuchaza le ndlela yokuziphatha, njengoko uqheliselo lwakhe lugxininisa kwiqela elincinci okanye kumntu omnye, apho adala uluhlu lwezenzo ezimbi, ezifana nezithuko, izisongelo zomlomo, iziteketiso ezimbi, umdlalo ongcolileyo kunye nokuhlaselwa ngokomzimba.
Akukhathaliseki nokuba mangaphi na amanyathelo onxibelelwano kunye nolwakhiwo olubekiweyo ezikolweni nakumaziko, ukuxhatshazwa kusekho. Amabinzana akhuthazayo anokunceda kakhulu, ukujamelana nalo mzuzu kwaye anike intuthuzelo kubo bonke abantwana abaphethwe yiyo.
Amabinzana ukuqonda iintsilelo zabanye abantu
- "Impatho-gadalala ibandakanya umntu onganeno kwaye onoburhalarhume obonisa ukungakwazi kwabo ukwenza umntu onobuchule obungakumbi kunye nomntu ongekho ndlongondlongo" (Akuchazwanga).
- “Abantu abazithandayo ababenzi buhlungu abanye abantu. Okukhona sizithiya, kokukhona sifuna abanye babandezeleke” (Dan Pearce).
- “Abantwana abenza ubundlobongela ezikolweni baneengxaki ezininzi kunabantu ababacaphukisayo. Bagwetyelwe ukuphila ubomi obuzaliswe bubulolo, ubuhlobo bobuxoki kunye nezigqibo eziya kubenzakalisa ebomini. Bafuna uncedo nabo. "
- "Lowo usebenzisa amandla akhe ukoyikisa abanye, akafanelanga ukubizwa ngokuba nesibindi, kuba wenza eyona nto imbi kakhulu. Ukunyanzeliswa akulinganiswa ngezenzo zobundlobongela, kodwa ngezigqibo ezithatyathiweyo ukuze zisetyenziswe ukunceda abo bangakwaziyo ukuzikhusela.
- "Ungaze wenze into engalunganga ukwenza umhlobo okanye ugcine omnye." (uRobert E. Lee)
- "Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kumadoda aneentloko eziphakathi ukuhlasela yonke into engahambelani neentloko zabo" (uAntonio Machado).
- "Abantu abangaqhelekanga kuphela ngabo bangathandi mntu."
ukuxhobisa imiyalezo
- "Akukho mntu unokukwenza uzive uphantsi ngaphandle kwemvume yakho" (Eleanor Roosevelt).
- "Guqula amava angalunganga kwizinto ezilungileyo ezikuncedayo kwaye zikwenze ukhule njengomntu."
- "Yimela ubomi bakho, ulwele ukuzimela kwakho, funa ulonwabo lwakho kwaye ufunde ukuzithanda. Ukuba abantu bazama ukukuthoba, oko kuthetha ukuba ungaphezu kwabo."
- “Ukuba uxela ityala lokuxhatshazwa, awungomcuphi, unesibindi. Ukuthula kungqwabalala kwaye kunokubulala. Sukuhlala phantsi ungenzi nto. Yaphula umthetho wokuthula. (Iñaki Zubizarreta, owayesakuba ngumdlali webhasikithi).
- “Ukoyisa ukuxhatshazwa akuzenzekeli nje. Yenziwa inyathelo ngenyathelo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo. Makube lusuku lwakho namhlanje ukuqhubela phambili." (Assunta Harris).
- "Nguye kuphela onokuthi ajike into eyoyikisayo njengokuxhaphaza kumava okuziphucula, ukuzithemba kunye nokukhula komntu."
Amabinzana okubonisa ukuxhatshazwa
- "Mhlawumbi awuyi kutshintsha ihlabathi ngokunceda umntu oxhatshazwayo, kodwa uya kutshintsha ihlabathi laloo mntu."
- "Xa ubhala ibali lobomi bakho, ungavumeli nabani na ukuba abambe ipensile."
- Nokuba awunatyala ngeengxaki zakho, unoxanduva lokuzisombulula. Cela uncedo!"
- "Ukuba umntu ukuhlasela ngenxa yokuba ungubani, yazi ukuba kukho amawaka abantu abaxabisayo ukuba uphila inyaniso yakho." (uTyler Oakley).
- "Yintoni engalunganga akulunganga, nokuba wonke umntu uyayenza."
- "Inkalipho ibonakala xa sisebancinci kunye nokunyamezela xa sibaninzi."
- "Impazamo eqhelekileyo yabaxhatshazwayo kukucinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba umntu ulungile okanye ulungile, babuthathaka. Ezo mpawu azinanto yakwenza enye kwenye. Enyanisweni, kuthatha amandla kunye nomlingiswa ukuba ube ngumntu olungileyo. " (uMary Elizabeth Williams).