Kungcono ukunyaniseka kwaye ube nabantwana ujongane nokuphoxeka okuncinci kunokuba uxoke ukuze kamva ukudana kube kukhulu kakhulu kwaye ubudlelwane nabantwana bakho bonakele ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukuthembana sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano oluhle, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kubazali nakubantwana. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akenzi into elungileyo kwaye uxoka kuye ukuze ungalimazi iimvakalelo zakhe, udala ingxaki yexesha elide.
Ezi zezinto zaziwa ngokuba 'bubuxoki obumhlophe' obudala ukungathembani ngokuhamba kwexesha njengoko umntwana eya kuthi aziqonde izinto kwaye aqonde ukuba uxoka. Ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane kakhulu, kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho ufumanisa ukuba uxokile nokuba ibiyinyani 'emhlophe'ke ukuthembana kuya konakaliswa.
Abantwana kufuneka bafunde kuwe ukuba inyaniso mayithethwe. Ukuthembana sisiseko esibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana, ke sukuyilimaza xa unokunyaniseka kwaye unyaniseke ngamaxesha onke.
Ukunyaniseka kuhlala kuyeyona nto ilungileyo. Uya kube unika umntwana wakho ukuthembeka ngokunyaniseka kwakho naxa kufuneka uvume impazamo oyenzileyo. Ukuthetha inyani akubeki nakweyiphi na imeko yokuba sesichengeni, ngokuchaseneyo. Ukuthetha inyani kunesibindi kwaye umntwana wakho uya kufunda ukuba ukuthetha inyani kunye nokunyaniseka yinto ekumele uyenze rhoqo.
Inyaniso kukuba abantwana banokujamelana nayo nayiphi na into edanisayo ukuba bayaxhaswa ngabazali babo. Ikwasebenza ngokubuyela umva, ke ukuba abazali bahlala bexokisa abantwana, baqala ukuthandabuza nokungathembani kwezona zinto zilula, kwaye okona kubi kakhulu, abantwana baya kuba ngabantu abaxokayo. Ukunyaniseka kuya kuhlala kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokufundisa abantwana bakho.