Ukuba kukho into esiyinqwenela njengoomama ngabantwana bethu, kukuba bonwabe. Asikhathali nokuba bazizityebi, badumile, okanye babetha iinyawo ezintandathu kwaye banempumelelo engathethekiyo kwezentlalo kwisikolo esiphakamileyo okanye kwikholeji. Sinqwenela ngaphezu kwako konke ubafundise ngezo zinto zibalulekileyo ezibavumela ukuba bakwazi ukuzimela, nibe ngabantu abalungileyo ngomso.
Ngoku, ukuba kukho into ekufuneka siyicacisile, yile eyona mfundo inikwa ngokusoloko ungoyena mzekelo ubalaseleyoYiyo loo nto kufuneka sicingisise kakuhle ngenkqubo yexabiso lethu. Kukho ootata noomama, umzekelo, abagxininisa ebantwaneni babo ukubaluleka kokuhlonela abanye, ukanti bona ngokwabo abakwenzi oko mihla le. Kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo kule miba mincinci. kwi "Madres hoy» sikucacisela.
Imilinganiselo endifuna ukuyidlulisela kubantwana bam: ukubaluleka kokwahluka
Le yinto ekufuneka sicinge ngayo. Ngamaxesha athile, silwela ukuba abantwana bethu bafane nabanye, kuba banezinto ezifanayo, kuba bafumana ubuchule obufanayo nabanye kwaye, ngandlela thile, bawela koko kuthathelwa ingqalelo "eqhelekileyo".
Olu luvo kwinqanaba lemfundo Amaxesha amaninzi oko kuthetha ukunika ilizwe abantwana abalinganayo abacinga ngokufanayo. Okanye nangaphezulu, ukuba umntwana wethu unengxaki okanye ukusilela okuncinci, kuya kumenza angaziva edityanisiwe ngokungazithathi "elingana nabanye."
- Kufuneka sixhobise abantwana bethu ukubaluleka kokubenza bazive bonwabile nokuba bayintoni na. Siza kubanceda ukuba bafumane okuninzi kubo, kodwa sibafundise nokubaluleka kokuba "bahluke", "babodwa".
- Elinye lamaxabiso abaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka silikhuthaze ebantwaneni bethu kukucinga okunzulu. Vumela ukuba ube nezakho izimvo ayisiyiyo leyo eseleyo. Ukuba bazimele geqe xa befuna ulwazi, lokuba nolwazo uluvo malunga nezinto hayi ezo zibaphawulwa ngabanye.
- Abantwana akufuneki bacinge kwaye bamkele oko abanye abantu babaxelela kona ngoluhlobo. Bafundise ukuba baqonde ukuba banelizwi, kwaye banelungelo lokwahluka, Ukunikela ngezinto ezintsha kwihlabathi nakwiziqu zabo.
Ixabiso lomzamo
Njengoomama sinqwenela bonke abantwana bethu okuhle, kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, siya kuzabalazela ukukwenza yenza ubomi babo bube lula, sonwabile kwaye sihambelana ngokusemandleni.
Ngoku ukwenza ubomi bube lula kubo Akuchasene nokuzifundisa ukuba ukufezekisa into, kufuneka batyale iinzame zabo.
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde ngokukhawuleza ixabiso lomzamo wokuzimela, bazive beluncedo kunye nabo kwaye banako ukufezekisa oko bafuna.
Ixabiso lokuzimela, lokuba ngabanini bobomi babo
Ubomi abukho sezandleni zedinga elilawula ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla ngokusekwe kwithamsanqa okanye kwithuba. Asiyomphefumlo abanye abakhokela apha naphaya ngokuthanda. Akufanelekanga ukuba ngumntu othobekileyo okanye ilawulwa ngabanye.
Njengomama, ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho afezekise amaphupha azibekela wona. Ezo baziphawulile kwaye ziyahambelana nobuntu babo kunye namandla abo. Akukho mntu unelungelo lokuphazamisa amanyathelo akhe okanye barhoxe kwimizamo yabo.
Abantwana bethu, Kufuneka bafunde yonke imihla ukuba nelizwi labo, ukuveza into abayifunayo ngelixa uhlonipha abanye. Kancinci kancinci baya kufumana inkululeko yabo bebona oko banako ukukwenza.
Ukuba sibanika amaphiko, ukuba siyabaqinisekisa ukuba banelungelo lokulwela amaphupha abo ngomzamo kunye nethemba, siya kuba sifundisa abantu abazakufunda ukuba ngabaphathi bobomi babo.
Ixabiso lokonwabela indalo
Abantwana bethu baziindlalifa zomhlaba kwaye le planethi ifuna umgudu womntu wonke ukuqhubela phambili. Ukufundisa abantwana ngexabiso lentlonipho nothando lwendalo kutyalo-mali kwikamva.
- Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuthanda izilwanyana, ukuziqonda, ukuzihlonipha, ukuphuhlisa uvelwano olwaneleyo kuzo zonke izinto eziphilayo.
- Ikhuthaza ukhenketho lweveki ukuya ezilalini, ehlathini, elunxwemeni ... Ikuvumela ukuba ukonwabele ukubaleka, ukunyuka imithi okanye ukudlala ngamatye aziswa lulwandle ngamaza. Makanxibelelane nendalo kwaye ayithande.
- Umntwana ohloniphayo nothanda izilwanyana nendalo ngomso uya kuba ngumntu onovakalelo, ngelixa esazi ukubaluleka kokukhathalela iplanethi yethu.
Isibindi sokuzihleka, kunye nabanye
Uburharha bunceda ubomi kwaye kubonakalisa ubukrelekrele. Into elula njengokuhlekisa, okanye ukuzihleka, iphinda iphindaphinde iingxaki kwaye isincede sikhulule iingxaki ezininzi.
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakufunde oko kuhleka Yeyona ndlela ingcono yokunxibelelana phakathi kwabantu. Isinceda sinxibelelane neemvakalelo ezintle kwaye someleze amaqhina.
Ngoku, asisokuze sisebenzise ukuhleka njengendlela yokuhlasela, okanye indelelo kwabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba sicinge ngale nto, kuba ngamanye amaxesha nathi ngokwethu sinokuwela kukuphikisana xa sihlekisa ngomntu phantse singaqondanga.
Ukuba senjenjalo, asiyi kuba ngumzekelo omhle.
Ixabiso lokwenza izinto ngomdla, ngentshiseko
Kuyacetyiswa ukuba masikhulise ebantwaneni bethu ukuthanda kwabo indawo ethile. Isenokuba ngumculo, ukuzoba, iimoto, izilwanyana, iikhompyuter.
- Unomdla wobuntwana okanye umdlalo, ichonga iiprojekthi zethu zabantu abadala.
- Umntwana ofumana inkuthazo, inkuthazo kunye nomdla wakhe ovulwa imihla ngemihla, uya kufumana into ayithandayo kwaye ivuse ukuthanda kwakhe.
- Yiba nokuzonwabisa ukususela ebuntwaneni, ukumakisha iiprojekthi kunye neenjongo zemihla ngemihla zabantwana bethu. Ibavumela ukuba babe noxanduva ngakumbi, baqole ngakumbi kwaye babe nokuzikhethela.
Inyani elula yokuba nemibono apho ungachonga khona ukuba nomnqweno omnye okanye nangaphezulu yenye yexabiso elifanelekileyo esinokuthi sidlulisele kubantwana bethu.
Iya kubanceda baqonde, umzekelo, ukuba ubomi bungaphezulu kokuzibophelela, kufuneka ufunde, kufuneka wenze umsebenzi wasekhaya kwaye uthobele umama okanye utata. Into oyithandayo kukuzikhethela kunye nendlela yendalo, apho banokuba khona kwaye bazive beluncedo, bahlukile kwaye bakhethekile.
Njengoko ubona, olu luhlu lweenjongo lusisiseko kwaye lubalulekile, ziyimiba sonke esingathanda ukuyifaka kubantwana bethu. Nangona kunjalo Ungawenza njani la maxabiso abethelelwe kuwo? Sukuba nexhala, ayikuko ukuba ngumama ogqibeleleyo okanye ukufunda uninzi lweencwadana zengqondo zengqondo.
Imalunga nokubakhona ngalo lonke ixesha, ukubethelela inkxaso kunye nentembelo. Imalunga nokuba ngowona mzekelo ubalaseleyo kwaye usebenze njengoyena mshukumisi ubalaseleyo kwihlabathi: Umama owaziyo unyana wakhe kwaye omnika amandla mihla le ukuze afunde ukonwaba.